100 Day Sober Challenge

Are you interested in doing the 100-day sober challenge?

​Here’s the pledge:

    “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”


OK, now what?

When I was trying to quit, I had many day 1s. It wasn’t until I got more support that I started to do better. 

It's not like we can do this alone in our head.

The drinking voice is just too convincing and it ‘sounds’ like it’s making sense (when really, that voice is bullshit, but it takes some outside cheerleading to figure that out).

And the cool thing about the internet is it’s more anonymous, which can really help, at least to begin.

There are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge

​1. ​With Support

​​If you'd like a live-human, sober penpal ​and get personalized, direct responses to emails, then you can sign up for the Sober Jumpstart. ​All ​​​levels come ​with a ​sober penpal (me!).

You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. ​And yes, we remain sober penpals for a whole year. ​I'll keep track of your dates, and remind you when it's time to get treats.

If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed. The sober penpal is part of the Jumpstart here.


2. Self-Administered

To do the sober challenge on your own, you can write out the pledge above and make a note of the date of your last drink.

Find ways to add in more tools and supports. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it. Read sober blogs (mine and others) every day 🙂 And be sure to sign up to get daily sober motivation emails below.

Belle

I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • Hi comrades, my last drink was August 17, 2020. So, if I’m counting right, today is day 31.

    My final motivation was the fact that I was turning 50 on Sept 1 and realized that I am not actually immortal. Facing mortality when you’re ‘suddenly’ on the ‘back nine’ of life is SUPER YUCKY and, for me, powerful. I also didn’t want to wake up on my birthday and not like myself. So, I did what I’ve known I needed to do for a long time and stopped, without much forethought. I bought a bunch of ‘quit lit’ – which I’ve never done and I think it’s helping – and every non-alcoholic drink I could find.

    I’m pleased that I’ve made it this far without too much misery and CONSTANTLY ANXIOUS at the same time. I drink (DRANK!) to escape a very difficult situation – in 2016, my husband was diagnosed with a fatal and physically, mentally, and emotionally crippling degenerative neurological disease and is no longer, through no fault of his own, the man I married or the father my children knew. I am heartbroken and EVERYTHING in our family and life falls to me. More difficult and permanently terrifying is the fact that this condition – which we did not know he had – is hereditary and there is no cure. But it was also taking everything good that was left in my life from me.

    The last month hasn’t been as hard as I expected so I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. It almost did yesterday, but it didn’t. I too am reading “The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober” and found this group there. I could really use your support for the next two months (and decades) as I fear my trial will get harder with time.

    …With gratitude…

  • Hi This is Jess. I’ve done the 100 days several times but somehow find my way back to doing it again. I wish I could say I was a sober person that slipped but I feel like a drinker that’s wanting to stop and keeps staring over. So here I am. Day one, let’s get this journey started. I am going to make this stick. I’m so done with starting over.

  • “I will not drink for 100 days. No matter what. I can cry, but I will not drink. I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink. Bad things might happen, but I will not drink. Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother. But there will be no booze. Funerals? Weddings? Amputation? I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”

    My first message was deleted, I didn’t read the guidelines. Sorry about that. This whole site is huge and I’m not the best at maneuvering around sites. Hope I’m doing it right this time…supposed to pledge first? I do! I pledge my entire being on not drinking for 100 days, to learn everything I can from all of you. Woke up this morning earlier than normal only because all night I thought and thought and worried because my mind was made up that Today will be my beginning, the beginning of day 1 of not drinking.

  • So, I fell on day 104! I knew I would and actually reached out on here and am so sorry not to have seen that some of you replied to me, thank you for that.
    I’ve started again, this time for 180 days, in the hope that my head will change by the time I get there.
    I do feel different already. In fact, something happened to me during those 100 days and now I just know that I am a sober person who fell and not a drinking person who’s trying to stop.
    I have you to thank for this, Belle. I listened to your “church” recording and finally realised the importance of understanding the difference between what I can’t control and what I can. For example, I can’t control the fact that I have a degenerative eye disease but I can control how I handle the post-treatment days. I no longer buy wine and tons of comfort food (that’s another problem soon to be faced) and get blotto afterwards, now I fill myself up with comfort food but leave off the wine. It’s a gigantic jump in the right direction.
    Learning to live with all the things I can’t control has been hard for me all my life but now for the first time I feel I can and I am.
    Megs (day 6/180)

