100 Day Sober Challenge

Are you interested in doing the 100-day sober challenge?

​Here’s the pledge:

    “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”


OK, now what?

When I was trying to quit, I had many day 1s. It wasn’t until I got more support that I started to do better. 

It's not like we can do this alone in our head.

The drinking voice is just too convincing and it ‘sounds’ like it’s making sense (when really, that voice is bullshit, but it takes some outside cheerleading to figure that out).

And the cool thing about the internet is it’s more anonymous, which can really help, at least to begin.

There are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge

​1. ​With Support

​​If you'd like a live-human, sober penpal ​and get personalized, direct responses to emails, then you can sign up for the Sober Jumpstart. ​All ​​​levels come ​with a ​sober penpal (me!).

You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. ​And yes, we remain sober penpals for a whole year. ​I'll keep track of your dates, and remind you when it's time to get treats.

If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed. The sober penpal is part of the Jumpstart here.


2. Self-Administered

To do the sober challenge on your own, you can write out the pledge above and make a note of the date of your last drink.

Find ways to add in more tools and supports. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it. Read sober blogs (mine and others) every day 🙂 And be sure to sign up to get daily sober motivation emails below.

Belle

I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • I will not drink for 100 days. No matter what. I’m tired of living with the monster that drains my optimism and perverts my way of thinking. I’m tired of my health going downhill because of hangovers blocking me from healthy activities. My family and my home deserve the best of me, and I am tired of letting alcohol deprive them of it. I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what. Not even a little bit. None.

  • I just finished a 30 day challenge. It was easier than expected so now I am excepting some rough times 6-8 weeks. No desire to drink. Last drink was June 17, 2021.

  • I commit to 100 days without drinking. I will not drink, no matter what happens. I have had sober stretches before, but always slide back into drinking, then drinking more, then drinking even more. I’m sick of feeling exhausted, anxious and overwhelmed, and for weeks, the thought of “the best thing I can do for myself is to stop drinking” has been running through my head, constantly. I want to do better, to be better, to feel better, for my kids, my partner, for myself. My last drink was July 13, 2021.

  • I am tired of my life revolving around alcohol: Thinking about drinking, drinking, thinking about not drinking. So much time wasted, so many opportunities lost. I am drained, zero energy. Going through the machinations of getting things done (barely), but not really living. Enough already! Life is too short for this bs. I am taking a shot at finding my joyous self again. I know she is here. Today my independence starts.

  • Day 1 – Here I go: I will not drink for 100 days. No matter what. I can cry, but I will not drink. I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink. Bad things might happen, but I will not drink. Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother. But there will be no booze. Funerals? Weddings? Amputation? I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.
    Last drink was June 30, 2021

  • Day 1 for me. Sick and tired of this horrible feeling. I need to start living again. Alcohol has me in a prison. It’s taking over my life and my happiness. I’ve no energy , I’m depressed and feeling ill. I drink alone to deal with the losses I have had in life. I need an end to this loop of destruction so here I am.

  • Day 1 June 25th 2021. I managed over 200 days alcohol free but I’ve now been drinking for the past 2 years. The shame guilt and rubbing out of my brain and personality stops today.

  • Today is my day 1. Like so many others I have had multiple day 1’s. Writing this down is so hard for me but I now take charge of my life and my well-being. I accept the responsibility to stop drinking. Why do something that causes me so much inner pain?

  • Today is my day 1 again, my most amazing beautiful kid is my inspiration to not drink as I know she needs to see and understand by the example I set.

  • My newest Day 1 was 5 days ago….I’ve been starting over with days 1’s for over 6 years. I’ll go from a couple of weeks to a few months up to 11.9 months. But, I want this, I really really want this to stick this time! I want to be present for me, for my boys, for my friends and family. The wolf inside of me loves to tell me how much fun I’m missing out on, how unfair it is that others can drink and I can’t, and that I’m actually a “Normal” drinker! However, I know I’m not a normal drinker: I black out, I’m sassy, I vomit, I ditch work and commitments, I’m promiscuous, etc….those are not “Fun” attributes to live with. I’m the WORST to reach out when I need help. Actually, Wolfie tells me that I deserve a few drinks and that I’m my own person and can make my own decisions. June 10, 2021 is my first day….I’m praying to make it to 100

  • Day 1. Last day drinking was June 14 2021. Exhausted from continually thinking about drinking. I’m convinced I can’t get beyond 1 or 2 days. After a day or two I’ve convinced myself again that I don’t have a problem. Today I start my 100 days sober. The decision has in some odd way given over to a sense of relief. Looking forward to my first morning without a hangover. It’s been a long time.

  • I will not drink for 100 days! Last drink was Saturday 12th June and here we are four days later, awake far too early with anxiety knots, guilt and palpitations. Time to change my life for the better, for my health, for my kids and for my husband. I can do this!

