Quit forever, or for now?

It seems like the words shouldn’t make a difference, but they do.

Do you quit drinking "forever"? or "for now"?

As a test, we compare quitting drinking to giving up cheese. Do it forever, or for now? And what happens when you frame it as ‘forever’?

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​Sober Podcast 317. ​Quit Forever, or For Now?

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say what you need … with a smile

from hollm (day 8):

“Belle, It’s hard when the doubters are your own family. My dad said “her not drinking will last about a week”. Makes me sad but also gives me the I’ll show you attitude. What a shitty thing to say. But it’s straight out of the mouth of a drinker.”

me: you can say to your dad “thanks for this. I’m not interested in your ideas unless you’re positive and supportive. if you’re going to be a shit, then i will see you less and less.” And then smile your biggest and best smile 🙂

hollm: “That’s pretty bold! But so true.”

me: i think the big smile would be the key part. and if he’s really being a shit to you, then he’s not worried about hurting your feelings. so you can be very matter of fact that you’d like cheerleading only please 🙂

hollm: “Yes obviously he isn’t worried about my feelings, so being honest with him is only fair!”

 


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this bracelet is for when your brain is worried about later. When wolfie says “you’ll never do this” you say “i’m staying here. i like being sober. i’m not going anywhere else.”

I got this message from Juliejean123: “I just wanted to check in and let you know how important my “stay here” bracelet has been for me on my sober journey. I have now been sober for 616 days!!! When I signed up for your 100 day challenge, I never thought I could make it 100 days or even 30 days for that matter. Yet, here I am at over 600! I owe a lot of this to sober treats, a lot of nights in the beginning of going to bed at 8 pm, an awesome sober penpal, and my bracelet. When I find myself feeling unsteady, uncomfortable, and just icky in my own skin I look at the bracelet on my wrist and remember to “stay here”. It reminds me to not future trip and not to look back on the past. To just simply stay here. I don’t go a day without wearing it. It has become that significant for me. A million thank you’s would not be enough 🙂 You are right, sober is better!! With love and thanks, juliejean123″ [update, she’s on day 1361 today]


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Wednesday Celebration Roundup

If we are sober penpals, then we email all the time and I keep track of your dates. Then i can celebrate you online (here) when you hit the big milestones. like these ones (haven’t done this for a while, so the list is longer than it might ordinarily be!):

Happy Day 50 to Cardinal!

Happy Day 50 to SoberAggie!

Happy Day 50 to APool!

Happy Day 50 to Mary Louise!

Happy Day 50 to MamaBear15!

Happy Day 50 to Jacci2!

Happy Day 50 to Fragile Firebird!

Happy Day 50 to Glanville!

Happy Day 50 to Sober Sparkles!

Happy Day 50 to CKelly!

Happy Day 50 to Fridgkit!

Happy Day 50 to Ducky1!

Happy Day 50 to Demelza!

Happy Day 50 to Hayley!

Happy Day 50 to Rise and Shine!

Happy Day 50 to La Sobria!

Happy Day 50 to SunshineStace!

Happy Day 50 to Little Miss M!

Happy Day 50 to Colin!

Happy Day 50 to PoorMonday!

Happy Day 50 to SoberSusie!

Happy Day 50 to NanaD!

Happy Day 50 to Alana!

Happy Day 50 to Hat Trick!

Happy Day 50 to Sweet Pea!

Happy Day 50 to Idle I!

Happy Day 100 to Alligin!

Happy Day 100 to Lu-Lu!

Happy Day 100 to Cowgirl18!

Happy Day 100 to JuneAnne!

Happy Day 100 to MissesT!

Happy Day 100 to GeorgieGirl!

Happy Day 100 to SusieQQQ!

Happy Day 100 to Luckiest Jo!

Happy Day 100 to Gabby!

Happy Day 100 to i.t.!

Happy Day 100 to AJ!

Happy Day 100 to Lottie!

Happy Day 100 to Becks!

Happy Day 100 to PeggySue!

Happy Day 100 to newme50!

Happy Day 100 to Rosylee!

Happy Day 100 to Allison!

Happy Day 100 to LVL!

Happy Day 100 to Ralph!

Happy Day 100 to Goofie Roofie!

Happy Day 100 to Trirun!

Happy Day 100 to working towards my best!

Happy Day 100 to Tina Jeanne!

Happy Day 180 to Lightningbug45

Happy Day 180 to BelayOn!

Happy Day 180 to Fly Over Girl!

Happy Day 180 to Franci!

Happy Day 180 to MoneyForTreats!

Happy Day 180 to Barbs!

Happy Day 200 to SoberNeverTheLess!

Happy Day 200 to Lee The Pea!

Happy Day 200 to Lena!

Happy Day 200 to Aleesjourney!

Happy Day 200 to Linsey!

Happy Day 200 to Veeee!

Happy Day 200 to Ohnarn!

Happy Day 200 to ShelT!

Happy Day 200 to karin!

Happy Day 200 to Jennifer 2.0!

Happy Day 200 to Da!

Happy Day 200 to Lageeg!

Happy Day 200 to Pinkclouds!

Happy Day 200 to KeysKathy!

Happy Day 300 to Jane Marie!

Happy Day 300 to Carly!

Happy Day 300 to Coffeegirl!

Happy Day 300 to AMA!

Happy Day 300 to SoberSeasideSally!

Happy Day 300 to StayingAlive!

Happy Day 300 to C-J!

Happy Day 365 to Nyawa!

Happy Day 365 to Simon’s Mom!

Happy Day 365 to MaryElizabeth!

Happy Day 400 to Lovinrunnin!

Happy Day 400 to SerenityNow!

Happy Day 400 to Lhaschnoodle!

Happy Day 400 to Unpuzzlingpatti!

Happy Day 400 to Wildflower!

Happy Day 400 to Kris!

Happy Day 400 to Emsyface!

Happy Day 400 to Sobriety Shingles!

Happy Day 400 to Jenwithoutwine!

Happy Day 400 to Evita87!

