quote from the blog:
… there’ll be some therapist out there who’ll come and correct me and say “you need to know the root cause before you can find a solution” and i’ll call bullshit. Cuz you can’t figure out drinking while you’re drinking. and i don’t think i can figure out why i’m exhausted if i’m exhausted. that stuff has happened in the past is a fact, sure. but it’s what we DO NEXT that changes things. (not what we think next; and as paul likes to remind me, we have a problem with thinking… more thinking is probably not the answer.) what do you think? lost my mind?
[this is a quote from an earlier blog post written july 2014, you can read the whole thing here and you can leave a comment. just so i know you’re out there.]
selling hope since 2012
original art here
Yes, and, at some level, it’s not possible to figure out why we do it even after we quit. That’s okay. (Not that there isn’t a boatload of stuff we figure out, but it’s not everything.) It can be lovely to get unaddicted to figuring stuff out.
Hello! Yes I’m out here ; you’re not alone 😊
I do tend to agree that it’s rather impossible to work out why we’re doing something while we’re still stuck in that loop. It’s only when it’s not there and we go to “do it”, whatever “it” is , that we can begin to figure out the triggers.
And even if we do find out the root cause; we still need to stop the behaviour; do I guess that’s always got to be part of the focus. But what do I know really?
Your paintings seem to differ from your husband’s because yours have diagonal “claw marks”!