From my inbox:
From Libby (day 157): “Finally got round to listening to the live call audio from Memorial Day. Very interesting. Until you articulated it, I hadn’t understood the notion that Wolfie says the same things to all of us — so it’s not us, it’s Wolfie. Obvious (now I can see it!), but brilliant. Such a helpful contrast from the disease model of addiction that says it’s the drinker that’s the problem, not the alcohol.
I haven’t wanted to drink, but have noticed myself thinking recently ‘so you have stopped doing something that made you feel bad? Big deal, get over it, stop making a fuss and looking for treats and praise’. Is that normal? Is it Wolfie? Thanks as ever x”
me: honestly I think any voice we hear that isn’t saying ‘take care of you’ is wolfie, sometimes in various disguises. you do need fuss and praise and treats. you do. really. a lot. day 157 for you today. your sober car is rolling. everything you’ve done up to now has worked, so keep on doing it 🙂 hugs.
[and she’s on day 163 today]