  • Day 66. I first checked in here on day 12. Last 5-7 days have been harder for me, harder than the first week. Not sure why, just feeling I have been in the 50-60 day range FOREVER, time is slowing down and the thought of never having “fun” again with alcohol is bringing me down, which is stupid I know. Waiting for this blah phase to pass and trying to distract myself with projects and finding some things that will make me feel “1% better” as Belle says. If anyone is looking for more sober tools/supports — I subscribed to the podcasts and they are more helpful than I could have imagined. Today I am trying to focus on ALL the good things I have gained and not the tiny (less than one hour) of “fun” I have given up by going alcohol free.

  • This sounds so insignificant but one of the things that helps me immensely is my day counter. I look at it more than once during the day. I’m proud of it. And resetting it would be my worst nightmare. Watching the days, even the hrs add up is so encouraging!

  • Today is day 1 for me in the 100 day challenge. I’m sitting here with my typical morning hangover which I can do without and believe me I tried. I need to be accountable so this is my start on what will be an alcohol free 100 day journey. I need and want this!

  • After nearly 11 years sober, started playing with it again three months ago.. Worried husband, slipping at work, lost confidence, hangovers last forever….
    Have not been able to return to AA – too much shame but I know I’ll drink again if I don’t talk about it to someone….Hi Folks! Five days ‘free’ today.

  • I pledge to not drink alcohol for 100 days. I’m now on Day 4 and feeling ok but incredibly tired for some reason. I have found the last year very difficult and was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I’ve been drinking more frequently throughout lockdowns and could not stop at one glass, it had to be two or three. It was affecting my sleep and my mood which was worse, so it seems daft to take medication to feel better and then drink. Warning bells rang when I drank alone and hide the bottle from my husband. I’m exhausted of thinking about this and know that I’ve got to take control.

  • Day 2. I don’t think I drink a lot most of the time, but occasionally I drink way too much. I can’t remember hours of my life. Vomiting all over my bed. It’s never good. I’m worried I won’t be fun or able to have fun if I don’t drink, despite some of my best friends having never drunk alcohol.

  • I am on day 60 and doing pretty well for the most part. We’ve hosted a few gathering and I was able to Not drink without too much trouble ( spent a lot of time in the bathroom). I am concerned because we are attending a wedding next month that will be held at a vineyard so I imagine I might have difficulty.

  • Day 110. Mostly easier than the first 10. Looking at messages about what comes after the 100 days.

    When I foresee a Wolfie situation, I asked myself out loud, “am I going to pass through this moment without a drink?” And I answered myself “yes, you are. Get on with it” It is great to have made the decision ahead of time, often easier said than done, I know. Who knew, exercise AND walk the dog in the morning, and even perform activities after supper, regularly, I’m so glad to have this time back.
    Belle’s advice of delaying, eating a raw lemon at the sink, go to bed early, just go to bed, etc. are so very helpful. Onward!

  • Day 11 and it’s getting tough! Think it’s time for a little help and accountability. I have the dreaded boozy pool party for a friend this weekend and I’m going to need some help getting through it. Fingers crossed!

  • Im into my 3rd week sober. I had lots of day 1’s and was convinced that I would never be able to stop drinking completely. The wolf in my head is fading more and more each day. I feel great and full of energy and motivation. I control ME and not the drink. I didn’t like what was looking back at me in the mirror when I was drinking and now Im beginning to believe in myself again and my confidence is booming. Date of last drink: 25th April 2021

  • May 11th,
    I let my guard down and the wolf entered, I was just over 10 months sober. I chose to ignore prelapse and on Bank Holiday Sunday seeing everyone sat outside the pub, feeling sorry for myself, I got in the car, drove to the shop and bought wine and vodka.
    I drank the wine, two days later I had a vodka and tonic, the next day i got up and emptied the vodka out down the sink.
    Last weekend, I drank some beers just because I thought I could, so here I am back on Day 2, because I know I cant.
    Life is so much better in control.

  • Day 10 for me . I know going forward I will need support to make it to 100 days . Looking forward to hearing about Wolfie , how to silence himand learning about self care to help me stay on the road. Looking forward to being a gran one day . A present and sober gran. Also looking forward to my daughters wedding next year . Present and sober , remembering every moment and having no concerns about getting enough to drink , making a fool of myself or next day regrets. Date of last drink 29/4/21

  • I have a ‘good’ excuse. My drinking is not (yet) at a dramatic level, but I NEED it to stop feeling sad. My grandson died 18 months ago. One of triplets, family live in Australia, so I can’t even get to my daughter or the 2 remaining brothers who are growing up too quickly. The pandemic has made things worse, or has it just made it easier to pretend?

  • Day 1 sober … again. This has to be my last day 1, I want to be the best version of myself and make my dreams come true – not live this nightmare anymore

  • Day 3 of not drinking. I’m honestly relieved to have made this choice, and am excited to see how my life improves.