Happy Day 400 to Greenyj1!

Happy Day 400 to Jaded!

Happy Day 400 to MindfulMe!

Happy Day 400 to Ishmael!

Happy Day 500 to SG!

Happy Day 500 to Katrinka!

Happy Day 500 to Hidcote!

Happy Day 500 to Trigirl!

Happy Day 500 to Rehc!

Happy Day 500 to Sadie2015!

Happy Day 500 to JI!

Happy Day 500 to vstuart!

Happy Day 500 to RainyPNW!

Happy Day 500 to Stanley!

Happy Day 500 to Leener!

Happy Day 500 to Smokey!

Happy Day 500 to Sobe the Lion!

Happy Day 500 to Lordi!

Happy Day 500 to Ket!

Happy Day 600 to Nan!

Happy Day 600 to Flyaway!

Happy Day 600 to Dry Ace!

Happy Day 600 to Leila!

Happy Day 600 to Maggie Mo!

Happy Day 600 to lmichel!

Happy Day 600 to LinZeeLou!

Happy Day 600 to BalanceBeam!

Happy Day 600 to BirdSetFree!

Happy Day 600 to Mia!

Happy Day 600 to Apprentice Elise!

Happy Day 700 to Karebear!

Happy Day 700 to RRH!

Happy Day 700 to Myriam!

Happy Day 700 to Goldie!

Happy Day 700 to Newg!

Happy Day 700 to Leigh Ann!

Happy Day 700 to RossFSU!

Happy Day 700 to 35&changing!

Happy Day 700 to MrsWooly!

Happy Day 700 to Naturenancy!

Happy Day 700 to Kaycee!

Happy Day 700 to Blou!

Happy Day 700 to RetiringPartyGirl!

Happy Day 700 to Peewit!

Happy Day 700 to Lavender!

Happy Day 700 to Gina!

Happy Day 700 to Helen!

Happy Day 700 to Gomez!

Happy Day 700 to Mummabear!

Happy Day 800 to Lime Tree!

Happy Day 800 to Sophiestar!

Happy Day 800 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 800 to Gem64!

Happy Day 800 to Bruna!

Happy Day 800 to Princess Buttercup!

Happy Day 800 to SueW!

Happy Day 800 to Roadtosoberville!

Happy Day 800 to Lacie!

Happy Day 800 to KiKi71!

Happy Day 800 to Honey Bear!

Happy Day 800 to Resiliensea!

Happy Day 800 to ture.d.true!

Happy Day 800 to becca1978!

Happy Day 800 to Blondie!

Happy Day 800 to Jamie-Tampa!

Happy Day 800 to Capt. Unwined!

Happy Day 800 to Tiger2017!

Happy Day 800 to Honoring Grace!

Happy Day 800 to Bozzy Betty!

Happy Day 800 to A_Sober_Cannibal!

Happy Day 800 to Shannon A!

Happy Day 800 to Sisty!

Happy Day 800 to Sohocat!

Happy Day 800 to Grace 514!

Happy Day 800 to Indy!

Happy Day 800 to Pwhims!

Happy Day 900 to Jena14!

Happy Day 900 to Gene!

Happy Day 900 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 900 to RubyHarper!

Happy Day 900 to Poppy!

Happy Day 900 to Ruby!

Happy Day 900 to Holly!

Happy Day 900 to Reg!

Happy Day 900 to Bemmygirl!

Happy Day 900 to BattleMatt!

Happy Day 900 to *Maverick!

Happy Day 900 to April!

Happy Day 900 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 900 to unduped!

Happy Day 900 to Tsilver!

Happy Day 900 to vmd free!

Happy Day 900 to Lippy!

Happy Day 900 to Teirrazul!

Happy Day 900 to Nomobsing!

Happy Day 900 to JT Weir!

Happy Day 900 to Edi!

Happy Day 1000 to Dry Ginger!

Happy Day 1000 to Miss Kell!

Happy Day 1000 to Reenie!

Happy Day 1000 to Imara!

Happy Day 1000 to Conn!

Happy Day 1000 to KatieMay!

Happy Day 1000 to Clearlee!

Happy Day 1000 to Patten!

Happy Day 1000 to KT Web!

Happy Day 1100 to Auds!

Happy Day 1100 to KaffyB!

Happy Day 1100 to Debbie!

Happy Day 1100 to KLC!

Happy Day 1100 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 1100 to Lanza!

Happy Day 1100 to Chell!

Happy Day 1100 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 1100 to Franny!

Happy Day 1100 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 1100 to TJ!

Happy Day 1100 to SoberinMtl!

Happy Day 1100 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 1100 to Binlkes!

Happy Day 1100 to Elis!

Happy Day 1100 to Lydster!

Happy Day 1100 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 1100 to Fern!

Happy Day 1100 to Coco!

Happy Day 1100 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 1100 to Suzie Jay!

Happy Day 1100 to Sarah Bee!

Happy Day 1100 to NS Runner!

Happy Day 1200 to ChellyBelly!

Happy Day 1200 to KAB!

Happy Day 1200 to Hughie!

Happy Day 1200 to JP!

Happy Day 1200 to Thirsty Iris!

Happy Day 1200 to Gypsygirl!

Happy Day 1200 to Tree!

Happy Day 1200 to Lucia!

Happy Day 1200 to Juliejean123!

Happy Day 1200 to Ami!

Happy Day 1200 to Sooz!

Happy Day 1200 to EMJ001!

Happy Day 1200 to Lavenderzone!

Happy Day 1200 to Linley!

Happy Day 1300 to Cal!

Happy Day 1300 to Gordon!

Happy Day 1300 to Unwinedgal!

Happy Day 1300 to Meraki!

Happy Day 1300 to Heya Monster!

Happy Day 1300 to Shorttermnoterm!

Happy Day 1300 to AnnieB!

Happy Day 1300 to Whitbell25!

Happy Day 1300 to Ginette!

Happy Day 1300 to Lilac!

Happy Day 1300 to ElizabethDC!

