100 Day Sober Challenge

Are you interested in doing the 100-day sober challenge?

​Here’s the pledge:

    “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”


OK, now what?

When I was trying to quit, I had many day 1s. It wasn’t until I got more support that I started to do better. 

It's not like we can do this alone in our head.

The drinking voice is just too convincing and it ‘sounds’ like it’s making sense (when really, that voice is bullshit, but it takes some outside cheerleading to figure that out).

And the cool thing about the internet is it’s more anonymous, which can really help, at least to begin.

There are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge

​1. ​With Support

​​If you'd like a live-human, sober penpal ​and get personalized, direct responses to emails, then you can sign up for the Sober Jumpstart. ​All ​​​levels come ​with a ​sober penpal (me!).

You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. ​And yes, we remain sober penpals for a whole year. ​I'll keep track of your dates, and remind you when it's time to get treats.

If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed. The sober penpal is part of the Jumpstart here.


2. Self-Administered

To do the sober challenge on your own, you can write out the pledge above and make a note of the date of your last drink.

Find ways to add in more tools and supports. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it. Read sober blogs (mine and others) every day 🙂 And be sure to sign up to get daily sober motivation emails below.

Belle

I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • This is day 1. I have been seeking soberdom for 6 months now. That was my big blow up with my husband about how I can’t regulate. He has been so patient and supportive and I reward him with empty promises. Its selfish, its not who I really am or what I want to be. Over the weekend I embarrassed myself by getting nervous before going to a neighbour’s dinner party, drinking to calm the nerves. Then I drank like a fish when there(blaming nerves again). Making my excuses and leaving. An hour max. I let myself and my husband down. I am holding us back from so much together happiness. I make it about me. Enough. I want my life, my headspace, my creativity and the respect of my husband back. Here we go.

  • Day 87 for me. I have been sooo tempted to have a few sips of [glorifying alcohol language removed – it is not as you describe. it’s gasoline. romanticizing it is wolfie], but I distract myself and keep moving forward. Some days are hard and I am trudging onward through thick mud, and other days I feel light and breezy! My bloat has gone. My skin is way better and even my eyelashes have grown. I have been eating super healthy and drinking lots of water. I have been exercising and can see a little bit of abs, so that spurs me on. Sobriety is not always easy, but it is definitely worth it!

  • I am 4 days sober, I got to 14 days sober and then drank again. I pledge to 100 days sober NO MATTER WHAT . I want this in writing and out there in the universe

  • Day 7
    I’m SO proud of myself. I’ve refused a drink when offered to me (normally I would already have secretly been drinking at home) and had a soft drink out socially. To be honest it has been surprisingly easy (so far). I’m enjoying sober mornings – no “what did I say or do”, no diarrhoea or sweats. I can drive at any time. Learning a new daily routine. Early bed time helps massively.

  • Day 11. I haven’t told anyone my plans just that I’m taking a break. I haven’t chosen a ln amount of time for because when I have done that in the past I’ve seen the end as the next time I can drink. So now I’m doing it one day at a time and just focusing on that day but I do need accountability. My husband is my trigger. We have been together since kids and we like to to drink. He has no desire to stop. Weekends will be the hardest as we usually party all weekend long but I am determined to hold on to the fresh Monday morning feeling. I just want to be strong enough to resist when hubby is home. I feel incredible after 11 days sober, everything is better, clearer. Sleep is deep and restful. I am desperate to stay on this path. I want this time to be my final attempt at soberity.

    • Nat
      I can definitely understand when the person close to you enjoys drinking. I have a similar situation and it’s not easy. Belle has suggested some great tools that I will use this time.

  • Feeling better, today is day 9, obviously the toxins have nearly left my body, looking forward to a fresh weekend without the booze
    Thank you Belle.

  • Today is the day, I spent all day in bed yesterday vomiting diarrhea and naseau from a night out on Friday. So I am now determined to do at least 100 days (if not more).

  • Started my 100 day challenge on 9/15/2019 and, though I had tried to quit or take breaks in the past, the 100 day thing really seemed to do it for me. I think it put enough distance between me and my abusive relationship with alcohol that it seemed absurd to pick it back up when the challenge ended. Like, why the hell would I do THAT? Nearly 3 years have passed since my last day 1 and I say a little silent thank you every night that I’m going to bed sober. I only wish that everyone who’s stuck where I was for so many years would trust that the path out of that nonsense is available and so worth it.

  • Another Day 1 – and its finally gotten through my brain that I need to add more tools. I am doing the 100 day challenge with a coach now. Yay what a gift to me! Thank you Belle and community. XO

  • Hi Everyone, today is my 100th day of sobriety!! I did it! I have to say I feel totally empowered and am looking forward to my next 100 days of sobriety. Yes I am repeating the challenge. Hoping to turn 100 into 200 days, and so on. While I still have a long way to go, this IS a beginning. I have to share how happy my wife is my effort and my current success.

