100 Day Sober Challenge

Are you interested in doing the 100-day sober challenge?

​Here’s the pledge:

    “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”


OK, now what?

When I was trying to quit, I had many day 1s. It wasn’t until I got more support that I started to do better. 

It's not like we can do this alone in our head.

The drinking voice is just too convincing and it ‘sounds’ like it’s making sense (when really, that voice is bullshit, but it takes some outside cheerleading to figure that out).

And the cool thing about the internet is it’s more anonymous, which can really help, at least to begin.

There are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge

​1. ​With Support

​​If you'd like a live-human, sober penpal ​and get personalized, direct responses to emails, then you can sign up for the Sober Jumpstart. ​All ​​​levels come ​with a ​sober penpal (me!).

You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. ​And yes, we remain sober penpals for a whole year. ​I'll keep track of your dates, and remind you when it's time to get treats.

If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed. The sober penpal is part of the Jumpstart here.


2. Self-Administered

To do the sober challenge on your own, you can write out the pledge above and make a note of the date of your last drink.

Find ways to add in more tools and supports. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it. Read sober blogs (mine and others) every day 🙂 And be sure to sign up to get daily sober motivation emails below.

Belle

I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • I will not drink for at least 100 days. Like most people pledging, I have given up alcohol before but couldn’t make it stick. I know now it is because I didn’t protect my sobriety, I didn’t realise I needed to until it was too late and I had succumbed to the voice in my head again. This time will be different because this time I will invest in my sobriety for at least 30 minutes every day. I will spend that time reading or listing to podcasts about alcohol addiction and creating my toolkit to keep me sober.

    Today is my day 7.

  • I will not drink for 100 days no matter what. I can cry but I will not drink. I can go to bed early or come home early. I might feel distressed but I will not drink. Bad things might happen, but I will not drink. Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me or my neighbor or my friends’ grandmother. But there will be no booze. Friends? Weddings? Amputation? I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens. No matter what

    Today is my DAY 2:)

  • 25days and so happy I started. Something has finally clicked for me I’ve given alcohol too much time in my head for so long

  • I will not drink for 100 days. No matter what. I can cry, but I will not drink. I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink. Bad things might happen, but I will not drink. Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother. But there will be no booze. Funerals? Weddings? Amputation? I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”

  • I have realised that most of the bad things that have happened in my life are in some way related back to my drinking. I can not drink for a maximum of two weeks but then binge for a whole weekend, causing damage to my relationships and self loathing so strong I feel suicidal. Enough is enough I’m ready to change. I’m on day 12 continuous days for January and just starting to crave a drink, I think a supportive ‘tribe’ will really help 🙂

  • I feel as though I take 3 steps forward and 10 steps back. And I think it is because I haven’t hit a bottom. Which is stupid – because I wouldn’t be on here if I wasn’t at a bottom, right? But – good paying job, no DUI, haven’t lost home/husband/job, and no one seems to know that I drink, as it mostly done alone. So … what is to stop me? Except me. But I feel I am not strong enough.

    • hi you. not being able to stop is a sign of this thing progressing. that you find it hard to give up something addictive is a sign of addiction, right? if you want to be an over-drinker, you’d be off doing that. instead you’re here reading this, trying to figure out how to feel better without actually stopping drinking. the thing you want is on the other side. the thing you want you will find with continuous days sober. hugs

      • All true. I want that. I can do this.

        I will not drink for 100 days no matter what. I can cry but I will not drink. I can go to bed early or come home early. I might feel distressed but I will not drink. Bad things might happen, but I will not drink. Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me or my neighbor or my friends’ grandmother. But there will be no booze. Friends? Weddings? Amputation? I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens. No matter what.

  • “I will not drink for 100 days. No matter what. I can cry, but I will not drink. I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink. Bad things might happen, but I will not drink. Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother. But there will be no booze. Funerals? Weddings? Amputation? I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”

  • january 9th, 2023. i stayed sober today.
    thank you, belle, for creating this blog, and thank you to catherine gray for leading me to it.

  • I went a year & five months with you Belle but lurked. No accountability because everyone drinks here. I’m on day 3 and already feel better. I remember now how great it felt to wake up in the morning. I want that life back. I already have your books.

  • End of Day 0… been here before but feeling more hopeful it can stick this time. Found the book about sobriety, same as many here… so trying several avenues for support. I guess we’ll see how this goes and if I can stick back to my running as an incentive.

  • Day 2. Feel afraid I can’t. I know my Wolfie is a smooth talker. The glass wall post was really powerful. My sister took a video of me once after cleaning out the garage and drinking all the while (came close to an accident with a sharp tool I was putting away)- I was mouthing off trying to be funny and I was disgusted at it when I saw it. How many times have I been the loud, self centered company of friends?

  • I picked up The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober two days ago, which led me here. I picked it up because I had yet another convincer last Sunday.. I had made plans to watch the World Cup final with my brother and mom. I drank myself into oblivion- alone in my apartment and for no good reason- the day before. I somehow got across town in time for the game but felt increasingly nauseous throughout. I had to run upstairs twice to be sick.

    I’ve tried so many times to cut back or just have a couple. It hasn’t worked. This is my first time really acknowledging that I can’t just cut back. I can feel my brain flinching away from the word ‘alcoholic’ even as I type this. Even though episodes like Sunday morning have felt fairly normal for Years. I’m afraid to even try the 100 day challenge because I’m terrified of failing again. I’m terrified friends and family will find out. The thought of anyone knowing makes me feel even sicker than Sunday morning..
    But I’m typing this right now instead of blacking out on the couch. I really need some help.

    • Hi Alex. Not sure of your age but i’ve known for years that my binge drinking is a problem and i’ve never lied to myself about it. I quit for 7 months during lockdown and it was an amazing journey. I started again because I was bored one day and that dreaded voice “You’ve got this under control now…. you know you can go without. It’ll be ok to have just a few glasses of wine…” reared its ugly head.

      I quit again on the 1st Jan this year. I already feel amazing. The aches and pains have gone, i’m sleeping better, look better etc… Cried in bed last night for no reason I could think of. I didn’t feel sad as such…. I thinks its just my body and spirit shedding toxicity.

      I want to tell you that there is strength in vulnerability. For years I thought only people who drink in the morning everyday were alcoholics. But that’s not true. There’s no shame in admitting it. I would only drink a couple of times a week, but I would binge and end up doing and saying stupid things and wake up full of dread. I am an alcoholic as I am unable to drink moderately. My goal is to quit booze for 1 year and im telling everybody at work and in my personal life. There’s nothing wrong in admitting you have a problem. I actually find it empowering.

  • Day 7 here – feeling good and motivated, but a bit worried I’m going to slip up at a boozy occasion and we’re heading into Xmas but determined not to give in.

  • Day 2! Day one was yesterday, and I have been reading The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober for a cpl days. It led me to this blog. I feel hopeful. And excited to really stick to it this time. No more day ones!!. No more week of bingeing while I’m out of town on a work trip – no more secrets. No more wasted time/money… days. Nights I don’t remember !! Thanks for the support here.