The Thing isn’t in the Thing {Audio}

This is audio is about how the thing isn’t in the thing.

I talk about how your spouse is your peer and not your parent, and I happen to mention sorting laundry, burning toast, and hot turkey sandwiches.

Alcohol has done a good marketing job, in your head, in telling you that it seems like a good idea to drink… but I can verify, ​for sure, based on my inbox, that the first drink is a disappointment. and the thing isn’t in the thing…

This is the subject of a podcast (episode 293) sent to podcast subscribers.

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​Sober Podcast 293. ​The Thing Isn't IN the Thing

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I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • This time I heard several different things …..
    One thing that stood out was the “faulty gas/petrol gauge “ thing.
    And for me I think this applies on so many levels….I’m not sure if it’s entirely “booze” related, but I am not good at realising when I’m pushing myself too hard ….until I collapse in exhaustion…..and I’m not great at assessing what it is I need ….in order to feel better… so I think my gauge is way faulty….so I suppose that means I need to trust certain people to remind me of sensible ways to deal with life….
    The other thing was …. I actually managed to understand a little bit more about what the “thing” was….before it seemed all muddled up …maybe that’s because I still felt alcohol gave me some sort of relief? I’m not quite sure… plus I’m not entirely sure what it was I was “craving “ anyway.
    I suppose I’m still not there on that one….but I’m much further along the path to see that alcohol in no way offers anything positive for me at least…. that seems abundantly clear after my recent relapse anyway ….
    This really was a great audio ….. thank you 🙂

  • I love love love this podcast. It not only resonates with alcohol but every other shitty distraction I’ve used/use to shut out the crap in my head. Now the alcohol is gone, along with the smoking and a month ago the death of my ex, I’m now full frontal with the quietness of self. Not easy, but at least it’s real and not infused with alcohol and despair. Today is what matters, this moment then the next. The thing is not in the thing is one of my many mantras.

  • Thank you for this audio,it came just at the right time. Day 14 Saturday evening, I’m stress about many things and am about to go and buy a bottle of wine and watch and crap on tv and drink.