Happy Day 1300 to Silver Birch!

Happy Day 1300 to Mil!

Happy Day 1300 to Seekingpeack!

Happy Day 1300 to Yoda!

Happy Day 1300 to VTgirl!

Happy Day 1400 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 1400 to Jenuhful!

Happy Day 1400 to Cheaton!

Happy Day 1400 to TK!

Happy Day 1400 to Julie-Joy’s Sister!

Happy Day 1400 to Faye858!

Happy Day 1400 to me-fixing-me!

Happy Day 1400 to mythreesons!

Happy Day 1400 to Honner!

Happy Day 1400 to Gingerade!

Happy Day 1400 to Sophiesomething!

Happy Day 1400 to Jock!

Happy Day 1400 to Sea Turtle!

Happy Day 1500 to LJ63!

Happy Day 1500 to Sean!

Happy Day 1500 to Indian Lake!

Happy Day 1500 to Mel P!

Happy Day 1500 to Solstice Guy!

Happy Day 1500 to Summer Walking!

Happy Day 1500 to Turcotte!

Happy Day 1500 to Jennetic!

Happy Day 1500 to southern magnolia 1013!

Happy Day 1500 to Maureen!

Happy Day 1500 to Library Girl!

Happy Day 1500 to Joannie!

Happy Day 1500 to Chace!

Happy Day 1500 to Junebug!

Happy Day 1500 to Frenchie!

Happy Day 1600 to Canadian Girl!

Happy Day 1600 to Festie!

Happy Day 1600 to Graceb!

Happy Day 1600 to paris!

Happy Day 1600 to Shout444!

Happy Day 1600 to Midwestveggie!

Happy Day 1600 to Rah!

Happy Day 1600 to RoseMarie!

Happy Day 1600 to Janna!

Happy Day 1600 to Jacqui!

Happy Day 1600 to Kelz!

Happy Day 1600 to Petnuia!

Happy Day 1600 to Dancing Rabbit!

Happy Day 1600 to microlady!

Happy Day 1600 to AlexP!

Happy Day 1600 to Chefstarr!

Happy Day 1600 to Monique!

Happy Day 1600 to iphonebonie!

Happy Day 1600 to Chachi!

Happy Day 1600 to Nomorepinot!

Happy Day 1600 to Fleur!

Happy Day 1600 to Chatsworth!

Happy Day 1600 to Cricket!

Happy Day 1600 to Shar!

Happy Day 1600 to Kenney!

Happy Day 1700 to Lara!

Happy Day 1700 to Sharlotte!

Happy Day 1700 to Sanfransober!

Happy Day 1700 to CassieB!

Happy Day 1700 to Roisin!

Happy Day 1700 to Shelby!

Happy Day 1700 to Weenie!

Happy Day 1700 to 1111!

Happy Day 1700 to Manda!

Happy Day 1700 to Sober Lemon!

Happy Day 1700 to PP!

Happy Day 1700 to Foxie!

Happy Day 1700 to Battersea Park!

Happy Day 1700 to Welles!

Happy Day 1700 to Gra!

Happy Day 1700 to SusieQ!

Happy Day 1700 to IrishDee!

Happy Day 1700 to GW!

Happy Day 1700 to JustHadToHaveIt!

Happy Day 1700 to Apprentice Annie!

Happy Day 1700 to Parisienne Knitter!

Happy Day 1700 to Run Dontwine!

Happy Day 1800 to Otherjosh!

Happy Day 1800 to RunnerMom!

Happy Day 1800 to Julie-Joy’s Dad!

Happy Day 1800 to Jessi!

Happy Day 1800 to Heike!

Happy Day 1800 to Isabel!

Happy Day 1800 to DayBird!

Happy Day 1800 to Connie!

Happy Day 1800 to Hank!

Happy Day 1800 to Emery!

Happy Day 1800 to Going2pieces!

Happy Day 1800 to Apprentice SoberP!

Happy Day 1800 to Deen!

Happy Day 1800 to Moore!

Happy Day 1800 to abwalsh!

Happy Day 1800 to Crispy!

Happy Day 1800 to Rose!

Happy Day 1800 to Santa Cruz!

Happy Day 1800 to Telling TheWords!

Happy Day 1800 to Sherri!

Happy Day 1800 to Lurking with Intent!

Happy Day 1800 to Lizzy!

Happy Day 1800 to OneDayAtATime!

Happy Day 1800 to KateF!

Happy Day 1800 to Wanting to be a Sober Mom!

Happy Day 1800 to Tammi!

Happy Day 1900 to Shell Bell!

Happy Day 1900 to RM!

Happy Day 1900 to Nuchter Maya!

Happy Day 1900 to TheFun4!

Happy Day 1900 to Terence!

Happy Day 1900 to Clear Eyed Girl!

Happy Day 1900 to Hazeleyes!

Happy Day 1900 to Tim!

Happy Day 1900 to Primrose!

Happy Day 1900 to Sadie!

Happy Day 1900 to SignGurl!

Happy Day 1900 to Jilly Bean!

Happy Day 1900 to Mylene!

Happy Day 1900 to Jeroen!

Happy Day 1900 to Lucy!

Happy Day 2000 to Pam!

Happy Day 2000 to Sharon!

Happy Day 2000 to LD!

Happy Day 2000 to Laurie!

Happy Day 2000 to Durf11!

Happy Day 2000 to Kristi Coulter!

Happy Day 2000 to Sarita!

Happy Day 2000 to Ingrid!

Happy Day 2100 to Original Beth!

Happy Day 2100 to Leah!

Happy Day 2100 to JM!

Happy Day 2418 to me!

Thursday Celebration Roundup

If we are sober penpals, then we email all the time and I keep track of your dates. Then i can celebrate you online (here) when you hit the big milestones. like these ones:

Happy Day 50 to Bobby!

Happy Day 50 to PeggySue!

Happy Day 50 to newme50!

Happy Day 50 to MintTea!

Happy Day 50 to Rosylee!

Happy Day 50 to Allison!

