100 Day Sober Challenge

Are you interested in doing the 100-day sober challenge?

​Here’s the pledge:

    “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”

OK, now what?

When I was trying to quit, I had many day 1s. It wasn’t until I got more support that I started to do better. 

It's not like we can do this alone in our head.

The drinking voice is just too convincing and it ‘sounds’ like it’s making sense (when really, that voice is bullshit, but it takes some outside cheerleading to figure that out).

And the cool thing about the internet is it’s more anonymous, which can really help, at least to begin.

There are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge

​1. ​With Support

​​If you'd like a live-human, sober penpal ​and get personalized, direct responses to emails, then you can sign up for the Sober Jumpstart. ​All ​​​levels come ​with a ​sober penpal (me!).

You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. ​And yes, we remain sober penpals for a whole year. ​I'll keep track of your dates, and remind you when it's time to get treats.

If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed. The sober penpal is part of the Jumpstart here.

2. Self-Administered

To do the sober challenge on your own, you can write out the pledge above and make a note of the date of your last drink.

Find ways to add in more tools and supports. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it. Read sober blogs (mine and others) every day 🙂 And be sure to sign up to get daily sober motivation emails below.


I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • “I will not drink for 100 days. No matter what. I can cry, but I will not drink. I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink. Bad things might happen, but I will not drink. Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother. But there will be no booze. Funerals? Weddings? Amputation? I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”
    Last day of drink: 9/24/21.

  • I am tired of the self talk in my head telling me that alcohol makes me feel better when it actually doesn’t and causes me pain and grief in my relationship and with myself. My last drink 21st september 2021

  • I am starting today. I’ve been struggling to stop on my own and heard about the challenge in Catherine Grey’s book. I’m happy to have joined you.

    • I also first read about it in Catherine Gray’s book and decided to try for 100 instead of just 30. On Day 70. I’ve read and listened to a lot, but Belle’s stuff probably makes the most sense. Good luck!

  • Its 6am and my head is fuzzy, again. Yesterday morning I swore I wouldn’t drink again but then the pressure and overwhelm of everything I’m juggling pushes me over the edge and I say f**k it. I don’t want to cope this way anymore. I really want to stop drinking for good but what can I do to push through these first days and weeks? I can’t get past 1 day. The triggers feel like an ambush everyday lately.

    • Lou, I did this challenge a few years ago and am now at day 1,373! I would never ever have believed it possible, but Belle’s book and those of Catherine Gray etc got me to this point. In case it helps at all, I found Belle’s bracelet “not today” the best thing of all. When Wolfie started howling at about 5 p.m. I would hold on tight to it, stare at it, and repeat over and over “not today” ! I finally got to a place where I feel free! I wish you all the luck in the world, and don’t give up. Sarah X

  • Day 1 for me. I did this before for eight months. Then back to my old battle. The continual letting myself down. Drinking does not make me happy. I want a life without it. It promises so much more than it delivers. I’m scared though!

  • I’m awake at 5am and have not been able to sleep for a couple of hours now. I want to stop drinking. I want to be accountable. I want to have fun and feel connection with those I love without feeling the need to drink. Date of my last drink: September 9th.

  • I started on September 3rd, 2021; so today is my day five. I am a binge drinker – not a daily drinker; so stopping is never hard for me. The hard part is whenever I start (no “OFF” button). NO EXCUSES! I’m going to STICK to it this time!

  • Day 3. Need lasting change. Tired of the alcohol free amazing – ok to moderate – there goes a bottle of wine – back on the AF journey – hamster wheel

  • I’ve made it to day 7, having spent ALOT of time on the couch reading. One thing I’m most surprised at, is that I haven’t beaten myself up about being lazy. The chores can wait. I feel good.

  • Day 12. Feeling absolutely exhausted not physically in fact much better physically but I just can’t sleep, so my eyes are and brain seem forever tired. I long for this bit to be over.

  • Wow…. Just reading these comments… V emotional…. Why do we do this to ourselves???… Alcohol is one scary substance! Struggling to quit through 20s and 30s now in 40s and desperate to salvage the rest of my life… I have a beautiful 9yr old son who loves his Mummy… How can I deprive him of my best self…. Crazy! I actually find my desire to inhale a bottle of wine most days utterly terrifying! Fuck those getting rich on our demise… So glad tide is starting slowly to turn against it ♥️ PS am Scottish, not drinking here is considered unfriendly 🙈

  • I’m day 10 of sobriety and most definitely up for this challenge. Read about it in The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober

  • Today is day 1 for me. The wolfie voice makes so much sense to me. Thanks for explaining it so clearly. It’s like a new understanding that I feel will help me get past that voice that I’ve allowed myself to listen to so many times in the past.

    I guess I had been feeling alone and did think that there was something wrong with me to explain why I couldn’t achieve the moderation I’d hoped for.

    Your words ‘tired of thinking about drinking’ completely describe how I’ve been feeling for a long time.

  • I finally stopped 16 days ago, after 4 decades of on and off abuse of alcohol and drunken incidents. Enough is enough. I choose not to drink alcohol and am taking on the 100 day challenge a day at a time. Thank you for this Belle.

  • Belle, I bought your book(w/a pessimistic attitude:)) because I’ve read many ‘get sober’ books half way thru-out the years before ditching them. But I really want to stop this love affair w/vodka! I started reading your book 2 weeks ago…. and I read just a little bit each day because I’m waiting for that certain part in the book that will have Wolfie saying,”Told you this is just another b.s. book!” So far, I like what I’m learning n seeing different perspectives on how to be alcohol free. Wolfie talks, but I ain’t listening. Instead I look forward to getting your emails and hearing about other people just like me. I don’t know what will happen. All I know is your book has given me hope! That may sound cheesy or whatever but to me???….wow! It’s a big deal. Day 4

  • I’m about half way through the book, reading it, I could have written the words myself, i sooo want to stop drinking, 2 bottles most nights can’t remember the last day I didn’t have a wine at night. I’m bored with drinking now, I know it’s starting to affect my health.
    I’m hoping this will give me strength I need to stop. Xx

  • Last day of drinking was July 13. I’m 27 days today, going for 100, and then some. I already feel so much better. I don’t ever want another day1.

  • Day 7 of sobriety. Gained 5 lbs this week but I will deal with that later. This is the most important decision of my life. Live free or live in my own muted, narcissistic, guilt ridden, deceitful world? I choose freedom. I choose life. Hold me accountable.

  • I am day 10 and just discovered this book today I’m inspired and looking forward I’ve written my no matter what pledge which is on my fridge now

  • Alcohol is so normalised in society and reading some books that talk about sobriety shook me. I’m a lot happier and more productive without alcohol. I did three months earlier this year and now i’m going to commit to 100 days which will hopefully turn into sobriety forever.

  • I am committing to not drinking alcohol for 100 days, I have had few months here and there without drink and life is so much better. I now want drink out o my life for good. I want to get to a place where it is the last thing I want to do, I know it sucks the life out of me. My day 1 August 1st 2021

  • I struggled with if I had a problem with alcohol, or not, for years. I knew I did, or sometimes did but didn’t want to be labeled an alcoholic. I listened to Catherine Gray’s book The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober twice through and my fist day AF was July 24th. Today is day 9 for me and fear has crept in. I’m feeling happy and energetic yet a fear is there that I will fail. I want to participate in this challenge and put more tools in my box. I want to be able to laugh at the fear once I complete my goals successfully.
    Im so inspired by all of you!