Audio: Be The Lighthouse

When i started recording this audio, i wasn’t sure really what i was going to talk about.

It’s about how tough love doesn’t work. It’s about bravery. It’s about self-abuse. And it’s about avoiding overwhelm.

And also, finally, this audio is about being a lighthouse. You can always see the lighthouse if you need it. That lighthouse is you.

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a lighthouse helps to keep you from hitting the rocks. be sure to turn and face the light. here’s your visual reminder.

Lighthouse 6
acrylic on wrapped canvas
sides are painted BLACK so it does not need to be framed.



art by mr.belle.
hugs, me and him



I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • Dear Belle, today is day 50 and I feel humbly proud. Does that make sense? It’s the feeling of serenity that comes with sobriety. I like the way it fits me. Like comfy pajamas.
    The Lighthouse metaphor is also a perfect fit. I’ve always lived near a body of water . It’s a requirement for this place called home. Now there are 2 lighthouses, one named Belle and one named “me”. How safe I am here. Love this metaphor.
    Thank you

  • Ha! Day 78, I think that podcast sample was just for ME! (Don’t drift from your sober supports) Thanks Belle 😊

  • I love it when I get these messages on the weekend because it reminds me that you’re still here. Thanks, Miss Nelson. Day 21 and doing well.

  • Thanks for the link Belle. Nice Sunday treat for me. I’m going to listen again as I drink my coffee.❤️

  • Hi Belle, just to say I’m still struggling but hopefully this will be my year. I still read your emails every day and they do encourage me

    • sweetie pea, you might do better with a bit more support. since we’re penpals, you can send me an email when you’re on day 1 and we can brainstorm some ideas. hugs from me

  • Belle, you are the queen of analogies. I bet I could give you a random topic and you could make an analogy out of it. Like frogs or ocean waves or toast.

  • Yes I read your thoughts everyday and take them with me! You are a gift to all of us on this journey of managing this terrible disease.

  • Its mY first day. I’ve tried to quit drinking a lot of times. I never go past a couple days. I been drinking since my 15th birthday,I got drunk and fell in love with the book.I know its time for change.I’m 23 and I’m scared. I don’t want to die like my uncles. And i am ready to heal my body of the damage..I just hope its not too god we trust.and I trust you all will help me 🙁

  • Excellent metaphor and just what I needed right now. It’s magic that a specific podcast always comes in at the right time. Anyway, I was running up and down the beach again and overwhelmed. But although it still feels scary, I will be my own lighthouse. And I will think of all these people who left a comment before me, that they are so brave as well to be their own lighthouse. That is a great support. And that I experience everyday that it is possible because I feel stronger every day.

  • I’ve just listened to a few of your podcasts (btw you broke my podcast virginity) and wanted to thank you for this one. I like the idea of being a lighthouse. First day sober yesterday for months. Today I’m trying to think about not drinking rather than drinking. TY.

  • Lighthouses are my favorite, I want to live in one someday! There are three on this Island, and I love your analogy. Thank you for the audiocast, It will remind me nightly now whilst listening to the foghorn that you are another beacon of light to guide me on my journey, Giving guidance while my ship seeks the safe harbor of sobriety. Thank you!

  • I used to fear my own light; drinking contorted my thinking so that I would not be able to rely on myself–and life was dimmed by wet illusion. Now I bask in warm light….not as often as I’d like, but I’m not giving up. Thanks for podcast teaser…will definitely sign up

    • A lighthouse with a sober car parked in front so we can go safely wherever we need, whenever we want! Totally excellent metaphor.

  • I love the image of a lighthouse running up and down a beach trying to help someone. Ridiculous, right? Standing tall and strong and providing a guiding light is the best we can do for those navigating rough waters. “Staying here”. And you do it so well!

  • thanks for being a lighthouse when it was so dark 🙂 and now I have “this little light of mine I’m gonna let it shine” stuck in my head–must get it out soon–annoying.