that voice? a liar.
Sam (day 20): Not exactly craving alcohol….more annoyed that I can’t have any. Also annoyed that I haven’t lost any weight at all, which I can’t understand since I’ve obviously cut out an insane amount of calories and I really haven’t been replacing them with sweets, If anything, I’m eating much more healthfully. I guess I’m just annoyed and wondering why I’m even doing this. Yes, believe me I know I feel so much better, and I think I look better too, overall, sleeping 100% better, etc. I guess I’m acting like a 2 yr old that wants cake for breakfast and was told no … Anyway, I’m struggling with thoughts of just having one … that’s it. However, I know when I have had drinks with my friend in the past, I’ll have three to his one. So, I really don’t want to go there. Arggh.. this is such a frustrating circle of thinking. I’m venting, obviously. Any words of advice would be appreciated.
Me: Oh, I have only sympathy (or is it empathy?) for you – cuz man-oh-man I’ve been there! You will not lose weight in the first 3-6 months of quitting booze. That’s asking too much. One thing at a time. You will not weigh the same as you do now when you are 6 months sober. That I promise. But ‘stacking’ a whole bunch of expectations on yourself will just create a feeling of ‘fuck-it’, so i think you need to be much kinder 🙂 and a bit more patient 🙂 being sober is enough on your plate for now.
Yes, you may well feel like you want to drink again. I understand that completely. And you can tell yourself that you might drink again after you’ve done 100 days sober, so you can see what it’s like. There’s plenty of time to ‘drink’ in the future. For now, you’re doing a thing, to see how you like it. And yes, in the first couple of weeks there will be tantrums. That booze voice is very persistent. But it’s also a liar. And it’s not YOU.
- more about tantrums here
- more about problems and solutions here
- more about support and hand-holding here.
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