Happy Day 50 to Lotus Lady!

Happy Day 50 to Weezie!

Happy Day 50 to LVL!

Happy Day 50 to Zachtara!

Happy Day 50 to Ralph!

Happy Day 50 to Goofie Roofit!

Happy Day 50 to wave-sprit!

Happy Day 50 to SoberHager!

Happy Day 50 to Trirun!

Happy Day 50 to SeeLizSkip!

Happy Day 50 to working towards my best!

Happy Day 50 to SoberAggie!

Happy Day 50 to Tina Jeanne!

Happy Day 50 to Dalai mama!

Happy Day 100 to Brissie!

Happy Day 100 to Chum!

Happy Day 100 to HappierSober!

Happy Day 100 to BelayOn!

Happy Day 100 to Sargent!

Happy Day 100 to Fly Over Girl!

Happy Day 100 to Edison!

Happy Day 100 to Francine!

Happy Day 100 to MoneyForTreats!

Happy Day 100 to Nayana!

Happy Day 100 to eehd!

Happy Day 100 to Miranda!

Happy Day 100 to Barbs!

Happy Day 100 to Ashley!

Happy Day 100 to Daffodil Princess!

Happy Day 100 to Andpops!

Happy Day 100 to Lee the Pea!

Happy Day 180 to Jennifer 2.0!

Happy Day 180 to Elle K!

Happy Day 180 to Da (Fatgit)!

Happy Day 180 to Janey!

Happy Day 180 to pinkclouds!

Happy Day 180 to Mary Louise!

Happy Day 180 to KeysKathy!

Happy Day 180 to MinaminB!

Happy Day 200 to Flyfishingdude!

Happy Day 200 to Carly!

Happy Day 200 to Timely!

Happy Day 200 to Wilder!

Happy Day 200 to Versa!

Happy Day 200 to Moi!

Happy Day 200 to Suzabelle!

Happy Day 200 to Jane Marie!

Happy Day 300 to Simon’s Mom!

Happy Day 300 to MaryElizabeth!

Happy Day 300 to lovinrunnin!

Happy Day 300 to SerenityNow!

Happy Day 300 to AM!

Happy Day 300 to Lhaschnoodle!

Happy Day 300 to unpuzzlingpatti!

Happy Day 300 to wildflower!

Happy Day 365 to Jaded!

Happy Day 365 to MindfulMe!

Happy Day 365 to Ishmael!

Happy Day 400 to Lex!

Happy Day 400 Sauvignon Sober!

Happy Day 400 Shel!

Happy Day 400 mamabird!

Happy Day 400 ECP!

Happy Day 400 SG!

Happy Day 400 Katrinka!

Happy Day 500 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 500 to mlodius!

Happy Day 500 to Frog!

Happy Day 500 to Bug June!

Happy Day 500 to MiMoMa!

Happy Day 500 to Lars!

Happy Day 500 to Nan!

Happy Day 500 to Flyaway!

Happy Day 500 to Dry Ace!

Happy Day 600 to Auntiemame!

Happy Day 600 to Renne in Rochester!

Happy Day 600 to Karebear!

Happy Day 600 to RRH!

Happy Day 600 to Myriam!

Happy Day 700 to Loz!

Happy Day 700 to Jaylee!

Happy Day 700 to MrsRoberts!

Happy Day 700 to Lizzytish!

Happy Day 700 to Peaceable J!

Happy Day 700 to Mindful Monica!

Happy Day 700 to Lime Tree!

Happy Day 700 to Sophiestar!

Happy Day 700 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 800 to Rachel E!

Happy Day 800 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 800 to Inspired!

Happy Day 800 to Calypso!

Happy Day 800 to Allie!

Happy Day 800 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 800 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 800 to Meadowmuffins!

Happy Day 800 to Jeans!

Happy Day 800 to Sallyd!

Happy Day 800 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 800 to Jena14!

Happy Day 800 to Gene!

Happy Day 800 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 900 to Leftcoastgirl!

Happy Day 1000 to CaseyM!

Happy Day 1000 to Surfrider11!

Happy Day 1000 to Runnergirl!

Happy Day 1000 to Auds!

Happy Day 1000 to KaffB!

Happy Day 1000 to Debbie!

Happy Day 1100 to Case Study Michelle!

Happy Day 1100 to Truleah!

Happy Day 1100 to Phoenix!

Happy Day 1100 to ChellyBelly!

Happy Day 1100 to KAB!

Happy Day 1200 to Linley!

Happy Day 1300 to MJP!

Happy Day 1300 to Inky!

Happy Day 1300 to Graceful!

Happy Day 1300 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 1400 to Miss M!

Happy Day 1400 to Coffecuphead!

Happy Day 1400 to KitKatPaddywack!

Happy Day 1400 to 1035!

Happy Day 1400 to Jayda!

Happy Day 1400 to Frankie!

Happy Day 1400 to LJ63!

Happy Day 1400 to Sean!

Happy Day 1400 to Indian Lake!

Happy Day 1500 to Gabbygirl37!

Happy Day 1500 to TheMadnessStopsNow!

Happy Day 1500 to Elly!

Happy Day 1500 to 19Cathleen!

Happy Day 1500 to Rexytime!

Happy Day 1500 to Cocomac!

Happy Day 1500 to NewChris!

Happy Day 1500 to Jas!

Happy Day 1500 to Canadian Girl!

Happy Day 1500 to Festie!

Happy Day 1600 to Artsmommy!

Happy Day 1600 to paulita!

Happy Day 1600 to Ish!

Happy Day 1600 to Lara!

Happy Day 1700 to IrishGirl!

Happy Day 1700 to Janett!

Happy Day 1700 to tlecompte!

Happy Day 1700 to hcasstevens!

Happy Day 1700 to Otherjosh!

Happy Day 1700 to RunnerMom!

Happy Day 1800 to RM!

Happy Day 1800 to Janet!

Happy Day 1800 to Denise!

Happy Day 1900 to Catherine Gray!

Happy Day 1900 to DianeLouise!

