day 1: don’t toss it away

from my inbox

E (not yet a penpal): “Hi, My day 1 feels like a long time ago now. but it’s only been 146 days. and each one is easier than day 1 was. they’re not all perfect, some are hard, and on some of them, I wish I could crawl into a hole or a bottle. or a hole with a bottle. but it gets easier to resist that temptation.
My day 1 I was hungover. I had told my mom the night before that I had to quit drinking. On the way home from there, I wanted to throw myself out of the car because I had no idea how I was going to stop drinking. I thought it was too hard and I couldn’t picture my life without alcohol to help me.
so day 1 I woke up and went to work hungover…. I knew this change was happening. I was quitting. for real. and I was terrified. I was pretty sure I couldn’t do it. I called a counselling service. I wrote a message to my family telling them I was done with alcohol. I was honest with them for the first time about my drinking. I don’t really remember what I did the rest of the day. it was blurry. I know I cried a lot. I felt sad, lost, confused, scared, but deep inside there was some hope. some tiny hidden part of me believed I could do this. even though the loudest parts of me and my addiction were screaming “don’t do it! you can’t do this!”. I did it anyway …
Those first few days for me were about holding on. So I tell you now, on day 1: hold on to sobriety. even though it feels weird, and like it’s not yours, hold it. don’t toss it away for the comfort of a glass of wine. be uncomfortable, be an emotional wreck, eat a ton of sugar, hide in your room but hold on to that sobriety and soon, sooner than you think, it will feel better. soon it will feel almost normal. soon you will own that sobriety you will feel proud and confident. but you won’t for the first little while. you may feel scared and wrong and doubtful and weak. but you’re not. just hold on to sobriety until it starts to feel right. and it will.”


missing links. (get it?) you know, links you might have missed in the last few daily emails.  

  • discount link where you can get the pdf of year 1 of my blog (500+ pages). you can also read it online, it’s just easier to read it in the PDF when it’s in chronological order and all in one place.
  • the one minute message about julie
  • discount link to podcasts about prelapse. that’s my word for the time that comes before relapse. and when you know what it is, you can learn to identify it and hopefully avoid it …
  • sober is the new black is back. back in black.

 

Wednesday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to SarahJune31!

Happy Day 50 to Lime Tree!

Happy Day 50 to MelMel!

Happy Day 50 to Wynn!

Happy Day 50 to BalanceBeam!

Happy Day 50 to Dusty!

Happy Day 50 to Chalee!

Happy Day 50 to Sobriety Shingles!

Happy Day 50 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 50 to Lars!

Happy Day 50 to Gem64!

Happy Day 100 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 100 to Jamie-Tampa!

Happy Day 100 to Capt. Unwined!

Happy Day 100 to Freedom!

Happy Day 100 to Lerawk!

Happy Day 100 to Anjoma8801!

Happy Day 100 to Kristy!

Happy Day 100 to Lex!

Happy Day 100 to Honoring Grace!

Happy Day 100 to Boozy Betty!

Happy Day 100 to A_Sober_Canibal!

Happy Day 100 to Shannon A!

Happy Day 100 to Cisty!

Happy Day 100 to My Inside Job!

Happy Day 180 to Maverick!

Happy Day 180 to Molly Jones!

Happy Day 180 to April!

Happy Day 180 to Jaded!

Happy Day 180 to RachelB!

Happy Day 180 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 180 to AustinHappy!

Happy Day 180 to Frupa63!

Happy Day 20o to DeborahLynn!

Happy Day 20o to Lippy!

Happy Day 20o to Lua!

Happy Day 20o to MG7!

Happy Day 20o to TT!

Happy Day 20o to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 20o to Nomobsing!

Happy Day 20o to Sabrina!

Happy Day 20o to Bladerboy!

Happy Day 300 to KTWeb!

Happy Day 365 to KLC!

Happy Day 365 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 365 to Lanza!

Happy Day 365 to Chell!

Happy Day 400 to Troxy!

Happy Day 400 to Fern!

Happy Day 400 to Coco!

Happy Day 400 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 500 to Juliejean123!

Happy Day 500 to RossFSU!

Happy Day 500 to Ami!

Happy Day 500 to Sooz!

Happy Day 600 to Liberte!

Happy Day 600 to AnnieB!

Happy Day 600 to Youngernow!

Happy Day 600 to AnnaD!

Happy Day 600 to Whitbell25!

Happy Day 600 to Beck!

Happy Day 600 to Ginette!

