Audio: All The Stuff

This is an audio clip from Sober Podcast #222 sent to sober podcast members.

When J sent me an email that said this: “I use all the supports, I do it all. But then a switch flips and I’m drinking…” I just had to reply.

The difference between what our brain says we’re doing, versus what we’re doing… that’s what I talk about here.

Can you see how this audio applies to something in your life? lemme know.

P.S., here’s the response from J after she listened: “Thank you. Wow. Awesome. I listened once and will listen again and take notes and email you and make lists. You are right on all accounts … My head is spinning now. I’m going to work up a plan and I will email it to you. Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear it.”


below i’ve posted a 3 minute clip from the longer audio, all i ask is that you leave a message in the comments. If you’d like to listen to the whole thing, you can use the link to download at the bottom of the post.



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I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • Interesting… I think I am doing enough and think I am spending enough time using my sober tools but I still too have Wolfie feeding me that shit bout a night off. Some days I am reading or listening to your advice for an HR or 2. The odd day I forget or have struggled to take time out until bedtime. I’m on day 112. I clearly need to up my game as I’m a bit fed up of Wolfie waiting to pounce.

  • Day 11. Last 3 days were hell but I didn’t drink. I love the message about I am not depriving myself. I can choose to drink and I can also choose not to! Brilliant! Just won $ on a lottery ticket. I will be signing up for the 100 day challenge!

  • My thoughts are I know all the stuff to do. I know it all. I’ve been studying it for years. My problem is come 5:00 I never want to do all the stuff. But now I know I am never going to feel like it. I just have to do it. So I’m doing more. And I’m going to bed early. Day 1 here and I am going to make it! Finally.

    • yes we all know the stuff to do, that’s never the problem. it’s about having more accountability and support. we can’t do it alone in our heads with a bunch of tools… we need external support of some kind. that’d be like saying “i know that the way to be surgeon is in these books…” – we need someone to show us, point out things, say “do this and not that even if it doesn’t make sense, you’ll see…” Trying to do it alone in our heads is just too hard. i know, i tried it for years.

  • I recently bought the bundle that has the prelapse audio and I didn’t think I would need it as I’m feeling very motivated. But actually I found it really helpful and it made think about preparing for the times Wolfie comes sniffing or trys a surprise ambush.

  • What applies to me is the realisation that I’m not
    “ getting away with it” if I drink when nobody knows. Or that I’m depriving myself by not drinking.
    I’m depriving myself of the chance of a good morning tomorrow if I decide to drink tonight. It’s me that’ll know I’ve drank whether anyone else knows and I’ll be the one carrying the guilt and shame associated with it….

    • Knowing that you may be able to get away with it so that no notices is not enough. I use to drink when my children were going to be late coming home. They always knew, either by the smell of booze in the house or that I didn’t make any sense when they would come in and say good night. But….I would always feel guilty the next day.