#DryJuly Day 31 – Continuous Days

Hi there, happy July 31st! Here we are at the end of July and so this seems like a good day to have a look back on where we’ve been, to see if it’s leading to where we want to go. Like, can you ‘get what you want’ by doing what you’ve been doing?

The goal for the #DryJuly is continuous days sober. In the comments below, you can say what is the longest stretch of continuous days you’ve had so far IN JULY.  Maybe your longest sober stretch is 7 days continuously, or you’re on day 31 today for July …

In order to create a safe space here, i’ll make some general recommendations that you can think about before you post:

  • Enter your continuous days sober for July 2020 (not your total days if you’ve been sober longer). this helps to create a more inclusive environment.
  • Start a new comment and talk about YOU, rather than commenting on other person’s share. When we read your story we feel less alone.
  • Make an effort to use positive (or neutral) language. You can say “I’ve had 6 continuous days in February” versus “I’m on day 5 again.” I’ll edit out the word ‘again’ if you post that (!)
  • Leave out mentions of specific kinds of alcohol, types, brands, and colours. if you mention that you miss booze, that’s fine. if you say ‘i miss a clear glass of blah blah’ i’ll very kindly remove the entire comment.
  • Put in a screen name when it asks for your ‘name’ and just a reminder that email addresses are NOT displayed (EVER). i also approve every comment before it is posted 🙂

ok, i’ll start …

Belle

I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • 31 days alcohol free in July. Celebrated 6 months in July also – yeah me – yeah Belle for your support and for words that have clicked with me. I have lots of tools in my sober tool box and I feel really solid in maintaining this awesome space I have created. Space to wake up with a clear head EVERY day… lots of space that I am filling with things just for me! So F@*k you Wolfie… Happy Sunday

  • 31 continuous days through July, so my running total is 69; although now in my second home in the sun for 3months, the forthcoming months may be a challenge. I am determined to maintain sobriety. My mind now seems so much more relaxed and rationale, no sniping at hubby and morose late nights, sinking a bottle, it’s a dream thank you couldn’t have done it without you 😀

  • Hi! I’m at 26 days and feelin- A-OK! My longest stretch is 46 days (Twice during lent over the years.) The first time, I changed zero behaviors and literally just removed alcohol. I noticed softer skin and more energy. But nothing major. Six years later, cut to Lent 2020, and something shifted. I had been drinking a lot more since the lent in 2016, almost daily and in larger quantities. Weight gain, lethargy, lack of patience (I was so crabby and quick to snap at people gossipy and just kind of a dickhead sometimes). I noticed during the 46 days this year, how much better I liked myself. After lent, I started moderating and it was fine. I did well, with only two or three weeks where I went over my quota of the recommended units for women. The hangovers suuuucked though, after living without them for 46 days! So, when Dry July popped on my radar, I jumped at the chance to quit again. I started July 5 (I literally did not know about Dry July somehow prior to July 4, so that’s why I was late to the game and started on the 5th). It was different this time, too. I raised money for the Dry July Foundation (what a feeling), read a ton of quit lit and sober sites, found Belle and other support blogs and groups and really dug in on soul searching, supports and treats. I’m rolling into a 100 day challenge, which also has a start date of July 5. (Is rolling days over into the new challenge allowed?) I’m looking forward to seeing what changes come during that time and to how I respond to the ups and downs that pop up, because the 46-day and Dry July were alreqdy the longest I’ve been dry since I was in high school and I experienced so much change. What will 100 days look like?! I like this person I’ve been drowning out with booze. She is thoughtful, sensitive, zany, a voracious reader, quiet and creative. She is home. I want to stay home. Thank you, Belle, for encouraging me to hang out with her and take care of her. Thank you, everyone, for sharing your wins and chagrins. Onward to 100!

  • I’ve completed 31 continuous days in July. Travelling onward into Authentic August. Thank you for the DryJuly challenge ~ really helpful in the preservation of original foundations (I realised I was not being mindful enough with treats)!

  • I did 31 days continuous in July. My plan is Solstice to Solstice. With Wolfie very garrulous of late I think your suggestion of using chunks of time to maintain sober momentum is so helpful Belle. The daily emails are also invaluable.