Happy Day 600 to Lilac!

Happy Day 600 to ElizabethDC!

Happy Day 600 to Silver Birch!

Happy Day 600 to Mil!

Happy Day 600 to Seekingpeace!

Happy Day 700 to Julie-Joy’s Sister!

Happy Day 700 to AmandaPanda!

Happy Day 700 to Ms. Red!

Happy Day 700 to Fay858!

Happy Day 700 to Me-fixing-me!

Happy Day 700 to Lisa1199!

Happy Day 700 to Mythreesons!

Happy Day 700 to Honner!

Happy Day 700 to Gingerade!

Happy Day 700 to SophieSomething!

Happy Day 700 to Rache B!

Happy Day 700 to Yogayamagirl!

Happy Day 700 to Jock!

Happy Day 800 to Library Girl!

Happy Day 800 to Chace!

Happy Day 800 to Marbear!

Happy Day 900 to nomorepinot!

Happy Day 900 to Fleur!

Happy Day 1000 to Foxie!

Happy Day 1000 to Renee!

Happy Day 1000 to Battersea Park!

Happy Day 1000 to Welles!

Happy Day 1000 to Gra!

Happy Day 1000 to SusieQ!

Happy Day 1000 to IrishDee!

Happy Day 1000 to GW!

Happy Day 1000 to JustHadToHaveIt!

Happy Day 1100 to DeeN!

Happy Day 1100 to Amos!

Happy Day 1100 to FitFatFood!

Happy Day 1100 to Moore!

Happy Day 1100 to Crispy!

Happy Day 1100 to Jacques!

Happy Day 1100 to Rose!

Happy Day 1100 to Santa Cruz!

Happy Day 1100 to Phoebe!

Happy Day 1200 to Mylene!

Happy Day 1200 to Jeroen!

Happy Day 1200 to TipTree!

Happy Day 1300 to Durf11!

Happy Day 1300 to Kristi Coulter (penpal #128)!

Happy Day 1300 to C How!

Happy Day 1300 to Sarita!

Happy Day 1300 to Ingrid!

Happy Day 1400 to Rebecca!

Happy Day 1400 to Digs!

Happy Day 1400 to Carrie!

Happy Day 1500 to Amy!

 

Saturday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Bruna!

Happy Day 50 to Liquid Tracy!

Happy Day 50 to Ana Maria!

Happy Day 50 to Princess Buttercup!

Happy Day 50 to Maki!

Happy Day 50 to SueW!

Happy Day 50 to Mari!

Happy Day 50 to Nevis!

Happy Day 50 to Fiona!

Happy Day 50 to Roadtosoberville!

Happy Day 50 to Putting Down the Glass!

Happy Day 50 to Lacie!

Happy Day 50 to Eily!

Happy Day 50 to NoMoreDonuts!

Happy Day 50 to Kiki71!

Happy Day 50 to Honey Bear!

Happy Day 50 to Pixie29!

Happy Day 50 to Maggie Mae!

Happy Day 50 to BG!

Happy Day 50 to i.t.!

Happy Day 50 to Imba!

Happy Day 50 to Resiliensea!

Happy Day 50 to Stillbridge!

Happy Day 50 to True.d.true!

Happy Day 50 to Elyn Jones!

Happy Day 50 to Becca1978!

Happy Day 50 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 50 to Blondie!

Happy Day 100 to Karlatta!

Happy Day 100 to Tweet!

Happy Day 100 to Ashley!

Happy Day 100 to Sohocat!

Happy Day 100 to Georgia Girl!

Happy Day 100 to Grace514!

Happy Day 100 to Indy!

Happy Day 100 to Pwhims!

Happy Day 100 to Suzanne Irene!

Happy Day 100 to Kimpossible!

Happy Day 100 to Rachele!

Happy Day 100 to RoseStar!

Happy Day 100 to SoberSarah!

Happy Day 100 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 100 to Inspired!

Happy Day 100 to Tweet!

Happy Day 100 to Calypso!

Happy Day 100 to Runnery Amy!

Happy Day 100 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 100 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 100 to Jeans!

Happy Day 100 to Mellow!

Happy Day 100 to Carly!

Happy Day 100 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 100 to 2BLimber!

Happy Day 180 to VMD Free!

Happy Day 180 to TSilver!

Happy Day 180 to DeborahLynn!

Happy Day 180 to Lippy!

Happy Day 180 to Frupa63!

Happy Day 180 to Lua!

