Audio: Community

Happy Merry HoHo.

I wanted to share this full-length episode from my sober podcast series. It’s called “Community” (SP231) and it’s about an hour long!

why does online sober support work? and how does it work … like, what is it about having a community of sober people that helps us to feel not so alone.

Well wrap yourself in a blanket, and come listen to this audio. I talk about community (on my site, and in general), and then we start talking about the politician Anthony Weiner and some difficulties he’s had with sexting.

What’s the relationship between sexting and over-drinking? He’s clearly a very smart guy. Funny, self-deprecating, with a voice in his head that says …

Well, you can listen to the audio and find out.

The reason for sharing this today, is so that over the next 48 hrs, if you need a bit sober community, you can dip in here for 10 minutes at a time, and soak up some support 🙂

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after you listen, post a comment and tell me what phrase from this audio is an a-ha moment for you. Something that you’ve maybe heard before, but today you REALLY heard it. Loud and clear.


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show notes / podcasts mentioned:

  • Orchids & Dandelions Part 1, and Part 2
  • Lindsay Lohan and Oprah, here
  • Link to be a podcast subscriber, here
  • Empathy for Addiction, here



comments from listeners:

T: “Sober Community, particularly the online kind, works for me because I don’t feel like I fit in the rooms of AA but I can’t do this on my own but people without a Wolfie voice can’t support me because they don’t get it. That is why I podcasts and websites like yours and the others I use are vital tools to help me have that sober community. Thank you so much Belle for all you do :)”

J: “I think you talking about how you run your thing explains why it works; another forum soberistas didn’t really work. I struggled with posting as I cared too much about replies and posts can be alienating.”


I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • I can’t pick one thing that stands out for me! Hmmm…

    I never thought I was alone with my problems, I was too aware that alcohol caused many many issues… but I FELT ALONE. Knowing and Feeling somehow don’t always connect in our Wolfie-voice heads!

    Then there is the bargaining with the multiple attempts at sobriety… because of the difficulty of quitting and the kindness I received along the way, I do look at the world with so much more empathy… so many good wishes and silent prayers. Mostly though, I’ve developed empathy for myself… as you pointed out!

    Community… I’m grateful for this community. I wish none of us needed it, but unfortunately I absolutely do… so it’s such a wonderful thing for me. Maybe it’s not magic, but it is magic that I found it and you Belle!

  • “Even if all these things smoothed out, your brain would invent reasons to drink. It would create chaos” – that is just a perfect description of the nonsensical way a Wolfie brain works! Winding yourself up, taking things personally, overcomplicating. And it’s why accountability is so helpful, in imagining replaying these “reasons” back if you did lapse.