Hi there, happy valentine’s day. this seems like a good day to have a look back on where we’ve been, to see if it’s leading to where we want to go. Like, can you ‘get what you want’ by doing what you’ve been doing?
The goal for the #100DaySoberChallenge is continuous days sober. in the comments below, you can say what is the longest stretch of continuous days you’ve had so far IN FEBRUARY. Maybe your longest sober stretch is 7 days continuously, or you’re on day 14 today for February …
In order to create a safe space here, i’ll make some general recommendations that you can think about before you post:
- Enter your continuous days sober for February 2020 (not your total days if you’ve been sober longer). this helps to create a more inclusive environment when we have a smaller focus on just february for now.
- Start a new comment and talk about YOU, rather than commenting on other person’s share. When we read about other people we feel less alone; it helps more than “you got this” from a stranger. and often when we comment on each other’s posts, someone is left out, some comments get more likes, etc.
- Make an effort to use positive (or neutral) language. You can say “I’ve had 6 continuous days in February” versus “I’m on day 5 again.” I’ll edit out the word ‘again’ if you post that (!)
- Leave out mentions of specific kinds of alcohol, types, brands, and colours. if you mention that you miss booze, that’s fine. if you say ‘i miss a clear glass of blah blah’ i’ll very kindly remove the entire comment.
- Put in a screen name when it asks for your ‘name’ and just a reminder that email addresses are NOT displayed (EVER). i also approve every comment before it is posted 🙂
look forward to seeing how you’re doing. hugs from me xo
Day 1 is sobriety recommended here through the book “ the unexpected joy of being sober” by Catherine Gray! Here’s to the future!
This is a first for me after a long time knowing deep down it needed to happen. My lovely supportive partner came across my secret stash last week and confronted me in such a gentle and Blake free way. There’s been a lot of emotions! But the overriding ones are relief and love. I’m definitely ready for this and feel so much better, clearer, and cleaner already! I’m one week AF today! Getting into the hang of telling Mad Madam Mim (my addictive voice) to shush up! Going to treat us to a take away to celebrate my little milestone. Bring on more!
This is a bit of a ramble and Belle, if you don’t publish it, I understand. I just need to get it out. And maybe someone out there can relate.
I made it to 3 days on Feb 16. On Day 4 I crumbled. So, I never made it to Day 5. I got complacent and decided to have a drink and have been drunk every night since. I don’t want it any more and I know I don’t want it and yet I crack open a bottle at 3pm. This has to stop. I keep telling myself I am doing it because my wife gets another bottle, and then when that’s empty two days later, I get the next one. It’s not my wife’s fault that I am drinking. So, for the I-don’t-know-how-many’th time, I re-read Belle’s lesson on “How to Quit Drinking When Your Husband/Wife Still Drinks.” One part finally got through to me. It’s my fault and mine alone.
Yesterday, after reading that lesson and getting the point, I was going to “be good.” I know I don’t want it anymore and I am going to let her have hers and I will hide myself away. I was fine until she looked at how much we had in the cupboard and said that it wasn’t enough, we needed more to get through the night. I buckled and went along with her and wasted another night. So, while she was out getting the bottle, I had a couple shots. Right then I got a text from my friend, who said that he and his wife were trying to work things out on a vacation to XX. When I had told my wife that they were heading for divorce, she said she wondered who was having an affair. I said, “I don’t think it is an affair, I think it’s XX’s drinking. He drinks and then he becomes and asshole.” So right when I took those shots, and his text came in, I told him I was glad they working it out. He said, “My drinking has caused problems for too long. Here I go again.” I told him not to believe that voice in his head that says you can cut down. He said “You’re right. One leads to ten for me. Once the buzz starts the asshole comes to life.”
Well, one also leads to ten for me. I don’t become an asshole but have on occasion been mean when drunk. I’ve lost the closeness I once had with my brother because of that. I’m done doing this stupid and unnecessary thing to my body, psyche, and relationships. I told my wife not to offer me any tonight and that when she drinks and I don’t, I’m not going to be able to stay in the room with her. It’s not about her, it’s about protecting myself. I’ll go to the other room and read, have a bath, whatever. And she’s not to call out to me wondering where I am and why I’m not in there watching her get drunk. I need to be away from it for a minute.
I’d say wish me luck, but it’s not about luck. It’s about doing what I know I need to do. More importantly, what I WANT to do. And what I WANT to do is to skip the drinking. Today, tomorrow, and the next day!
If you don’t take the first drink, you won’t have any.
I had 47 days, then went on vacation and drank. I’m disappointed but back at it on day 6 now. I signed up for audios this time and subscribed to podcasts. I know now that I need more tools and treats this time around.
I was sober 11 days in February
I fell off the sober car after 47 days. I went on a vacation. That included all you can drink. I didn’t want to miss what I planned before I decided to quit. I had a plan! I was going to drink fresh juices with club. Well wolfie was screaming on Day one. This is vacation and your drinks are included! Just start next week again. So here I am day 2.
This is Day 2 of my 100 day challenge. Guess that makes me on Day 2 of sober days in February. Last night was rough, woke up in sweats after Day 1 and feel a bit fuzzy today. I feel hopeful though, and ready. I really want this now, and I feel that my tools and support are better. Here we go…
Today is Day 1 of my 100-Day Sober Challenge. Witching hour is coming up, and I plan to start the Wolfie booklet then.