  • Hi, I’m also a John whose last drink was on 6 September 2020. I absolutely loved drinking but I just wasn’t very good at it. They say you inherit your drinking skills from your parents, and I have to agree on that one – thanks mum. I’ve tried to quit before and probably not too dissimilar to a lot of people on here, I’m hoping this time will be different. I’m 40 now and mainlining a bottle of red on a school night before passing out on the couch just isn’t working for me anymore, mentally and physically. I’ve recently outgrown my fat clothes. It feels more a habit than an addiction but even still a life without alcohol seems very difficult to imagine. How does it look and how are we supposed to fill the void?

    • Hi JB, I am the other John you mentioned. Day 7 today and I hope your week has been good? I know what you mean about the fat clothes, I have pulled out some old clothes I haven’t worn for a long while that I would like to wear just so I can have an image of myself being different in the not too different future I hope. It may just be for me, but dieting at the same time as going sober is helping my motivation. If I break my diet I would convince myself that a drink would be ok, and if I drink I would have to eat. And if I said one glass of wine won’t hurt, it would be two bottles before I know it. So Day 8 tomorrow and week two so we have done well, haven’t we? Stay strong one day at a time and have a good week.
      John

  • Date of last drink August 8, 2020. This is so much harder than I thought it would be. The voice in my head never stops and I’m at constant battle with it. I know I need to be sober, and this time I WANT to be sober. I keep trying to go back and find the moment were I felt I needed to drink/deserved the drink, where it became my way to cope with everything…boredom, frustration, pain, you name it, but I don’t know. At least 8 years now, I think it’s all been a blur…I feel like I don’t know who right now without the alcohol and I planned so much around it. I don’t know what my hobbies are, I don’t know what brings me joy. 34 years old and I’m trying to find myself, or at least get to know sober self and it’s just hard.

  • Today is day 51 and I am really proud of myself. My husband has continued to drink in excess and I am finding that I have little patience for people who are drunk. It isn’t resentment that I’m feeling, it’s disappointment. I’m disappointed that this is how I had spent my time for many years, and I’m disappointed that my kids have had to witness this. I am disappointed that I have slowly poisoned myself to the point where I now have to deal with health concerns. Day 100 will be October 27th and I cannot wait!

    I am so very thankful for Belle and this group. I feel like I can be heard without judgement.

  • This feels like a big step but this is Day 1 so the date of my last drink was 6th September 2020. Feeling very apprehensive not so much about today but long term. I have Belle’s book and am about half way through but will finish it today. I am accountable to myself, for myself. Like many other comments here, I have failed at moderating my drinking and I am frightened of what I am doing to myself. I will not drink for the next 100 days, but I know that I will have to go beyond that, but for now, this is Day 1. It is good to know that others are out there facing similar battles. Thank you.

  • Okay this is me… Jack. Seven days down the road… and making the 100 day pledge. No matter what happens… jeez, it’s even tricky to type never mind say outloud, ahem, “No matter what happens I will not drink for 100 days.” And after all that… that didn’t seem so bad. But of course I’ve been here before… and of course it’s not now, at not yet nine o’ clock in the morning (well for me anyway. ) The fun with Wolfie will start at around four… when that Dick wakes up and goes on the prowl for a few hours spouting his bollocks. But we ain’t at home for Dickheads today! I’ve really found these message boards and Belle’s golden nuggets (?!) something of a touchstone this last week as I’ve got my own sober little jaloppi started. So thanks to you all… and especially Mrs. B. And more power to us. Best wishes, Jack.

  • i only 21, i shouldn’t need to be sober, right? i just want to drink all the time because it’s new and exciting, right? the fact is i’ve been drinking since high school and never slowed down, the pace just picked up. i don’t always black out when i drink, but i normally can’t go two days without a drink. my family said it was a problem (behind my back of course) and my boyfriend is always upset about the person i become when i drink, but she can’t be THAT bad (like i ever remember).
    how embarrassing would it be to say, “oh i can’t have a drink, i’m going sober” at 21? but while reading catherine grey’s “the unexpected joy of being sober” i’ve realized it’s not the amount of alcohol i consume that terrifies me;
    it’s the voice in my head. the one that tells me i need a drink after a “long day”, the voice that tells me i don’t have to stop drinking because i don’t have work tomorrow, the voice that tells me that since i’m bored i might as well drink. i’m not physically addicted to alcohol, but mentally, i know no matter my age, that craving will always exist. it will soon consume my mind so intently i will lose everyone that is still close to me, while also loosing myself.
    september 4, 2020 was the date of my last drink.