  • I’m on day 44…I was feeling great until I went to the doctors today and he told me I needed to loose 20lbs! I said sheesh doc I quick drinking I thought the weight would be down so I might as well start again! We laughed together (but inside I was serious….my Wolfie was in overdrive). I have be with zero alcohol for 44 days which is huge..I do drink NA beers like Heineken Zero but only have one here and there just when I have a craving for a drink which has really reduced which I am happy about but after my doctors appointment the urge to leave there and go to the liquor store was huge like a Day 1 urge..uhhh I felt defeated! But I didn’t didn’t tho..I went to the grocery store instead, stocked up on healthy foods and I told myself my reason for not drinking anymore was to change my lifestyle for the better, this change in my diet will only help me reach my goal that I created for myself. I guess what I was so honestly so shocked about that my strong urge to drink again could just pop up like that …I didn’t really belive all this time that I actually had a true “drinking urge” maybe I didn’t want to believe it but I realize now I do from today’s situation. I’ll add that new knowledge to my path on sobriety and keep fighting even harder for myself. Thanks for listening!

  • Day 12 for me. Absolutely committed to make it to 100. I went 8 months sober from July 2016 to March 2017. Started up again SO slowly…just one drink…just a few times a month…then it increases SO gradually and blah blah blah. When covid started in March 2020 and my kids got sent home from school I thought “I can have a little wine every night, it’s a pandemic for crying out loud” got back to basically daily drinking which was a place I swore I would not be again. Doesn’t help that my husband is a drinker and we have a wine/spirits storage closet in the basement and a separate closet just for alllll the port he is aging. (luckily, I hate port.) But I’ve dusted off all my sober tools from before and I’m reading Belle’s books and adding more. I can see what messed me up before and I’m going to really use my tools this time when hard situations come up.
    Some of my favorite Belle analogies are:
    (1) sobriety being like a little chick that you have to carefully protect so it doesn’t get squished (we had chickens and chicks when I was a kid, the chicks ARE super delicate as my younger sister can tell you what happened when she accidentally stepped on one).
    (2)each sober day being a brick in the wall between me and the voice/wolfie. I need waaaaay more bricks to make my wall higher/longer/stronger. I only have 12 bricks today and that’s way too easy for him to get around so I am being vigilant and using my tools!

  • Hey Belle – just checking in on 1,202 days sober! All because of you and my ‘not today’ bracelet! You and the rest of my sober support gang changed my life – thank you (such insufficient little words). Everyone here, just keep going, one day at a time! Love Sarah x

  • Just coming out of the 100-Day Sober Challenge joint journey working on my personal day 195 „i‘ve been sober for all 2021. i’ve been sober during a global pandemic. i don‘t get out of my sober car for nothing!“ 🚗 💨 💨 💨 Here is my new pledge (thoroughly typed not copy paste 😎): „I‘ve done 100 [194] days sober, and I know my life is better. It‘s not always easy, but I am moving in the right direction. I‘d like to continue going in that direction. And I‘d like to see what happens next. I will not drink for 180 days … not even if my partner drinks, not if I need surgery, nor if there is a zombie apocalypse (or a global pandemic). No matter what. Because I want to see what happens next.“
    Thank you so very much, dear Belle, for all you do & being here! May the universe bless you. Xoxoxo ❤️🙏

  • Day 1. I am loosing my children over this drinking. Why is a glass of wine more important than my kids? The longest, pregnancy aside, sober period was 4 months 3 years ago.

  • 100 days, I did it!! Hit a wall with depression and questioning everything about 2 weeks ago but stayed the course. Added more tools including, first time ever, reaching out to a close friend for help. My plan – DON’T celebrate with you-know-what (silly wolfie!) and keep going with 80 more days no matter what.
    Thank you Belle!

  • I’ve been drunk almost every day in March and today ends a 17 day bender. I’m tired of drinking and I’m scared to stop cuz I don’t believe I can. I’m not gonna get anywhere in life if I keep this up. I know I’ll be happier if I can cut it off completely. Day 1 sober.

  • I will not drink alcohol for 100 days (10×10 days cos that seems like it will work in chunks) I am on day 5 (again) last attempt I got to 54 days but went on a night away with my hubby who convinced me that I had ‘proved myself’ , so ok to moderate…well, he has now seen how serious this is and that I really cannot moderate (long story) today I have been flying off the handle and crying over nothing….the brain is an amazing organ and needs to be respected! It’ll be interesting to see the changes in me after all of these years over drinking every weekend for on/off 30/40 years….documenting each day and checking in with Belle podcasts every night or whenever things get tough…trying to relax, take breaths, time out, self care, treats…each and every day, to top up my sober car x

  • Day 1 – 29 March 2021. Failed over the weekend. Miserably. Woke up this morning feeling like shit, and absolutely determined never to feel like this again. Day 100 will be the day my daughter turns 6. No better time to start, as it will be the perfect gift for her. The best version of her mother.

  • Day 1 again! I can’t drink it doesn’t suit me but the wine witch wins more often than not. Not anymore if others can quit so can I!

  • Wow! I am so happy I found this. I have been struggling with this for 5 years now, and I can’t find a way to break the habit. I would really love to try this and succeed. Day 1 – March 23rd, 2021