My longest stretch of continuous sobriety was 9 months in 2021.
8 days so far and pleased to have found this blog! Not sure what my long term goal is but just giving sobriety a go as I feel like I’m only going to feel better for not having any alcohol!
18 days sober in February! This includes a business trip I dreaded with colleagues who drink together every night. Do I miss ‘happy hours”? Actually, I really don’t! I love being present, alert, sleeping well, and remembering everything that happened the day/night before.
Day 17 in February! It really DOES get easier as time goes by. Told two strangers last week I was AF for 41 days and their congrats gave me a giddy high for some strange reason, even though I’ve talked about this journey with a handful of friends and family. Thank you for the amazing support and encouragement, wouldn’t be here without you!
Day 15 in February. Enjoying people’s comments and the emails. Planning to add my insights closer to the end of 100 days on the thinking/changes required to desire and strive for long-term sobriety…
Stopped drinking Christmas.. was originally going to do Sober January and see how I did but I’m signed up for the 100 day challenge with a jump start of 7 days.. longest ever was 90 days 25 years ago… but that was ordered ( courts for dui) not because I wanted it.. or I wanted something better.. this is different… im choosing different.. so far so good.. just wonder what will happen on day 100!! Drinking should NOT be the reward for abstinence….good luck to all new comers!!!
15 AF days for me … feeling positive read my second book as part of my added my tools I have previously been only reading emails with a few treat days thrown in …. I feel like a big change in me is coming and I’m welcoming it with open arms , mind body and soul 🙏✌️😘xx
First time trying the sober route, 5 days for me so far…
7 continuous days and feel happier.
February is nice and calm and 15 continuous days : )
I have had 9 sober days in February
Today I start my 15th consecutive sober day in February. 🙂
Just woke up to 15 of February … Because alcohol just costs too damn much all around, and I really, really like sleeping at night and waking up with a clear head.
Half way through 15 sober days in Feb! Valentines Day was traditionally a boozy one for my husband and I. The thought of waking up hangover free and getting out for a run on the 15th was so much more appealing than the wine my husband was drinking last night. That’s a first.
I am 14 going on 15~ days continuously sober (sung to the tune of 16 Going on 17 from the Sound of Music… 😄)
I’ve had 14 continuous AF days so far in February
Today I have 15 continuous days in February. And that’s pretty wonderful since February also including a trip with triggering parties that I quickly distanced myself from and let go of (from my head). So happy!!
14 Continuous days in February 2023 and momentum is building. Chocolate is good 🙂
14 going on 15 continuous days in February 😊 happy with my life
14 days alcohol free in February! Every day just gets better. 🥳
15 days for me. 😊😊❤️
I’ve had 3 continuous days in Feb.
14 days in February, Wolfie is howling to be my valentine. Ha! Fat fucking chance Wolfie, you blew it.💪
Love it! Stuff Wolfie’s mouth with those chalky tasting little hearts – ones that say, “Get lost” – and save all the good chocolate for yourself!
I’ve got 14 whole days for February and have woken to a chilly, sunny 15th. Feeling proud of myself (best feeling ever).
Happy Valentines Day and 14th day continuously alcohol free in February. Most days I am feeling free and fine. The other day I had dinner with a friend who ordered not one but two glasses of my former favourite drink- I felt so envious. So lots to learn and let go of still- that’s why I need Belle’s 100 day challenge.
9 days then did a different thing with a loose plan I didn’t stick to and ugh lost a day. Back at it now another lesson learnt x
early on day 15 in February here
All days in February have been alcohol free for me. Happy to share this.
Excited for 14 days in February. I find the goal of 100 days at a time to be something my brain can handle. The nevers… forevers … and shoulds are daunting for me. Happy sober have another piece of chocolate hooray day to me!
My 🐥 is safe, my 🐺 is quiet. Day 14 for Feb, #f@%k the zero
14 continuous days! Happy Valentines Day. I am grateful for each sober day.
I am 14 days sober for February. It’s Valentine’s Day and I’ve noticed I’ve been wanting a drink all day today. Having a special meal and drinks was our (my husband and I )way of celebrating Valentine’s days in the past. I’ve listened to some sober Belle messages/podcasts today. I’m happy to be here. Sober.
[14 continuous days for February for me.] Latest helpful thought: what will my future self be happy that I did today? By asking this question I help create a better sober future for myself. Happy Valentine’s Day to all.
Day 14 AF. Happy to be showing myself and my family love today by being sober. I’m present, not overly cheerful in an inauthentic way due to booze. Don’t miss alcohol today at all. Thank you for doing this Belle.
I am rocking 14 continuous sober days in February. Some of them were easy and some were stressful.
I am happier AF. I sleep better (I got 9 hrs last night!). I had a hot tub with my hubby this morning at 6am. I saw the kids off to school after having made their lunches. I then walked the dog with a giant smile on my face, listening to one of belle’s audios (thank you Belle). I am accountable! And I am 9 days continuously sober this month of February. 🙂
Today is day 14 continuously sober in February. I’m on my longest streak that I have been on in a few years. I think the thing that’s helped the most is to keep listening and reading and connecting even when I feel like I am in a really good place and do not feel like I need it – especially then. I’m excited to see what the rest of February will bring!
Happy Valentine’s Day, celebrating Me on Day 14 of continuous sobriety for February!!!
Today is Day 14 for continuous days sober in February.