Happy Day 2000 to Original Beth!

Happy Day 2000 to Leah!

Thursday Celebration Roundup

If we are sober penpals, then we email all the time and I keep track of your dates. Then i can celebrate you online (here) when you hit the big milestones. like these ones:

Happy Day 50 to Junie B!

Happy Day 50 to Cowboy!

Happy Day 50 to Small Town Moon!

Happy Day 100 to Glanville!

Happy Day 100 to Sobersusie!

Happy Day 100 to Lena!

Happy Day 100 to Sparky!

Happy Day 100 to Granite Angel!

Happy Day 100 to JenJen!

Happy Day 180 to Versa!

Happy Day 180 to Moi!

Happy Day 180 to Suzabelle!

Happy Day 200 to A Free Willow!

Happy Day 300 to Emsyface!

Happy Day 300 to Sobriety Shingles!

Happy Day 300 to Jenwithoutwine!

Happy Day 365 to Lex!

Happy Day 600 to Goldie!

Happy Day 700 to Gem64!

Happy Day 700 to Bruna!

Happy Day 800 to Ruby Harper!

Happy Day 800 to Poppy!

Happy Day 1000 to KLC!

Happy Day 1000 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 1200 to Cal!

Happy Day 1300 to Jenuhful!

Happy Day 1300 to Cheaton!

Happy Day 1400 to Mel P!

Happy Day 1400 to Solstice Guy!

Happy Day 1500 to Graceb!

Happy Day 1600 to Sharlotte!

Happy Day 1600 to Sanfransober!

Happy Day 1600 to Sarah72!

Happy Day 1700 to Julie-Joy’s Dad!

Happy Day 1800 to TheFun4!

Happy Day 1800 to Terence!

Happy Day 1800 to Clear Eyed Girl!

Happy Day 1800 to Hazeleyes!

Happy Day 1800 to Case Study Tim!

Happy Day 1900 to Pam!

Wednesday Celebration Roundup

(i haven’t posted a roundup since July, so this list is longer than usual).

If we are sober penpals, then we email all the time and I keep track of your dates. Then i can celebrate you online (here) when you hit the big milestones. like these ones:

Happy Day 50 to JasJet

Happy Day 50 to Sandal!

Happy Day 50 to Sober Julie Mtl!

Happy Day 50 to CarolynW!

Happy Day 50 to Buttercup244!

Happy Day 50 to Brissie!

Happy Day 50 to Chum!

Happy Day 50 to Happiersober!

Happy Day 50 to drinkdodger!

Happy Day 50 to LightningBug45!

Happy Day 50 to BelayOn!

Happy Day 50 to Sargeant!

Happy Day 50 to Fly Over Girl!

Happy Day 50 to Flora!

Happy Day 50 to NMD!

Happy Day 50 to Edison!

Happy Day 50 to Franci!

Happy Day 50 to Moneyfortreats!

Happy Day 50 to Nayana!

Happy Day 50 to Miranda!

Happy Day 50 to Barbs!

Happy Day 50 to Daffodil Princess!

Happy Day 50 to Andpops!

Happy Day 50 to SoberNevertheless!

Happy Day 50 to Lee the Pea!

Happy Day 50 to Glanville!

Happy Day 50 to Sobersusie!

Happy Day 50 to Lena!

Happy Day 50 to Sparky!

Happy Day 50 to Granite Angel!

Happy Day 50 to JenJen!

Happy Day 100 to Aleesjourney!

Happy Day 100 to Veeee!

Happy Day 100 to Pilates Queenie!

Happy Day 100 to Miss Nelson!

Happy Day 100 to Ohnarn!

Happy Day 100 to Nell!

Happy Day 100 to SterlingGhost!

Happy Day 100 to Amazon Sister!

Happy Day 100 to ShelT!

Happy Day 100 to Bayleaf!

Happy Day 100 to Peppercorn!

Happy Day 100 to karin!

Happy Day 100 to Blackbird!

Happy Day 100 to Lheras!

Happy Day 100 to Jennifer 2.0!

Happy Day 100 to Da!

Happy Day 100 to lageeg!

Happy Day 100 to Janey!

Happy Day 100 to pinkclouds!

Happy Day 100 to Marie Louise!

Happy Day 100 to KeysKathy!

Happy Day 100 to Terry Kate!

Happy Day 100 to Flyfishingdude!

Happy Day 100 to Timely!

Happy Day 100 to Wilder!

Happy Day 100 to Versa!

Happy Day 100 to Moi!

Happy Day 100 to Suzabelle!

Happy Day 180 to Jane Marie!

Happy Day 180 to Carly!

Happy Day 180 to A Free Willow!

Happy Day 200 to Coffeegirl!

Happy Day 200 to AMA!

Happy Day 200 to Lotus!

Happy Day 200 to SoberSeasideSally!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to Twisty!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to KeyLes!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to C-J!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to Jacci2!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to Simon’s Mom!

Happy Day 300 to Mary Elizabeth!

Happy Day 300 to Lovinrunning!

Happy Day 300 to Serenity Now!

Happy Day 300 to Evita87!

Happy Day 300 to Greenyj1!

Happy Day 300 to Jaded!

Happy Day 300 to MindfulMe!

Happy Day 300 to Ishmael!

Happy Day 300 to Lex!

Happy Day 300 to Kay!

Happy Day 300 to Shel!

Happy Day 300 to Mamabird!

Happy Day 300 to ECP!

Happy Day 300 to SG!

Happy Day 300 to Katrinka!

Happy Day 300 to Hidcote!

Happy Day 365 to Kay!

Happy Day 365 to Shel!

Happy Day 365 to Mamabird!

Happy Day 365 to ECP!

Happy Day 365 to SG!

Happy Day 365 to Katrinka!

Happy Day 365 to Hidcote!

Happy Day 400 to Trigirl!

Happy Day 400 to Rehc!

Happy Day 400 to Sadie2015!

Happy Day 400 to JI!

Happy Day 400 to vstuart!

