well, at least she comes right out and asks the questions …
Carbell (day 22):
My sober challenge is a big discussion amongst work colleagues and some recently recommended alcohol free wine and beer. Are there any particular pros and cons in your view? Would it be partly elongating the addiction and best avoided? Or would it keep persistent ‘have a drink’ pests off your back?” … Also, how many people go back to sensible drinking after 100 days and how many quit completely?
me, I personally don’t like alcohol-free drinks. but only because I don’t want my brain thinking it’s getting alcohol. I prefer tonic or other drinks, and not in wine glasses. now this is just me, and maybe I’m being super scared, but I don’t fuck with wolfie. I don’t want to bait him in any way. Once I bought apple cider in little bottles and my brain went “oh cool, corona!” and I promptly gave the bottle to my husband. Mr. Belle says “but it’s alcohol free!” and i said “my brain is not that smart.” I know that others feel that these sorts of substitutions are fine. So i’ll say this: do what feels safest and best for you. Some people really rely on the fake stuff, but me I’m just too chicken … and I like being sober too much to take any risks of any kind 🙂
and from what I’ve seen from sitting in this chair, is that no one goes back to sensible drinking after quitting (i think literally my unofficial reported statistics are 1 in 671 people). If we wanted to quit in the first place, it was probably for a good reason 🙂 Did you see yesterday’s micro-email? it was about this exact subject of why we quit. If you’re not on the email list, do that here. While some people do relapse after the challenge (i.e. they ‘try drinking again’), they often email me and restart counting days at 1 after a period of ‘drinking research’ … it’s heartbreaking to watch, as some people admit that they’ve been ‘researching’ for years before they can get even a few days sober again. Hugs from me.