i recorded a new podcast this morning. it’s about judging. we’re bad at judging. We judge ourselves too harshly. We suck at self-esteem. We often have some amount of shame.

It all gets better when we’re sober. And the longer you’re sober, the better it gets, the more realizations.

The full audio for the podcast is about 14.5 minutes long.  Here’s a 2 minute extract from the beginning.


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I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • Good excerpt from the podcast! I think it is important that someone stresses that we cannot compare ourselves and our journey to recovery to others. No matter what your background is or what you have now the only thing that truly matters is if you are drinking or not!

    You brought up some good points about comparing the things that you are not doing so well in with others. I think there is an equal and opposite comparison you could make that is just as detrimental. For example, what if you have accomplished more before you got sober, or are bringing “more to the table”? I find myself in this position sometimes. What happens is that it makes me feel like my pain or my struggle isn’t really worth talking about because I’m not as bad off as some others. Meanwhile, I’m dying a little on the inside! It’s good to understand that people have different “bottoms” but just because an individual hasn’t lost everything, or has more supportive resources doesn’t mean that there addiction is any more or less relevant than another’s .

    Definitely a good message. Glad I read this today. Needed to hear it, I get caught up in the compare and contrast game a lot!

    • I agree entirely. everyone’s situation is unique, and everyone’s pain is … well, it’s painful. there are no high or low bottoms that are important. what’s important is that we stop drinking and then we feel better.

  • “We drink because we feel crappy and we feel crappy because we drink.” That reminds me why I am so happy to be off of that crazy cyclical ride. I am actually shocked at how much my self esteem has grown, and amazed at the self love I am developing with my sobriety. There are other aspects to this such as daily positive self affirmations and working with a therapist but what is holding all of this together and making it possible is my sobriety. Thanks for this podcast!