I recently sent out an email to micro-email subscribers, asking about Boy Sober Bloggers – who are they – why aren’t there more. Here’s some feedback I’ve received from a few men in Team 100, as to why there aren’t many male bloggers, with links to some boy blogs below (annoying alliteration):
Lurking with Intent: “Women tend to be more social for the most part and want to share with others. Men are taught to tough it out. Women are more verbal despite the plethora of males writers; society is stacked against women succeeding. Men like to feel accomplished at something and like to offer fixes; which might not be a good solution for sober blogging. ‘I know what you need to do to be sober, do what I say’ … It’s like when my lovely wife complains about something and I offer her a solution and it is not what she wanted. A woman would empathize with her. If a male friend complains about something, I offer my take or offer a solution and it’s always received well. Men can talk about solutions but probably aren’t as good at warm fuzziness as women are.”
Abrown: “It is a very masculine thing to hang out with you friends and drink, especially beer. Especially younger guys like myself. Most guys think they cannot be one of the guys if they don’t drink … also, maybe how they were brought up, if I did not form my own opinion, and just relied on my father’s ‘real men drink beer’ approach I would never have gotten sober.”
Crispy: “I wonder if there is a higher [desire] to come together and share by women. Comparing notes on life and experience is not something I find many men doing. I do it a lot but mostly with female friends or family. Most of my male friends or colleagues get this kind of blank/disinterested look on their face when I start talking about internal affairs. Maybe culturally men are very task-focused so therefore time for reflection and sharing (which blogging essentially is in many ways) is not deemed necessary. I would argue it’s key to ensuring successful task ‘doing’ though! At 32, I don’t have many peers who are quitting drinking … there’s a pack-mentality that goes on with guys that’s really hard to step out of and requires a lot of courage to do so.
Here’s the beginnings of a boy blogger list. It’s short now. Maybe we can add to it? Send me links for review.
- Paul, Message in a Bottle
- Furtheron, Guitars and Life
- Marius, Trudging Through the Fire
- Dipz, LostnF0und
- Abrown, NoMoreBinge
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