Happy Day 400 to RainyPNW!

Happy Day 400 to Stanley!

Happy Day 400 to Leener!

Happy Day 400 to Smokey!

Happy Day 400 to Sobe the Lion!

Happy Day 400 to Lordi!

Happy Day 400 to Ket!

Happy Day 400 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 400 to Mlodius!

Happy Day 400 to Frog!

Happy Day 400 to Bug June!

Happy Day 400 to MiMoMa!

Happy Day 400 to Lars!

Happy Day 400 to Nan!

Happy Day 400 to Flyaway!

Happy Day 500 to Leila!

Happy Day 500 to Maggie Mo!

Happy Day 500 to lmichel!

Happy Day 500 to LinZeeLou!

Happy Day 500 to BalanceBeam!

Happy Day 500 to BirdSetFree!

Happy Day 500 to Mia!

Happy Day 500 to Sobriety Unlocked!

Happy Day 500 to AuntieMame!

Happy Day 500 to Renne in Rochester!

Happy Day 600 to Newg!

Happy Day 600 to Leigh Ann!

Happy Day 600 to RossFSU!

Happy Day 600 to 35&changing!

Happy Day 600 to SoberSparkles!

Happy Day 600 to MrsWooly!

Happy Day 600 to NatureNancy!

Happy Day 600 to Kaycee!

Happy Day 600 to Blou!

Happy Day 600 to RetiringPartyGirl

Happy Day 600 to Peewit!

Happy Day 600 to Lavender!

Happy Day 600 to Gina!

Happy Day 600 to Helen!

Happy Day 600 to Gomez!

Happy Day 600 to Mummabear!

Happy Day 600 to Loz!

Happy Day 600 to jaylee!

Happy Day 600 to MrsRoberts!

Happy Day 600 to Lizzytish!

Happy Day 600 to Peaceable J!

Happy Day 600 to Mindful Monica!

Happy Day 700 to Princess Buttercup!

Happy Day 700 to SueW!

Happy Day 700 to Roadtosoberville!

Happy Day 700 to Lacie!

Happy Day 700 to KiKi71!

Happy Day 700 to Honey Bear!

Happy Day 700 to Resiliensea!

Happy Day 700 to true.d.true!

Happy Day 700 to Becca1978!

Happy Day 700 to Blondie!

Happy Day 700 to Jamie-Tampa!

Happy Day 700 to Capt. Unwined!

Happy Day 700 to Tiger2018!

Happy Day 700 to Honoring Grace!

Happy Day 700 to Boozy Betty!

Happy Day 700 to A_Sober_Cannibal!

Happy Day 700 to Shannon A!

Happy Day 700 to Sisty!

Happy Day 700 to SohoCat!

Happy Day 700 to Ashley!

Happy Day 700 to Gracie514!

Happy Day 700 to Indy!

Happy Day 700 to Pwhims!

Happy Day 700 to Rachel E!

Happy Day 700 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 700 to Inspired!

Happy Day 700 to Calypso!

Happy Day 700 to Allie!

Happy Day 700 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 700 to Liz!

Happy Day 700 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 700 to Meadowmuffins!

Happy Day 700 to Jeans!

Happy Day 700 to Sallyd!

Happy Day 700 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 700 to Jena14!

Happy Day 800 to Ruby!

Happy Day 800 to Hollm!

Happy Day 800 to Reg!

Happy Day 800 to Bemmy Girl!

Happy Day 800 to BattleMatt!

Happy Day 800 to *Maverick!

Happy Day 800 to April!

Happy Day 800 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 800 to unduped!

Happy Day 800 to Tsilver!

Happy Day 800 to vmd free!

Happy Day 800 to Lippy!

Happy Day 800 to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 800 to Nomobsing!

Happy Day 800 to Hollykate!

Happy Day 800 to JT Weir!

Happy Day 800 to Edi!

Happy Day 800 to Leftcoastgirl!

Happy Day 800 to Dry Ginger!

Happy Day 900 to Miss Kell!

Happy Day 900 to Reenie!

Happy Day 900 to Imara!

Happy Day 900 to Conn!

Happy Day 900 to KatieMay!

Happy Day 900 to Clearlee!

Happy Day 900 to Patten!

Happy Day 900 to KT Web!

Happy Day 900 to CaseyM!

Happy Day 900 to Surfrider11!

Happy Day 900 to Runnergirl!

Happy Day 1000 to Lanza!

Happy Day 1000 to Chell!

Happy Day 1000 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 1000 to Franny!

Happy Day 1000 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 1000 to TJ!

Happy Day 1000 to SoberInMtl!

Happy Day 1000 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 1000 to Binkles!

Happy Day 1000 to Elis!

Happy Day 1000 to Lydster!

Happy Day 1000 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 1000 to Fern!

Happy Day 1000 to Coco!

Happy Day 1000 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 1000 to Suzie Jay!

Happy Day 1000 to SarahBee!

Happy Day 1000 to NS Runner!

Happy Day 1000 to Case Study Michelle!

Happy Day 1000 to Truleah!

Happy Day 1000 to Pohenix!

Happy Day 1000 to ChellyBelly!

Happy Day 1000 to KAB!

Happy Day 1000 to Hughie!

Happy Day 1100 to JP!

Happy Day 1100 to Thirsty Iris!

Happy Day 1100 to Gypsygirl!

Happy Day 1100 to Tree!

Happy Day 1100 to Lucia!

Happy Day 1100 to Juliejean123!

Happy Day 1100 to Ami!

Happy Day 1100 to Sooz!

Happy Day 1100 to EMJ001!

Happy Day 1100 to Lavenderzone!

Happy Day 1100 to Linley!

Happy Day 1100 to Cal!

Happy Day 1200 to Gordon!

Happy Day 1200 to Unwinedgal!

Happy Day 1200 to Meraki!

Happy Day 1200 to Heya Monster!

Happy Day 1200 to Shorttermnoterm!

Happy Day 1200 to AnnieB!

Happy Day 1200 to Whitbell25!

