Audio: Adult Learners (Part 1)

This is Sober Podcast Episode #120 sent to monthly sober podcast subscribers a few weeks ago.

Do you know why it’s so hard for adults to learn new skills? they hate feeling like they’re making mistakes. they hate not knowing what they’re doing.

The audio was running long, so I split it into two parts. An extract from Part 1 is below.

Comments from the chat:

NewChris: It’s a learning experience – as weird as it sounds – and it gets easier just like anything else.

surfrider11: The brave ones embrace the opportunities to learn….

Soberp82: love that – it’s me but a version 2.0!

Here’s an extract from part 1. It’s about 3 minutes long. .


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I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • There is a thin line between blaming others and not taking responsibility, and calling someone out on the truth. Bullies love to abuse that line. If they behave so badly that you feel like drinking and you call them on that, they will always say you’re pushing the blame onto them, not taking responsibility, making excuses etc. It’s a very clever tactic and very hard to discern the truth when you’re right in the middle of it. Of course it’s up to you not to drink in the end, but that’s no excuse for asshole behaviour directed your way and you did right to say clearly that it was making you want to drink alcohol. I can’t advise on the alcohol area as I am nowhere near where you are yet, but I know that type of relationship for sure. You’re not crazy or making excuses, you were right to say it. Best of luck Xxx

  • My husband just shouted at me at the top of his lungs. I asked him to stop talking to me in a condescending manner. So he started shouting –asking me if I preferred that. All I could think of was getting wine. I told him he made me want to drink. He says I am just using him as an excuse to drink.

    So, I took down all the Christmas decorations because it feels like a big lie. Every year I drink through the holidays. I thought this year would be different. Everything seems worse during the holidays. I feel like I’ve been trying to create something this year because of finishing Belle’s 100-day challenge. Him shouting just makes me think everything is the same…just sans alcohol.

    I guess am that adult learner Belle is talking about. I have to learn to face this pain in some way that doesn’t involve wine. But it’s hard. And I feel lonely and I don’t sleep well. But I’m glad I have the podcast subscription anyway. Maybe I’ll go on a podcast binge listening thing. I just thought I would reach out to the Belle community, in case anyone else is feeling the strain.