What did i learn yesterday.
I’ve been struggling with deep and quite severe computer problems since the end of June, nicely timed with the beginning of my Dry July. I rely 100% on my fancy computer for work, and i’ve been huddled over my husband’s laptop since my fancy machine died. I live in a non-english-speaking country, and i’m not terribly fluent yet in the new language, so i had been reaching back into my past and calling my tech support guy who lives in North America. when i lived nearby, my techie guy was great and reliable, if a little overworked. Now that i’m across the pond, he’s non-responsive, and i’ve fallen to the bottom of his list of priorities. I left 5 messages in the first 2 weeks, and when he finally called back, he suggested a fix that he said he’d walk me through later that day. I waited like a fool for another 2 weeks for him to call. but then never called again. And i’ve stopped trying to reach him.
(Truthfully, i’ve been quite consumed with staying sober — reading blogs, writing, keeping myself distracted — that i’ve felt like i couldn’t take on any more, including my broken computer, and usually my day’s worth of energy was being completely used up just by staying sober.)
Yesterday, i woke up feeling like i’d been run over. Bad time of the month, combined with getting to bed late, combined with big summer heat. But something snapped in me and I realized I had to solve this computer problem IMMEDIATELY. Went online researching the fix that techie had told me about, found a computer store here that sold the software. Went by train 45 minutes to find the place. Explained with my broken language skills about my broken computer. bought software.
I also had my dead hard drive in my purse, separate computer problem, same timing as the beginning of Dry July, and I left it in a big Disk-Rescue store. Nice clerk helped me fill out the forms (i.e. she let me awkwardly describe what had happened and then she wrote it out in full, grammatically correct sentences with spelling and wacky accents, on the form for me).
Came home and popped in software, let it install overnight, and yes now the fancy computer works. I’m writing this on my big beauty right now! Probably 28 days of irritation and complete frustration solved for about $100 and a trip across town. [The prognosis on the dead hard drive hasn’t come in yet, probably later today.]
(this post is “too long, didn’t read”)
Here are yesterday’s lesson. Here’s what I learned…
- Reach out for help sooner.
- Don’t rely on old friends to help you in a new time.
- Be brave in the face of language difficulties (i.e. even if you can’t make yourself understood 100%, you can start, you can try).
- Don’t wait for the hottest day of the summer to solve problems, start early!
And the greatest lesson of all … give your husband back his laptop before he divorces you, it’s been weeks already, and the guy is patient but he has limits! (i.e. don’t expect everyone else to be terribly patient while you sort out your shit. do your best to speed things up when possible… and/or sort out your own shit and do your best to NOT let it spill over onto others.)
Thus begins Day #24. Big computer is back in action, husband has his laptop back. Fingers crossed for the dead hard drive.
And I’m sitting up now, wondering what else I can take on today, as the 100% energy required to REMAIN sober seems to be decreasing slightly, to maybe 75% effort now … Can anyone else relate ?