Happy Day 180 to MG7!

Happy Day 180 to TT!

Happy Day 180 to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 180 to Sabrina!

Happy Day 180 to Bladerboy!

Happy Day 200 to SuzanneFran!

Happy Day 200 to LeftCoastGirl!

Happy Day 200 to Steffspud!

Happy Day 200 to Rasberrikiss!

Happy Day 200 to Hollykate!

Happy Day 2o0 to Airbear!

Happy Day 300 to CaseyM!

Happy Day 300 to MessyJessy!

Happy Day 300 to Waggintail!

Happy Day 300 to Surfrider11!

Happy Day 300 to runnergirl!

Happy Day 365 to Apprentice DB!

Happy Day 365 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 365 to Franny!

Happy Day 365 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 365 to TJ!

Happy Day 365 to SoberinMtl!

Happy Day 365 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 365 to Elis!

Happy Day 365 to Lydster!

Happy Day 365 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 365 to Troxy!

Happy Day 365 to Fern!

Happy Day 365 to Coco!

Happy Day 365 to NLW!

Happy Day 365 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 400 to SarahBee!

Happy Day 400 to Mamafergs!

Happy Day 400 to NSRunner!

Happy Day 400 to Case Study Michelle!

Happy Day 400 to Truleah!

Happy Day 400 to Phoenix!

Happy Day 400 to Crystal Light!

Happy Day 500 to EMJ001!

Happy Day 500 to Lavenderzone!

Happy Day 500 to TickleMeShelmo!

Happy Day 500 to Suzan!

Happy Day 500 to Linley!

Happy Day 500 to NicholasCharles!

Happy Day 600 to Yoda!

Happy Day 600 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 600 to Jenuhful!

Happy Day 600 to VTgirl!

Happy Day 600 to MJP!

Happy Day 600 to Jobo!

Happy Day 600 to Mytimetoshine!

Happy Day 600 to Inky!

Happy Day 600 to Graceful!

Happy Day 700 to Sea Turtle!

Happy Day 700 to Miss M!

Happy Day 700 to CoffeeCupHead!

Happy Day 700 to LJ63!

Happy Day 700 to Trixie!

Happy Day 700 to Kitkatpaddywack!

Happy Day 700 to 1035!

Happy Day 700 to Jayda!

Happy Day 700 to Frankie!

Happy Day 800 to JuneBug!

Happy Day 800 to Frenchie!

Happy Day 800 to Elly!

Happy Day 800 to GabbyGirl37!

Happy Day 800 to Rexytime!

Happy Day 800 to Cocomack!

Happy Day 800 to NewChris!

Happy Day 800 to Jas!

Happy Day 900 to Lily Chatsworth!

Happy Day 900 to Lara!

Happy Day 900 to Ish!

Happy Day 900 to Paulita!

Happy Day 900 to Sharlotte!

Happy Day 900 to Cricket!

Happy Day 900 to Shar!

Happy Day 900 to Kenney!

Happy Day 900 to Bekki!

Happy Day 900 to Meagan!

Happy Day 1000 to AM!

Happy Day 1000 to IrishGirl!

Happy Day 1000 Parisienne Knitter!

Happy Day 1000 to Run Dontwine!

Happy Day 1000 to tlcompte!

Happy Day 1000 to hcasstevens!

Happy Day 1100 Doll Face!

Happy Day 1100 to OneDayAtATime!

Happy Day 1100 to Tuomas!

Happy Day 1100 to Nuchter Maya!

Happy Day 1100 to Sherri!

Happy Day 1100 to KateF!

Happy Day 1100 to Wanting to be a Sober Mom!

Happy Day 1100 Telling The Words!

Happy Day 1100 Lurking With Intent!

Happy Day 1100 Traci!

Happy Day 1100 Challenges!

Happy Day 1100 Margy!

Happy Day 1100 Tammi!

Happy Day 1100 Shell Bell!

Happy Day 1200 to Lucy!

Happy Day 1200 to Cat Girl!

Happy Day 1200 to Carolyne!

Happy Day 1300 to Trish!

Happy Day 1300 to KristinRecovering!

Happy Day 1600 to Katherine!

 

Sober Solstice

From Sober in Richmond (The Solstice Guy): “I started my 100 Day challenge on Winter Solstice [and is celebrating 2 years sober today] … If there is anyone out there who needs some motivation to start – perhaps they can do the Solstice to Solstice. It really helped me to have the power of the whole darn earth behind me rather than a day or date on a calendar. I like Winter to Summer because the days get longer, and each day brings about more promise and more hope. It’s an incredibly magical thing, the Solstice to Solstice!”

