keep your head attached

if you’re signed up to get the free daily emails, then you’ve seen some of the extra sober support bits i’ve been sending out. here are a few of the recent messages.

small notes about the corona virus (and other things) #1

dear you,
you’re good in a crisis. you keep your head. you are thoughtful, pensive, and you manage what’s right in front of you, right now, without going ‘madly off in all directions’. you do the next right thing. you don’t catastrophize about things that haven’t happened yet. and you remember to pat yourself on the back, a lot, for dealing with hard things while staying calm.

small notes about the corona virus (and other things) #2

you being sober is how you do the big things. it’s how you keep your head attached. by NOT engaging in additive things, you have room in your brain to focus on what needs to be done now. giving time to the rabbit holes of addiction? no time now. literally. no time. you’ve got things to do. kids to arrange. parents to check on. you’ve got colleagues who need someone to feed their horses for them because they’re stuck out of town. you are focussed on what needs to be done today. you’re awake and present. this is you here. right here. doing this.


I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • I guess I found you as a result of covid-19. Penned up at home with husband, drinking heavily every night – worrying about what he’ll say if I tell him I’m not going out (we are in lock-down) just to buy alcohol. The shame when the gendarmes stop you and you have ticked (on your little declaration) that you are out for ‘essential shopping’. I’ve just done a sticky note for my screen of a comment that you made above: ‘You’re ready for something new. Exit the booze elevator. This is the time. Get out and stay out. Look for the sign.’ Thanks for the inspiration at the beginning of what will be a difficult week.

  • Don’t know how I would have coped with self-isolation if I wasn’t sober (well I do…by drinking). So thankful I am sober as I am able to cope with everything that comes at me for myself and for my family. Stay healthy. Mike.