    It took me a few tries before I succeeded, but I finally made it. So, even if you stumble during your challenge, please pick yourself up and march on. You won’t be sad. In the end You will be glad! – Pacific Northwest USA

    Thank you so much Belle for creating the challenge and all the words of encouragement too! 😊

    • Today I signed up for the 100 day challenge with support. I have never gone more than 30 days. And lately not more than 7 or 10 days. Its encouraging to see posts from those who have done it and that its worth it! Thank you!

  • Day 6 on my commitment to NOT drink for 100+ days. I wasn’t sure I had an real issue with /alcohol but I’m having a hard wake up call. I haven’t slept in 3 days, I’m nauseous, my heart won’t stop racing, I’m jittery, and I feel like crap.I hope I can make it over this detox. Any words of advice form those who have been there?

  • I’m on day 50 (wow how did I get here?!) yet now is not the time to get complacent. That’s when Wolfie likes to sneak in and start whispering in my ear. I’m so grateful to have found you, Belle. Here’s to 50 more and many more sober and better days after that!

  • Iam 8 days sober today – and tested positive for covid yesterday and not feeling very well. I am determined to find ways to exist without alcohol find the strengths that I have within myself.

  • I’ve had way too many day 1’s lately. Moderation is not working. Today, August 5, 2022 is my last day 1 for at least 100 days. Thank you, Belle, for your support!

  • I am back at day one! Trying something new writing on here. I know I will feel so much better and enjoy life once sober. Committing to 100 days today!

  • Starting 100 days,I’m a few weeks in but I going to Ireland for a wedding this week, I have some coping strategies but I think this will help me be more accountable.
    Thanks My last drink was July 9th. I feel pretty good, I’m worried about how others will view me not drinking especially at a wedding, in a drinking nation where it’s the norm and drinking is expected.

    • I know how you feel, being from the UK there is a big “drink culture” and I always find something to stop me from doing day 1. I’m going to try again this week, drive to a couple of events and keep myself busy. Good luck!

    • I just attended a wedding and had exactly the same worries – this is how I rationalised it. There is so much to a wedding that ISNT alcohol. Anticipate the dress, the church or venue, the flowers, the posh frock you’re planning, the music, the food, the cake, the speeches, the banter, the dancing, the conversation and catching up… that got me through, I really soaked it all in. What was amazing the next day was how much I’d remembered and how my perception wasn’t that I’d white knuckled it through a tough challenge, but instead what a fantastic time I’d had. The only hard bit was when a very drunk woman sat down next to me at midnight and started to tell me about every holiday she’d had. I went to bed and and made myself a hot chocolate 😍Good luck!

  • HI Belle, I signed up for the 100 day sober challenge several months ago now, and initially had many slips, and even a relapse. My last effort at being sober started somewhere about May 1. However, on May 17. With the help of my alcohol treatment therapist, a vast number of things floating around inside my head fell into place and I have declared May 17 “Liberation Day”. As such, I have determined that May 17 marks the new start of my 100 day challenge. It’s not that my struggle is over, but rather I get it! I got all of it!! Consequently, since May 17, I’ve been moving forward with a determination, confidence and commitment that was previously lacking, or at best fleeting. But I can and will make it! Just wanted to share some good news with everyone, John 🙂

  • I had 30 months of sobriety but decided in April that a drink or two now and then wouldn’t hurt. I’ve now had three occasions when I drank more than I intended. I’m committing to 100 days sober.

  • Everyone I socialise with drinks. Some drink literally from morning to evening and don’t even get sloppy. Me, not so much. I live in a small country town and so I have started line dancing classes a few evenings a week. This seems to be helping, also reading sober books, blogs and podcasts. I’m on day 3 (again after doing 8 days the week before) and its hard but I will commit to 100 days.

  • I decided to start your 100 day sober challenge on April 6th. I’m on day 85 today. All sorts of shit has rained down on me in these past two months — family discord, illness, loss— but I haven’t had a drink, slip or sip. I’m learning to sit with my emotions and discover that feelings won’t kill me, but alcohol will. I’m in my sober car with good momentum, and I have a sober raincoat and umbrella in the backseat for the next time a toxic person wants to pour their shit on me. Thank you Belle for sharing your wisdom in this life changing marathon.

  • Today is day 1. Again. I’ve had many day 1’s and I’m sooo tired of starting over. I’m committing to 100 days of sobriety, so help me God!

  • Day 93
    My people drink. That’s what we do for fun or to ease pain. So yeah, I miss the bonding experience. Other than that and the occasional craving for a xx, it hasn’t been so bad. It actually feels pretty damn good. I’m rediscovering myself and reinventing myself at age 50.

  • I am committed to 100 days sober. I’m hoping it will go longer, maybe forever. My last drink was June 18.