I’m curious …

i haven’t done one of these blogs in awhile. What’s the reason for this post? Well, before I got sober, I lurked on a few sober blogs. Lurking is when you read but don’t comment, haven’t really figured out what to do next, are still checking things out 🙂 So here’s what i’m curious about.

  1. Post a comment with your number of days sober (or your soberversary date if you’re not a day-counter).
  2. To protect your anonymity, you can ALWAYS leave the name and email address blank in the comment form on my blog. I do not require people to give their details to post on my site.
  3. If you are a lurker, and you aren’t (yet) sober but you’re looking for inspiration, you can still post. And you can pick a date when you’d like to start your sober journey (i.e. in 5 days, or January 15th, or whatever). You can remain anonymous, too.

I also sometimes forget how far along in the sober journey we all are … so this will help me remember and help me celebrate with you.

Really, if you’re an anonymous lurker that’s totally fine! Just chime in with where you are : )

PS/ HERE’S MY GUT REFLEX: I have no proof of this and am only going on a gut feeling here, but if you are a lurker and still drinking, then by posting something anonymously, it’s like raising your hand and saying “OK, yes, i could use some support” and i think that makes a big difference in what happens next for you.  Well, if you don’t believe me, you can try posting something and see what happens : )

Belle xo


** Note: most of my communications these days are going out by micro-email. You can add yourself to the email list here. Invitations to live calls, group events, photos, stuff — it’s all being sent by email. There was an email earlier today about cleaning the bathroom sober. If you’d like me to add you to the micro-email list, let me know 🙂


I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • Hi Belle! I’m not new to trying to get sober but I’m back and I’m feeling pretty darn amazing! I’m gonna last a long time I think…..I hope….I pray…..
    Nice to be back
    Jen Day 17 and counting!
    Can you add my blog to your blog list girl? I need some TLC…lol 🙂


  • Day 364 (I think, but celebrating my one year tomorrow anyway). I used to post on here a lot more. I love the daily emails and regularly swap messages on there with Belle. Whatever works for you works for you, but I know I couldn’t have got this far without the support. Thanks Belle, and all you stars, lurking or not.

  • Day 1. I have been trying to get sober since early last summer. The longest I made it was just over 30 days. It’s been a rollercoaster ride since then. Belle’s support is incedibily helpful. But I wonder if I just need more support or changes in my life that I am unable to change…. in either case, I am hoping to make 2015 alcohol free.

  • Day 53 now. Sorry, I have been a horrible pen pal. All these meetings and reading and journaling and working a job are keeping me busy! I love your micro emails though and really appreciate all your help 🙂

  • I’m a lurker on day 11. Beginning to realise that when I am drinking I am also a lurker of life – feeling like an observer and not really participating. As I gather a bit of sober momentum I can feel myself beginning to feel a bit more real – actually living my life. It feels quite fragile but I am nurturing it – looking after me. Thanks to Belle and all the contributors who have given me the strength to actually start and get that day 1 done! 🙂

  • Hi all of you, so happy for finding this so helpful blogg. Its my day 6 and i am hoping really for my kids and husband and me that i will learn what to be free is 🙂

  • I’ve stopped counting days but my sober anniversary is june 21, 2013. I still look at this site about once a month for support. I am so grateful i stopped drinking and my life has drastically improved. My depression is less severe. I have more energy. My marriage is stronger and my husband stopped drinking to support me. We are both healthier. I even feel happy sometimes. If you are thinking about drinking again, don’t do it. It absolutely is not worth it.

  • Day 123, and I plan to keep going. No one, including me, ever knew how bad my problem was until I quit drinking. I became aware of how much abuse I had been dealing to my body and how it was keeping me from pursuing my passions. Now I know that there’s no place for booze in my life. Alcohol is poison. Period. And if alcohol is poison, why would it ever be ok for me to have “just one glass” of it? I choose to love my body, not poison it.

  • I am mustering the courage to begin. I want to be free this year. I am not sure my start date, but, will definitely be giving it ago in the next two weeks. I am getting strength by reading here and other sites right now. I can feel my resolve growing although I’m still drinking right now. Thanks!

  • What an amazing blog! Lurking here alot – I want to be alcohol free in 2015. I can identify the triggers but need to keep finding those tools to overcome them and remain sober.