[Audio] Rowing

Ever want to quit something really badly, like soccer or piano or rowing, and have a coach/teacher reach out, pluck you from the darkness, and say “you’ll be fine”?

This is the subject of a brand new podcast (episode 295) sent to ​​podcast subscribers.

​In this audio, you'll hear me talk about ​​learning to row when I was 27 years old and how that relates to being sober. 

Which is to say, it’s about anxiety, the power of having someone tell you that you’re fine, and what good coaching can do for us.

​Here's a clip of the podcast.

Extract from ​Sober Podcast 295. ​Rowing

You can ​leave a comment below, ​and tell me: Do you have an experience with coaching in your life that was helpful? Or a time when someone could have done something to smoothen things out for you, but didn’t? 

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I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • “Life is a team sport” – love this quote. I am the classic “I’ll get through this on my own” kinda person, especially when I’m struggling. Pride gets in the way. Why do I wear it as a badge of honour to think it’s better to do it on my own. I bloody love team sport, so this really helps me re-frame my battles in life, and all the good stuff too, as we’re all on the same team.

  • I can’t even count how many times I quit or never even attempted to do something because of anxiety. It would be nice if someone had reached out to tell me it was okay or they could relate. Maybe somehow I can do that for someone else one day with not drinking.

  • Thank you so much for this insight. I used to struggle on a minute to minute basis (sometimes still do) with anxiety. Serious, debilitating anxiety, so much so it took me to places in my head and soul that I never even knew existed and never ever want to revisit again. EVER. I am learning how to challenge my thinking very slowly..baby steps. But if that’s what it takes it’s ok for today. Thanks again

  • SisterMary

    Before I listened to the podcast I thought it might be about rowing – arguing -and I thought, yes, I need to learn how to do more of that, stop drinking down my anger and resentments , stop anaethestisizing ( is that a word)? the rage. Wolfe has been so effective I rarely even feel the rage now – its numbed away – long gone. And so is everything else. Joy. Passion. Fear. Love. And yet I’m talking in the present. It should be the past. I’m on Day 16. I have a wonderful granddaughter and son.I want to enjoy them full on. I want to feel, full on, my own unhappiness , my boredom, my quiet pleasures.Waken in the night and not groan with shame.

    So much to learn from my unwitting sober coaches everywhere including my three year old granddaughter. She doesn’t need booze.She is always in the moment.

  • I can hear your voice in my head saying, “When we are left alone in our heads, Wolfie will tell us drinking is a good idea.” This recording is a reminder that reaching out in any number of ways and/or accepting support gets us out of our head. This is the biggest gift I received from being a penpal. (Day 921!)

  • Just started working with a recovery coach/therapist last night so this really resonated with me. Thank you!

  • Thanks for letting me listen to this Belle, my daughter gave me your details and she hasn’t drank for about a year now. I am doing my best🙃xx

  • Really enjoyed the full podcast. Made me think I need to find a real live sober buddy as well as you (I know yours alive and real – you know what I mean)

  • Ha! I also tried rowing at uni but gave it up for very similar reasons to your anxiety, as well as not feeling like I fitted in and finding it too much like hard work. It required early starts and dedication and I was far too busy having a social life (read drinking) to want to invest that much energy. I am still dealing with anxiety now despite having stopped drinking although it has improved considerably. What’s changed is that I have a good couple of years of sober coaching from you under my belt, and you challenging my thinking has enabled me to step back, observe and apply a more rational train of thought…most of the time ;D Its still a work in progress!