    • Way to go! I agree about the chunks. It really works. This never occurred to me and the past few months I did it unknowingly. A lightbulb went off when Belle actually wrote/said it. Ha!

  • 31 days without alchohol in July and looking forward to many more days ahead! The layers of goodness keep coming and even on the hard days I know adding booze is not a solution to anything, when it used to be my solution for everything. Thank you so much Belle, for all you do! Authentic August, here I come 🙂

  • 31 days continuous. Calmer, learning to swim. Watched loads of movies with my kids without falling asleep! ! Thanks for all the support. Xx

  • I’m on day 31 for Dry July. It feels fantastic! I feel fantastic! I can’t think of any reason good enough to start drinking again. My mind is so much quieter without the constant worry about whether I have enough wine…. I love sober treating and thinking of new things to add to my sober toolbox. Thank you so much, Belle.

  • I only managed to get to Day 9. Disgusted with myself. However, with Belle’s remarkable help I might just manage to get through August without a blip.

  • 31 continuous days alcohol free! Using all the tools — in particular community (online and IRL), exercise, blogs and books, be aware of my feelings (and “why” I’m having the desire to drink if it happens, then breaking that shit down), and sober treats. Thank you, Belle, for being an important part of my momentum! Here’s to an AF August!
    xoxo K

  • Working on day 31 in July, and I really want to say this blog and community was super helpful in doing it! A big big “Thank you” to everyone! Reaching out and learning that I am not alone was the best thing on this journey. Thank you, dear Belle! May the universe bless you. xoxoxo

  • Hi 🙂 I had 31 continuous sober days in July. even if parts of the month sucked. my psychiatrist called it a “real challenge”, but I’d prefer to look at it as a “great opportunity”. that’s how I want to go onwards to August.

  • Today will be 31 continuous days sober! Is this for real, did I REALLY make it thru the month of July without alcohol? I’ve never given myself this long if a break from alcohol in decades! I have 2 more sober weeks ahead of me to finish up with another sober challenge I am participating in, then I’ll keep adding more sober challenges to stitch more and more sober days together until I start to feel like this is the real me (if that makes any sense). Thank you Belle from the bottom of my heart for all you do. Your daily emails were just what I needed and provided me with a much needed reality check on what alcohol really is when that sneaky Wolfie voice wants me to think otherwise!

  • 31 days- I’m glad to have made it this far, and I intend to keep going. There have been huge ups and downs throughout, but the ratio of ups to downs shifts in a positive direction the longer I go. This is momentum that I don’t want to lose!

  • 31 days continuous in July. It’s part of my 100 days and Solstice sobriety and so I’ll continue on and be strong. I was feeling kinda jittery this morning but I paid attention, acknowledged it and headed out at lunctime and got myself some fancy facemasks as a treat! Thank you Belle 🙏🏻🌻

  • 31 days, and the start of my 100 day challenge, off to a great start thanks to you (and me). I’d like to say it was easy, but nothing really worthwhile is easy, so I will try and appreciate the struggle.

  • Day 31 of continuous days sober in July…. very grateful that alcohol is no longer adding to my problems in life. 👍

  • DryJuly was the best what could happen. I’m grateful for day 31 and I‘m happy to continue. It‘s the second time within the last years that I‘m sober for a longer period and that I‘m looking forward to stay sober, because I enjoy it, I appreciate it and I want it.

  • 29 days today. Not going to make excuses for the slip. I simply hit the fuck it button. Got good sober momentum now and don’t intend to throw it away in August. I feel good 😊

  • I’m on day 31 continuous for July. I originally started my sober trip with a dry july (way back when!). when i started, i was glad the first month was over. I was glad to roll into august with some momentum behind me. it’s always (always) easier to keep going than it is to stop and start. drinking for 2 days and being sober for 2 days and then drinking again and then being sober again is HARDER than continuous sobriety. if you’re looking to feel better AND do something easier, then continuous days is where it’s at! (I have lots of new subscribers from other countries, so i have to be careful with expressions like ‘that’s where it’s at!’ … i’ll write it again now: if you’re looking to feel better AND do something easier, then continuous days sober will achieve both goals at the same time.) hugs, belle xo