I don't know how to say this so that you can hear me.
It's not just about starting again on day 1.
It's not just about saying "today is my new day 1."
It's about changing something.
Because if what you've been doing up to now isn't working, then you need to do something different.
It's not just 'try harder'. It's 'try different'.
If we are penpals, and you email me and say "today's my new day 1," I'm going to thunk you and say...
What are you changing?
Because you don't want to hang around day 1 anymore. And you want things to be different. And you're emailing a sober coach, so you want her opinion, because if you didn't, you'd just not tell me!
So when you tell me "I'm on day 1," it would be incredibly bad form—and not fair—if I support you having a new day 1 without changing anything. That wouldn't be fair to you. It'd probably be irresponsible on my part, too.
Because this booze thing can get worse and worse.
We don't want that to be you and we don't want that to happen to you.
It's not just having a new day 1 ... having a new day 1 is fabulous, don't get me wrong.
You need a new day 1 AND you need to add some new things because what you've been doing up to now hasn't been enough.
And you want to move away from here, so you're going to do some new things now.
If you would like some ideas on what you can add, so that you stop repeating the day 1 cycle, send me an email and i'll send you some links to things. hugs from me
I have transcribed this text from the (FREE) one minute audio message #168: New Things.
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Totally agree on try new…. I’ve had day one’s over and overover… They suck! Trying new and different this time.