show the best version of yourself

if you’re signed up to get the free daily emails, then you’ve seen some of the extra sober support bits i’ve been sending out. here is one of the recent messages.

small notes about the corona virus (and other things) #11

If you are running around in your head, going all over the fucking place about stuff that hasn’t happened yet, then you need to get that shit settled down right now. Because if this is going to go on for several weeks, you are going to exhaust yourself on day 2, and that doesn’t help you, and it doesn’t help anybody.

So whatever you’re doing that’s winding you up, you’re going to stop doing it now, OK? All the things that you are doing that are contributing to how [crummy] you’re feeling now, you’re going to stop all of it.

Because you preserving your mental health right now is the most important thing.

You being sober, right now, is the most important thing. There are people relying on you. YOU are relying on you.

If you think that the world is going to end, and you think that somehow drinking is a good idea, that’s ludicrous. That’s not actually what’s happening, at all. Your wolfie voice will tell you to drink AT something that isn’t happening. [The world is not ending.] If you’re feeling like it IS happening right now, then you’re watching too much news, and YOU are in charge of that. YOU are in charge of how much radio you listen to, and YOU are in charge of how much you go outside safely during the time that you’re not in lockdown …

Your responsibilities right now have to do with the inside of your head and the inside of your home, the people closest to you, and maybe your neighbours. You might offer to make lunch for Granny next door, or you might offer to pick up groceries for them … I saw Catherine Gray on instagram talking about that, she was about putting notes in people’s mailboxes saying “if you need somebody to pick up groceries for you, let me know.” …

I think we have an opportunity, too, when things are happening, to show a best version of ourselves. I know that you’re good in a crisis. I know you are.

I know that the way you want to be in the world is a decision that you remake every minute of every day. Who you want to be right now, during this – whatever version of events you’re currently having your city – is the best version of you.

And the best version of you does not include alcohol.

[This text is transcribed from the March 15th audio update from Paris, beginning at the 14-minute mark. If you are a podcast subscriber, this audio has been sent to you and is in your Gumroad library as Sober Podcast #358.]


there are two magnets at the top of the page here. some ‘love’ and some ‘hugs’. both might be required today. the postal mail is an essential service, so it’s still working. I can mail you some brightness first thing tomorrow morning.



I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012