blog post comment from D:
[posted October, 2013]: “Re: AA being the only game in town and the whole stigma around alcohol–ugh!! People often need help to quit smoking (or lose weight etc), and it doesn’t mean that forever and always they’re this “stigma thing.” Personally, I think that hugely contributes to the problem …
I would love to see you create a ‘manual’ based on what you’ve been doing: Getting Sober: Your First 100 Days or How to Have Fun Getting Sober or How to Get Sober and Get Happy. It could include how to create the desire to become so (getting over the hurdle of I just can’t or it’s not that bad), maybe how to get ready for it, how to think about slips. It could also include your experiences as well as others you’ve spoken to (I’m sure you’d have to get permission but I’m also quite sure people would be happy to contribute their stories/journey in that way and have them excerpted for the greater good). It could include tips and mantras/meditations (I love the whole sobriety feels like clean sheets idea!), what you can look forward to, what to watch out for etc. You could self-publish if you couldn’t find a publisher, but I bet you could (maybe the same one that published the Soberistas book, which is good, but all the stories are pretty extreme). I think there’s a complete dearth of books on getting sober for people who ‘aren’t that bad’ (seemingly so) and definitely all the memoirs focus on the how bad it was. Way too little out there on sensible tools and what to expect. Later, (because I’m thinking it might be harder), you could create audios … that way people can get them online “anonymously.” I think all this would appeal to the same people who like the Jason Vale book and things like that.”
[note from me. i saved this email from october 2013 because i thought: “well she has an idea, but i’m only just over a year sober, so what do i know.” i had 123 penpals on the anniversary of my one year soberversary (today it’s 2400+). back then, i couldn’t see the patterns coherently enough to write about them. Today, i just found this email in my TO WRITE ABOUT folder … i haven’t seen it since 2013, but D was right-on about what i would go on to write about … i certainly didn’t know i was going to write a book when i saved this email. i didn’t realize that being sober would be a foundation for change in other parts of my life. i didn’t realize that being sober would teach me about resilience and agency and self-worth. i just thought i was ‘quitting drinking’. i had no idea how much larger it would really be.]
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