no. none. note at all.

email from MsM (day 70):ย  “I’m 70 glorious days sober today, Belle! They certainly haven’t all been glorious but they have ALL been sober – and I’m soooooo grateful for every sober second…

What are your thoughts on two people in recovery dating? I’ve had extremely strict views about NOT dating another alcoholic who admits they have a problem … I’m worried if we marry and have kids my partner may start drinking again or my kids are doomed to be alcoholics themselves. But many guys I have dated have a problem with alcohol and won’t actually admit it. And I find it difficult not to drink when my partner is drinking and partying. So I’m wondering if dating someone who is in recovery might be a better idea. And I ask because yes, there might be someone I’d like to get to know better. And I certainly WONT jump into another relationship for a long time. But if I decide that I shouldn’t date someone in recovery then I will make sure not to develop any sort of relationship with him just to be sure and safe that the boundary isn’t crossed. And I think I’m overthinking again…”

me:ย no dating. none ๐Ÿ™‚ none at all ๐Ÿ™‚ none. no dating. none. with nobody. none.
no. no flirting. no going down any rabbit holes of โ€œdoes he like me, will he like me, do I like him.โ€
no. none.
not now ๐Ÿ™‚
no over thinking. no boys at all.

MsM: “Damn. Now, are you trying to say that I shouldn’t date? Your email wasn’t very clear … ๐Ÿ˜‰ย Fine. I will just die alone then.ย I just finished work now and it’s 21:16 on a Friday night. My 70th sober supposed-to-be-my-treat-night night. Oh well. Life happens. Will have to celebrate with my owl pants tomorrow. Jus me an my little ol owl pants, with the furry pets, and definitely NO boyfriend cheeky grin.”

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  • Hey Wanda. So just to be clear – you agree with Belle about no dating ? I am staying away from said boy and staying sober. Meditating is working well for me. Thanks for the advice. I totally have racing brain

  • Oh MsM. You have racing brain, my dear. I have had this too. It is the left brain hemisphere in high gear and you may have calmed it down in the past with alcohol.

    Try a binaural beats YouTube video, Theta Brain Waves: 4 Hz To 8 Hz.


    Join one of those 24 gyms.

    Belle is right, no boys, the last thing you need is man trouble.