anonymous confession booth: sex

step right up. for two days only, i’m creating an anonymous sober confession booth about SEX. Yes, i’ve got something running through my head and i thought, OK, let’s blog about it. and really, it’s amazingly hard to talk about sex even when we’re quasi-anonymous online. And so then i thought, OK, let’s make it 100% anonymous, me included.

So here’s the deal.

  1. Post a comment below.
  2. For this to work you MUST type Anonymous as your name and put in a fake email ( in the comments form (if you forget, i’ll go in and delete that info manually). all comments are to be anonymous. one of the comments will be from me, you just won’t know which one.
  3. I have no way of personally knowing who posts what.
  4. In your comment, write two or three sentences (max.) about something about sex that you think is ONLY your problem and that probably no one else has the same problem as you do. For example, i’ll make one up: “I can’t initiate sex when sober but i used to be able to when drinking” … OR … “i worry that i’m the only person who has x problem now that i’m sober.”
  5. Then post ONE anonymous ‘reply’ to one of the other comments already posted, and say something comforting, consoling, forgiving, kind. In fact, it would simply help if you said “i have this problem, too.”

i have a feeling that this will unfold in a lovely way. because you’re all lovely people. and we all have sex shit that we can’t talk about.

PS. if your name/email automatically shows up when you start to enter a comment, you can manually delete them OR you can ‘log out’ of your blogging profile.



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I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • I feel like I am on the opposite spectrum as anyone else on here. I cannot get enough sex. My partner is the most attractive man I’ve ever seen and even when I have him multiple times in one day, I still crave him more. I used to be able to shut down my sexual urges by drinking alcohol. The minute I imbibed, sex was no longer on my mind. Alcohol would numb those incredible urges for me and take sex completely off my mind. Since I live an hour from my boyfriend, there are plenty of times I have to go days without and it is torturous for me now being unable to drown out these incredible sexual frustrations with alcohol…I think about having him inside of me ALL THE TIME!!! I am a 36 year old woman, and wondering if this problem is only going to worsen or perhaps lessen for me over time?

  • Sober for 3 months. Haven’t had sober sex yet. Think I will like it as I always preferred morning sex. I used to initiate when drinking (husband’s sex drive always been low). While I am interested in sex, I don’t want to initiate….fear of rejection I think. When drinking I had liquid courage.

  • I was just struggling with this last night. It was my 3rd day sober and I was incredibly irritable. Noises were like nails on a chalkboard for me (and I have 3 small kids). I was all prickly and didn’t want anyone to touch me, but my husband had been pawing at me ALL DAY. I normally would have had a drink to relax at that point. So I got in bed with tea that was supposedly calming and read for a while (Game of Thrones probably wasn’t the best choice for my mood, though). My husband came in a little while later and I did it anyway even though I didn’t want to. It was okay, I guess. Maybe it’ll get better when I’m not so irritable…

  • I feel like I’m the only person trying to navigate sobriety who is single and has no one.