Happy Day 1200 to Ginette!

Happy Day 1200 to Lilac!

Happy Day 1200 to ElizabethDC!

Happy Day 1200 to Silver Birch!

Happy Day 1200 to Mil!

Happy Day 1200 to Seekingpeace!

Happy Day 1200 to Yoda!

Happy Day 1200 to VTgirl!

Happy Day 1200 to MJP!

Happy Day 1200 to Inky!

Happy Day 1200 to Graceful!

Happy Day 1300 to TK!

Happy Day 1300 to Julie-Joy’s Sister!

Happy Day 1300 to Faye858!

Happy Day 1300 to me-fixing-me!

Happy Day 1300 to mythreesons!

Happy Day 1300 to Honner!

Happy Day 1300 to gingerade!

Happy Day 1300 to SophieSomething!

Happy Day 1300 to Jock!

Happy Day 1300 to Sea Turtle!

Happy Day 1300 to Miss M!

Happy Day 1300 to Coffeecuphead!

Happy Day 1300 to Kitkatpaddywack!

Happy Day 1300 to 1035!

Happy Day 1300 to Jayda!

Happy Day 1300 to Frankie!

Happy Day 1300 to LJ63!

Happy Day 1400 to Summer Walking!

Happy Day 1400 to Turcotte!

Happy Day 1400 to Jennetic!

Happy Day 1400 to Souther Magnolia1013!

Happy Day 1400 to Maureen!

Happy Day 1400 to Library Girl!

Happy Day 1400 to Joannie!

Happy Day 1400 to Chace!

Happy Day 1400 to Junebug!

Happy Day 1400 to Frenchie!

Happy Day 1400 to Gabbygirl37!

Happy Day 1400 to TheMadnessStopsNow!

Happy Day 1400 to Elly!

Happy Day 1400 to 19Cathleen!

Happy Day 1400 to rexytime!

Happy Day 1400 to cocomac!

Happy Day 1400 to NewChris!

Happy Day 1400 to Jas!

Happy Day 1500 to Paris!

Happy Day 1500 to Shout444!

Happy Day 1500 to Midwestveggie!

Happy Day 1500 to Rah!

Happy Day 1500 to RoseMarie!

Happy Day 1500 to Janna!

Happy Day 1500 to Jacqui!

Happy Day 1500 to Kelz!

Happy Day 1500 to Petunia!

Happy Day 1500 to Dancing Rabbit!

Happy Day 1500 to Microlady!

Happy Day 1500 to AlexP!

Happy Day 1500 to Chefstarr!

Happy Day 1500 to Monique!

Happy Day 1500 to iphonebonnie!

Happy Day 1500 to chachi!

Happy Day 1500 to nomorepinot!

Happy Day 1500 to fleur!

Happy Day 1500 to chatsworth!

Happy Day 1500 to cricket!

Happy Day 1500 to shar!

Happy Day 1500 to kenney!

Happy Day 1500 to paulita!

Happy Day 1500 to artsmommy!

Happy Day 1500 to ish!

Happy Day 1500 to meagan!

Happy Day 1600 to CassieB!

Happy Day 1600 to Roisin!

Happy Day 1600 to Shelby!

Happy Day 1600 to Weenie!

Happy Day 1600 to 1111!

Happy Day 1600 to Manda!

Happy Day 1600 to Sober lemon!

Happy Day 1600 to PP!

Happy Day 1600 to Foxie!

Happy Day 1600 to Battersea Park!

Happy Day 1600 to Welles!

Happy Day 1600 to Gra!

Happy Day 1600 to SusieQ!

Happy Day 1600 to IrishDee!

Happy Day 1600 to GW!

Happy Day 1600 to JustHadToHaveIt!

Happy Day 1600 to Annie!

Happy Day 1600 to Parsienne Knitter!

Happy Day 1600 to Run Dontwine!

Happy Day 1600 to IrishGirl!

Happy Day 1600 to Janett!

Happy Day 1600 to tlecompte!

Happy Day 1600 to hcassstevens!

Happy Day 1600 to otherjosh!

Happy Day 1700 to Isabel!

Happy Day 1700 to Daybird!

Happy Day 1700 to Connie!

Happy Day 1700 to Hank!

Happy Day 1700 to Emery!

Happy Day 1700 to Going2pieces!

Happy Day 1700 to SoberP!

Happy Day 1700 to DeeN!

Happy Day 1700 to Moore!

Happy Day 1700 to abwalsh!

Happy Day 1700 to Crispy!

Happy Day 1700 to Kimf!

Happy Day 1700 to Rose!

Happy Day 1700 to Santa Cruz!

Happy Day 1700 to Telling TheWords!

Happy Day 1700 to Sherri!

Happy Day 1700 to Lurking with Intent!

Happy Day 1700 to Lizzy!

Happy Day 1700 to OneDayAtATime!

Happy Day 1700 to KateF!

Happy Day 1700 to Wanting to be a sober mom!

Happy Day 1700 to Tammi!

Happy Day 1700 to Shell Bell!

Happy Day 1700 to RM!

Happy Day 1800 to Primrose!

Happy Day 1800 to Sadie!

Happy Day 1800 to SignGurl!

Happy Day 1800 to Jilly Bean!

Happy Day 1800 to Mylene!

Happy Day 1800 to Jeroen!

Happy Day 1800 to Lucy!

Happy Day 1800 to Catherine Gray (day 1859 today)!

Happy Day 1800 to DianeLouise!

Happy Day 1800 to Pam!

Happy Day 1900 to Sharon!

Happy Day 1900 to LD!

Happy Day 1900 to Laurie!

Happy Day 1900 to Durf11!

Kristi Coulter (day 1944 today)!

Happy Day 1900 to Sarita!

Happy Day 1900 to Ingrid!

Happy Day 1900 to Original Beth!

Happy Day 1900 to Leah!

Happy Day 2000 to JM!

Happy Day 2000 to Digs!

Happy Day 2000 to Carrie!

Happy Day 2000 to Amy!