Imagine it’s the shortest day of the year (tomorrow in the northern hemisphere). Imagine you’re sober starting tomorrow, December 21st. It can be your Day 1 or maybe it’s your Day 50. Or 400. Doesn’t matter. Can you see yourself sober on June 21st? Summer Solstice. Stand here. Look ahead 180 days. Because if you think the view from day 100 is great, wait until you see 180 days.

  • If you’d like to be sober from Solstice to Solstice, you can put a comment below.
  • To have 100 audios to listen to, you can get them here. These are archived podcasts episodes #1-#100.

I like the idea of having the ‘whole darn earth behind me’ – how about you?

Friday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Jamie-Tampa!

Happy Day 50 to SarahJune31!

Happy Day 50 to Capt. Unwined!

Happy Day 50 to Nell!

Happy Day 50 to Jabbers!

Happy Day 50 to Adriane C!

Happy Day 50 to Freedom!

Happy Day 50 to Lerawk!

Happy Day 50 to anjoma8801!

Happy Day 50 to Kristy!

Happy Day 50 to Lex!

Happy Day 50 to LaLaLa!

Happy Day 50 to Honoring Grace!

Happy Day 50 to A_Sober_Cannibal!

Happy Day 50 to Shannon A!

Happy Day 50 to Sisty!

Happy Day 50 to My Inside Job!

Happy Day 50 to Emsie!

Happy Day 50 to Karlatta!

Happy Day 50 to SohoCat!

Happy Day 50 to Ashley!

Happy Day 50 to Datagrrl!

Happy Day 50 to Kassie!

Happy Day 50 to Grade514!

Happy Day 50 to Soprano!

Happy Day 50 to Indy!

Happy Day 50 to PWhims!

Happy Day 50 to Suzanne Irene!

Happy Day 50 to Kimpossible!

Happy Day 50 to Rachele!

Happy Day 50 to RoseStar!

Happy Day 50 to SoberSarah!

Happy Day 50 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 50 to Tweet!

Happy Day 50 to Loz!

Happy Day 50 to Pink!

Happy Day 100 to Wren1450!

Happy Day 100 to Julianne!

Happy Day 100 to Gene!

Happy Day 100 to CJback!

Happy Day 100 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 100 to Beth2016!

Happy Day 100 to TJS!

Happy Day 100 to Clear Eyes Full Soul!

Happy Day 100 to Garcia!

Happy Day 100 to RubyHarper!

Happy Day 100 to Poppy!

Happy Day 100 to Topo Chico!

Happy Day 100 to Ruby!

Happy Day 100 to Sahara!

Happy Day 100 to Pearl!

Happy Day 100 to Hollm!

Happy Day 100 to Brett!

Happy Day 100 to Di!

Happy Day 100 to Bemmy girl!

Happy Day 100 to Arya!

Happy Day 100 to BattleMatt!

Happy Day 100 to Maverick!

Happy Day 180 to Airbear!

Happy Day 180 to Edi!

Happy Day 180 to Kerry!

Happy Day 180 to JustJen!

Happy Day 180 to Rivers!

Happy Day 200 to Lelia!

Happy Day 200 to CindyB!

Happy Day 200 to Cozzarella!

Happy Day 200 to Julieanne!

Happy Day 200 to Miss Kell!

Happy Day 200 to Jessee!

Happy Day 200 to Reenie!

Happy Day 200 to SW3Girl!

Happy Day 200 to Imara!

Happy Day 200 to Indigo50!

Happy Day 200 to Tekara!

Happy Day 200 to Oriole!

Happy Day 300 to MsM!

Happy Day 300 to Auds!

Happy Day 300 to KaffyB!

Happy Day 300 to Debbie!

Happy Day 300 to KLC!

Happy Day 300 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 300 to Lanza!

Happy Day 300 to Boo!

Happy Day 300 to Chell!

Happy Day 300 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 365 to SarahBee!

Happy Day 365 to NSRunner!

Happy Day 365 to Mamafergs!

Happy Day 365 to Case Study Michelle!

Happy Day 365 to AngieM!

Happy Day 365 to Truleah!

Happy Day 365 to Phoenix!

Happy Day 365 to Emma_J!

Happy Day 365 to Crystal Light!

Happy Day 400 to StonewallPDS!

