From Carrie Kaffer (day 122):
“Great point in your post yesterday: now that i’m sober, i can pick up this thing instead of tripping over it repeatedly.
For me, it’s not as much sleep as some other things- where I suddenly realize that i don’t have to continue to put up with what has been niggling at, bothering me.
#1: I hate it when all 3 dogs bark so much when we have callers: Action: call a dog trainer to come to the house, meet the dogs, and train us how to change this behaviour.
#2: I hate our old smelly big garbage cans that we have to use to put out the trash each week. Action: Get rid of these, and buy brand new pristine garbage cans that I can keep clean and sweet-smelling.
#3: I hate it when my skimpy running socks slip down at the heel, and I have to keep stopping to pull them up so they don’t disappear downward and make a lump under my heel. Action: Treat myself to a DOZEN new pairs of socks, thick and soft and well-fitting.
It wasn’t til I read your post that I suddenly saw the connection between these and many more similar occurrences. What a great spark!
Why have I put up with these and myriad other things for so many years – they have been annoying me for a long time. Why? Because I was so caught up in drinking that I didn’t really pay attention to many parts of my life. If it functioned OK, as in No Crisis, I wouldn’t waste time thinking about it. And now? Now I take the time to notice annoyances, and determine whether they are “Things up with which I must put” or “Things to be changed”.
How empowering this is!!”