    • Ah Hannah, I wish I had been as wise as you at 21!
      There’s a beautiful life out there for you, commit to it and live it to the full.
      Bless.
      Megs

  • Day 30 for me today. I’ve been here before, but feeling different this time thanks to all of you and Belle! I will not let Wolfie fool me this time. Finally realizing that putting myself and my sobriety first is the key! Day 100 here I come!

  • Day 2 for me. I too have tried to moderate but I find that it’s that first drink that is always the problem. I’m afraid to make the pledge but here I am, making the 100 day pledge to live AF. I found my way here be way of the Recovery Elevator interview with Belle. So encouraging.

  • I will not drink. I enjoy being sober and for 100 day( and forever but don’t tell that bastard Wolfie because I need him to shut up for awhile) I will not drink not matter what. Good or bad things will happen but I will be sober.

  • Today, with 100 days sober under my belt I am working on day 101. I seriously doubt I would be here at all without Belle’s book & sober tools and this community. Coming across Belle in Catherine Gray’s “The unexpected joy of being sober” (absolutely recommendable!) truly changed my life – IT IS about trying different not harder! It feels so comforting to know that I am not alone. I am happy and grateful to join the Team 180. Here is my pledge (thoroughly typed not copy and paste 🙂 ):
    I have done 100 days sober, and I know my life is better. It’s not always easy, but I am moving in the right direction. I’d like to continue going in that direction. And I’d like to see what happens next. I will not drink for 180 days … not even if my partner drinks, not if I need surgery, nor if there is a zombie apocalypse. No matter what. Because I want to see what happens next.
    Thank you for being here, Belle! xoxoxo

  • Help please! Seems odd me asking for help because today I’ve reached my goal – 100 days sober today!!! After 30 years of never having gone more than 9 days it’s an incredible achievement for me. But the joy and pride I feel is dampened by that little niggling voice telling me that now I’ve proved I can do it, I can moderate. Now I can be like everyone else and have a glass of wine every now and then!! How sick is that? How sick am I? I thought I was out of the woods because I haven’t been thinking about drinking, not much anyway during these 100 days,… but now? Now I need all the help I can get to start my second hundred days.
    Megs

    • ahh… now there’s a new pledge 🙂
      Team 180 Pledge:
      “I’ve done 100 days sober, and I know my life is better. It’s not always easy, but I am moving in the right direction. I’d like to continue going in that direction. And I’d like to see what happens next. I will not drink for 180 days … not even if my husband/partner/daughter drinks, not if I need surgery, nor if there is a zombie apocalypse. No matter what. Because I want to see what happens next.”

      • Thank you, for setting this up, Belle! I totally unexpectedly find myself struggling with an ear-battering howling wolfie as I hit day 100. Feeling lost and scared. It feels so comforting to know that I am not alone. I join Team 180 right away. xoxoxo

    • Your post resonates with me because I imagine that’s what I’ll feel like when I reach 100 days. I recently passed day 30 and have been really struggling with the thought that I can take a day off, no one will no, all that stuff. But so far so good. I admire you for reaching 100 days , that’s a giant accomplishment but it’s not the finish line. It’s just a place in the road with a new signpost that says “200 days this way –>”. You can do this. You have come this far you you’re stumbling a little but you haven’t fallen down. I believe you can move into the 100’s and keep on going! You’re not alone!

    • Megs, thank you for reaching out at this point (and making Belle setting up a new pledge 🙂 )! I am catching myself in a similar situation – struggling out of the blue as I reach day 100. Working on day 101 today. Hang in there, Megs!! We can do it!!

  • I have a question? do you need to have signed up the sober jumpstart to comment on here or is it just for people taking the 100 day achallenge…which ever the route? Thank you