Happy Day 400 to Ashley!

Happy Day 400 to Hughie!

Happy Day 400 to JP!

Happy Day 400 to Thirsty Iris!

Happy Day 400 to Gypsygirl!

Happy Day 500 to Cal!

Happy Day 500 to Gordon!

Happy Day 600 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 600 to Rosa!

Happy Day 600 to Jenuhful!

Happy Day 600 to Cheaton!

Monty!Happy Day 600 to TK!

Happy Day 600 to DW!

Happy Day 600 to Mich!

Happy Day 600 to Celene!

Happy Day 700 to Sean!

Happy Day 700 to Unconfirmed Bachelorette!

Happy Day 700 to FunCar13!

Happy Day 700 to Indian Lake!

Happy Day 700 to Mahatma JoJo!

Happy Day 700 to NeeNee!

Happy Day 700 to Sareet!

Happy Day 700 to Alescha!

Happy Day 700 to MelP!

Happy Day 700 to Solstice Guy!

Happy Day 700 to Ase!

Happy Day 700 to Summer Walking!

Happy Day 700 to Turcotte!

Happy Day 700 to Brooke!

Happy Day 700 to Ariel Rose!

Happy Day 800 to AngelaRenai!

Happy Day 800 to Canadian Girl!

Happy Day 800 to Cxx!

Happy Day 800 to Lynsey!

Happy Day 800 to GG!

Happy Day 800 to Festie!

Happy Day 800 to Graceb!

Happy Day 800 to Mak!

Happy Day 800 to Paris!

Happy Day 800 to Shout444!

Happy Day 800 to Midwestveggie!

Happy Day 800 to Rah!

Happy Day 800 to Cryssi!

Happy Day 800 to RoseMarie!

Happy Day 800 to Janna!

Happy Day 900 to Haggismcbaggis!

Happy Day 900 to Vanessa!

Happy Day 900 to Sharlotte!

Happy Day 900 to Mizgabz!

Happy Day 900 to Sanfransober!

Happy Day 900 to Sarah72!

Happy Day 900 to Aaron!

Happy Day 900 to Jon!

Happy Day 900 to CassieB!

Happy Day 900 to Shelby!

Happy Day 1000 to OtherJosh!

Happy Day 1000 to RunnerMom!

Happy Day 1000 to JLynn!

Happy Day 1000 to Fernie Sobertina!

Happy Day 1000 to Julie-Joy’s Dad!

Happy Day 1000 to Jessi!

Happy Day 1000 to Heike!

Happy Day 1000 to Daybird!

Happy Day 1000 to Allison!

Happy Day 1000 to LolaB!

Happy Day 1000 to Connie!

Happy Day 1000 to Fich!

Happy Day 1100 to Janet!

Happy Day 1100 to Beach_Gurl!

Happy Day 1100 to Terry!

Happy Day 1100 to Denise!

Happy Day 1100 to TheFun4!

Happy Day 1100 to Terence!

Happy Day 1100 to Clear Eyed Girl!

Happy Day 1100 to Hazeleyes!

Happy Day 1100 to Case Study Tim!

Happy Day 1100 to Baby Girl Butterfly!

Happy Day 1100 to Primrose!

Happy Day 1100 to Sadie!

Happy Day 1100 to SignGurl!

Happy Day 1100 to Jeannie Yogini!

Happy Day 1200 to Jenisthesoberist!

Happy Day 1200 to Pam!

Happy Day 1200 to JennyGardenGirl!

Happy Day 1200 to Sharon!

Happy Day 1200 to LD!

Happy Day 1200 to Laurie!

Happy Day 1300 to Original Beth!

Happy Day 1300 to Leah!

Happy Day 1400 to Erica!

Happy Day 1400 to Jen!

Happy Day 1400 to Debra!

Happy Day 1616 to me!

 

Wednesday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Calypso!

Happy Day 50 to Lavender!

Happy Day 50 to Allie!

Happy Day 50 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 50 to Hellacious!

Happy Day 50 to Mamahope!

Happy Day 50 to Laurel!

Happy Day 50 to Liz!

Happy Day 50 to Sanna!

Happy Day 50 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 50 to Shelley!

Happy Day 50 to SueW!

Happy Day 50 to Jeans!

Happy Day 50 to Carly!

Happy Day 50 to CCC!

Happy Day 100 to Molly Jones!

Happy Day 100 to April!

Happy Day 100 to Jaded!

Happy Day 100 to terbear!

Happy Day 100 to RachelB!