Happy Day 2300 to me today!

Wednesday Celebration Roundup

If we are sober penpals, then we email all the time and I keep track of your dates. Then i can celebrate you online (here) when you hit the big milestones. like these ones:

Happy Day 50 to Lheras!

Happy Day 50 to Scrappy!

Happy Day 50 to Wave-Spirit!

Happy Day 50 to Jennifer 2.0!

Happy Day 50 to Hat Trick!

Happy Day 50 to Da!

Happy Day 50 to Allison!

Happy Day 100 to Jane Marie!

Happy Day 100 to Reenster!

Happy Day 100 to Carly!

Happy Day 100 to Alligen!

Happy Day 180 to Mary Elizabeth!

Happy Day 200 to SerenityNow!

Happy Day 200 to Ana Maria!

Happy Day 200 to Prissy!

Happy Day 200 to Lhaschnoodle!

Happy Day 200 to Happy Day 200 to unpuzzlingpatti!

Happy Day 200 to wildflower!

Happy Day 200 to emsyface!

Happy Day 200 to jenwithoutwine!

Happy Day 400 to Dry Ace!

Happy Day 400 to Leila!

Happy Day 500 to Karebear!

Happy Day 500 to RRH!

Happy Day 500 to Goldie!

Happy Day 600 to Lime Tree!

Happy Day 600 to Sophiestar!

Happy Day 600 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 700 to Gene!

Happy Day 700 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 700 to TJS!

Happy Day 700 to RubyHarper!

Happy Day 700 to Poppy!

Happy Day 900 to Auds!

Happy Day 900 to Kaffy B!

Happy Day 900 to Debbie!

Happy Day 900 to KLC!

Happy Day 900 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 1000 to Hughie!

Happy Day 1200 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 1200 to Jenuful!

Happy Day 1300 to Sean!

Happy Day 1300 to Indian Lake!

Happy Day 1300 to Mel P!

Happy Day 1400 to Canadian Girl!

Happy Day 1400 to Festie!

Happy Day 1400 to Graceb!

Happy Day 1500 to Sanfransober!

Happy Day 1500 to Lara!

Happy Day 1600 to RunnerMom!

Happy Day 1700 to Janet!

Happy Day 1700 to Denise!

protect that shit

from AnnaD (day 86):

“Heavy drinking is like time travel. Each year of drinking is five years of actual life. It’s why relapses are time-sucking vortices, into which whole decades can be devoured like so many Cool Ranch Doritos. This makes falling off the wagon a much longer trip than the cute aphorism suggests. The wagon is much higher up off the ground than you’d think — if you dismount, you will fall a long, long time before you hit even a high bottom. Claw your way back on. It’s worth it. Because, like quitting smoking, almost everything is easier than the first part of quitting. Once you’ve done it, protect that shit like it’s sacred, because it fucking is.”

 

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​Alcohol is addictive, liquid poo (AUDIO)

Drinking is like pouring liquid shit into your life. It flows over everything. It affects every aspect of your life.

And to make things worse? This liquid poo (alcohol) is addictive. If you consume some liquid poo, it makes you want MORE of it.

If that doesn’t sound like a nightmare, then I don’t know what does.

This audio was originally sent out in June 2018 to podcast subscribers.

I am going to make this full audio available for 24 hours even if you are not a podcast subscriber. You'll want to hear this. Start now, just for a few minutes. 

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Sober Podcast 252. Addictive Liquid Poo

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Audio: Research and statistics

​This is an audio clip from Sober Podcast #247 sent to sober podcast members.

​Now that we know that the alcohol industry has been funding some of the booze-related research, it just makes me wonder about studies and research in general.

and how most of us (me included) aren't able to determine whether a news article that claims to be based on a study, is actually ​fact, if it's been skewed, who paid for it, and what is the underlying agenda of the news media writer, or the original researcher.

in this audio, i start off ranting about booze research, and then I think that before i get myself into too much trouble, i will share some of my own biases, thought process, and numbers. how many people had i been penpals with before it was a paid thing? how many people did i interact with, see patterns, offer cheerleading to, before i started talking about what i saw? listen to this and find out.

see if there's something in here that rings true to you. other than the visual of me standing on my balcony with cold feet, wearing my pyjama bottoms and sweater, holding a clip-on microphone to my mouth. I also tell you about the little girl with the yellow raincoat that I see from the window.

​I have posted below the ENTIRE 22 minute audio for this podcast, and I will leave this link available for ​24 hrs only. ​Have a listen now. all i ask in return is that you post an anonymous message in the comments. If you’d like to be able to hear this again, ​you can use the link to sign up at the bottom of the post.

​Comments from subscribers:

Inspired (day 606): "​I feel the same way about research, critical thinking, agenda behind it and bias. Years ago, wolfie loved hearing research that wine was heart healthy and resveratrol in red wine was good for me. BRING IT ON, he said, we will just moderate drink. This topic reminds me of an interview with Katie Couric, a news anchor, I read a few days ago in the airplane magazine on a flight. She speaks about the difference in reporting on information versus affirmation. Are we only looking to affirm our beliefs in order to empower or strengthen them, or can we allow information in when we may not agree with it completely? Critical thinking and continuing to ask the questions around agendas and bias is important ..."

Jacci2 (day 82; medical professional): "​... as a general rule, I ALWAYS take research cited by any journalist with a huge lump of salt. If I really want to know something, I'll go look up the research article myself and read it to discern whether or not it was a good study, whether or not it is generalizable to the public (they often are not, the journalist just extrapolates the data to apply to everyone even though the study group is limited and very specific), and who funded it. This drives me crazy. Journalists are not scientists and they make their own assumptions from the research and feed it to a gullible public. RANT ALERT! I had to do this recently for my boyfriend. His mom was all concerned about some article in a magazine about one of the meds he was taking for heartburn, saying it was going to give him kidney failure. I pulled up the original article, and it turns out the findings were only relevant if you are over the age of 65, are obese, have diabetes, and are already showing signs of kidney failure ​..."

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