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sunday audio. something has to change

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this week’s sunday audio is about changing things to get different results. imagine you were cold and wanted to get warm. would you remove the blankets that you already have, or would you add new blankets—new layers of supports?  being sober is just like this. adding layers of things to get new outcomes. in this audio i talk about something i read this week by Sean McCabe on the subject of habits and outcomes, and how it maps exactly to how we can change our approach to being sober.

show notes:

  • the blog post about habits by Sean McCabe (seanwes). link here
  • the music, “Ibiza Dream,” thanks to Chris Haugen. link here
  • the photo for ‘adding blankets of support’ thanks to The Bees. link here
  • the unedited version of today’s audio, where i talk about ‘across the pond’, my plans for an extended rant, and the idea of naming these audios ‘clutch/fart’ will be sent in its entirety to podcast subscribers. link here

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original art, thanks to mr.belle
you have potential when you’re sober
this is a close-up of painting #589
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“No Mom, not now”

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From ladybug11:

“My parents being here is always a major issue for me … rest and self care go out the window. My parents have no boundaries with me and impossible standards. I clean my entire house a week before they arrive and it’s still not good enough for them. They are constantly going from 7 am to 10 pm. Errands, paperwork, cleaning chores, household projects, nonstop. If I tell them I don’t feel well and want to rest, they will either accuse me of not being sober or will tell me to ‘go rest for an hour’ and then come into my bedroom every 5 mins asking me to help them with something that ‘cannot wait’ like finding old tax records or asking me to check if the dishwasher always makes that noise, or show them where my duct tape or mustard seeds or whatever fucking random weird thing they need for their project is … What should I do? I feel trapped. Audio ideas?”

me: it does sounds like a lot of pressure. you may have to be very firm with your mom … if you feel like she’s not giving you space, and interrupting you even when you’re in the bathroom (!), then you’ll have to be firmer. ‘No Mom, not now. No Mom, not now’ — as if she is 5 years old, and you would just repeat the same phrase, without being angry. By the third time she asks and you repeat it again, she’ll get it, but you might have to say NO three times in a row before she hears you.

and how about these audios [i can make up a bundle too]:

  • SP103 – Boundaries (i’m doing this to take care of ME, you say. i’m learning how to say no)
  • SP163 – Good Boundaries (we care so much that other people like us, that we don’t care if we like ourselves …)
  • SP169 – Interview Practise 1 (how to maintain boundaries, why do we over-drink (is it family history?)
  • SP211 – The Sprinkler (how to avoid dealing with someone (or some situation) that is making you feel nutty)

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  • a 2-minute clip from SP187 – Take Care of You (this is not the whole podcast, just an extract) – what does it mean to ‘take care of yourself’?
  • OMM020 Boundaries: there are toxic people around you, there is shit-pouring. you need an umbrella. how do you get one?

 

bored

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this is an extract from the longer sober podcast “Episode 218: Bored.” Someone asked me to talk about what boredom in sobriety means, and what to do with your time. Like, how do you deal with having an empty evening?

 

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  • Get the full audio for the Bored podcast episode #218 here > link ($4.99)

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painting 732

if booze is an elevator that only goes down, then you look for the exit. and you get off, and stay off. and in some parts of the world, the signage is different. it doesn’t say ‘exit’ – it says ‘way out’ …
link > www.artsober.com


link > www.artsober.com

doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing

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from me:
apologies for cross-posting; this writing extract also went out earlier today to the Everything List, but I wanted to share it here as well.

If you’re a podcast subscriber you’ve maybe listened to yesterday’s audio about how we get and keep motivation. it’s really a good audio. it was recorded live with some members from the Everything list tuned in. The audio is about motivation, and it has changed my Monday entirely. Which means i’m feeling productive and am back to writing today (long may it last!).

EXTRACT FROM TODAY’S WRITING, section on ‘focus on what you get, not what you give up’:

Doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. Doesn’t matter. If you were a vegetarian – or running a marathon, or studying to be a nurse – you wouldn’t need your husband or your best friend to do the same thing.

This is you the vegetarian:

You order lentils with a soft poached egg on top, while your friend has eggs and bacon bun. If she says “don’t you miss bacon” you smile sweetly and you say: “sometimes I miss bacon, but I like how I feel as a vegetarian.” You don’t need your husband or your best friend to join you. If you feel lonely or uninspired, then you take some time to read vegetarian cookbooks, listen to ‘bacon is bad for you’ podcasts, you find like-minded folks online, and you have a vegetarian coach who helps you find new inspiring recipes. [Please understand that this is only an example. I think that bacon is the world’s perfect food.] …