It's been 2 years since I spoke with sober penpal #128, Kristi Coulter. She has a new book coming out on Tuesday, August 7th called Nothing Good Can Come From This.
But the story of how she got here has a lot to teach us sober folks.
Like, how do you deal with people telling you that you just don't get it, or that you're shit?
I sent out this audio today (episode SP260) to podcast subscribers ...
BUT I am going to make this full podcast available for 48 hours, even if you are not a podcast subscriber.
You'll want to hear this. Start now, just for a few minutes.
Sober Podcast 260. Kristi Coulter (2018)
If you could leave a comment after you listen, that'd be great. Anonymous is fine. To download the entire audio, you can use the link below.
Feedback from listeners:
Lena: Love that part about it not being about willpower. Because I guess, that’s what works ... slowly getting to know a perspective of things to be great and even greater! And particularly inspiring awesome to getting to know real people who are showing up, and what is possible if you just go through that tough stuff. 'cause grass IS greener on the other (sober) side! Love for that <3"
Emsyface: "I found this a really useful and there were some parts that stuck out:
Before she quit she felt like she was just fulfilling everyone else’s needs and that her writing/pure creativity was “not essential”. This I think is important because it shows how alcohol makes us just focus on getting through and we deny ourselves any sense of pleasure or frivolity.
The part when she got negative feedback for expressing anger and that meant she was a “dry drunk” and would relapse...
The part where she talks about reading your blog and you “liking” being sober. Catherine Gray in her book talks about sobriety having such a negative image whereas the reality is anything but. That was so worth hearing again.
I found it affirming to hear from someone who didn’t have underlying mental health issues that if one did, one might need more support.
Other little nuggets were “drinking doesn’t change reality” (but changes how you process it); and that feelings don’t kill you. ... Thanks for this- one of the best I’ve heard in a while."