Yesterday I recorded Sober Podcast Episode #155 for my longer, weekly sober podcast series. You’re familiar with the one-minute audios. These are longer, meatier.
In this episode I talk about Prelapse (the time before a relapse), the things to watch out for, in the period of time that would come BEFORE a relapse, including any time you hear “this is all too hard.”
This is my second full podcast on the subject of Prelapse. The first one is archived podcast episode 46. so it’s been a while.
The full audio recording for this episode is 28 minutes long. Here’s a 3 minute preview:
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“If what you’re trying isn’t working then try different” is the key here. I hear your voice in my head constantly saying “don’t try harder, try different”. Only after hearing that was I able to string together my longest stretch of sobriety ever. I didn’t have to beat myself up for not having enough willpower–I just have to stock my sober tool box with the right tools.
I can’t tell you how many times the voice in my head says “this is all too hard”. And then I listen to your audio’s and read a little more of your book to get grounded and I say “fuck you wolfie!” as many times as it takes. Thanks for being here. Day 48 🙂
So true about using the least amount of support/tools to get by. I was doing that, but it wasn’t working for me. I knew I had to sign up for the sober jumpstart class to do this thing. I had to reach out in some way, I HAD to do things differently. I have a large tool box now, and sober supports, emailing with Belle has made me feel more comfortable opening up with people my life about quitting drinking. It’s working for me so I’m gonna keep doing this work and keep my sober car going.
Hi, I really found this audio helpful. I think most of the folks who listen/read your blog know self-sabotage well. It this journey of ours, you get to a certain point and you’re tired. Tired of starting over. You have to make the conscious choice to be honest with yourself, and to take whatever space/tools you need to make sobriety work. Maybe its meds, maybe its reaching out to friends/family to create a sober network and hold yourself accountable, maybe it’s writing in your journal each day.
Hi, I listened live and it was great. I also read through all the first and second month blog posts. Now I’m going to buy the book. At one point you mentioned PNP (Kathleen D)…I tried that whole thing too. Obviously it didn’t work for me but did help me to gain 30 pounds & now I’m wondering if I’m using not drinking wine to justify eating whatever I want. It has been somewhat of a revelation to me that you and others do the same stupid stuff and thing the same stupid stuff I do and think…anyway, thank you for your honesty, humor and inspiration. I’m on day 4 of this attempt. Thanks again