Happy Day 100 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 100 to AustinHappy!

Happy Day 100 to Macbender1!

Happy Day 100 to frupa63!

Happy Day 100 to latebloomer!

Happy Day 100 to TSilver!

Happy Day 100 to VMD Free!

Happy Day 180 to Miss Kell!

Happy Day 180 to SW3Girl!

Happy Day 180 to Indigo50!

Happy Day 180 to Reenie!

Happy Day 180 to Imara!

Happy Day 180 to Tekara!

Happy Day 180 to Oriole!

Happy Day 200 to Conn!

Happy Day 200 to KatieMay!

Happy Day 200 to Purple Robin!

Happy Day 200 to Clearlee!

Happy Day 200 to Toga!

Happy Day 300 to DB!

Happy Day 300 to Franny!

Happy Day 300 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 300 to WildMustang68!

Happy Day 300 to TJ!

Happy Day 300 to SoberInMtl!

Happy Day 300 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 300 to do*it*anyway!

Happy Day 300 to lydster!

Happy Day 300 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 365 to ChellyBelly!

Happy Day 365 to KAB!

Happy Day 365 to StonewallPDS!

Happy Day 365 to Ashley!

Happy Day 365 to Hughie!

Happy Day 400 to Tree!

Happy Day 400 to Lucia!

Happy Day 400 to Moon Alley!

Happy Day 500 to unwindegal!

Happy Day 500 to Q’s Mom!

Happy Day 500 to Kai!

Happy Day 500 to Meraki!

Happy Day 500 to Greenbean!

Happy Day 500 to Heya Monster!

Happy Day 500 to Shorttermnoterm!

Happy Day 600 to Hollers!

Happy Day 600 to Oz!

Happy Day 700 to Southern Magnolia 703!

Happy Day 700 to Rock2015!

Happy Day 700 to Minnieme!

Happy Day 800 to Jacqui!

Happy Day 800 to Petunia!

Happy Day 800 to Dancing Rabbit!

Happy Day 800 to Microlady!

Happy Day 800 to AlexP!

Happy Day 800 to ChefStarr!

Happy Day 800 to Monique!

Happy Day 900 to Weenie!

Happy Day 900 to Via51214!

Happy Day 900 to 1111!

Happy Day 900 to Manda!

Happy Day 900 to Sober Lemon!

Happy Day 900 to PP!

Happy Day 1000 to Hank!

Happy Day 1000 to Aschae!

Happy Day 1000 to Emery!

Happy Day 1000 to Going2pieces!

Happy Day 1000 to Soberp82!

Happy Day 1000 to Blake!

Happy Day 1100 to Jilly Bean!

Happy Day 1100 to Kirst!

Happy Day 1200 to Beckie!

Happy Day 1300 to JM!

Happy Day 1400 to Amy!

Happy Day 1600 to thirteenpointone!

 

Monday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Sings!

Happy Day 50 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 50 to Mrs. T!

Happy Day 50 to SDBKatz!

Happy Day 50 to Guinea Pig!

Happy Day 50 to Chia!

Happy Day 50 to Wren1450!

Happy Day 50 to Julianne!

Happy Day 50 to Gene!

Happy Day 50 to cjback!

Happy Day 50 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 50 to Beth2016!

Happy Day 50 to Fay!

Happy Day 50 to TJS!

Happy Day 50 to Garcia!

Happy Day 50 to Poppy!

Happy Day 50 to topo chico!

Happy Day 50 to Ruby!

Happy Day 50 to Sahara!

Happy Day 50 to Pearl!

Happy Day 50 to ceemac!

Happy Day 50 to Hollm!

Happy Day 50 to Brett!

Happy Day 100 to Lua!

Happy Day 100 to Susanmarie!

Happy Day 100 to MG7!

Happy Day 100 to Peaceable J!

Happy Day 100 to TT!

Happy Day 100 to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 100 to BG!

Happy Day 100 to Mia!

Happy Day 100 to Tewks!

Happy Day 100 to Sabrina!

Happy Day 100 to Waking Up Again!

Happy Day 100 to Francis!

Happy Day 100 to Bladerboy!

Happy Day 100 to Buttercup244!

Happy Day 100 to Suzannefran!

Happy Day 100 to AlcoholFreeC!

Happy Day 100 to Imba!

Happy Day 100 to KatieMay!

Happy Day 100 to Purple Robin!

Happy Day 100 to Clearlee!

Happy Day 100 to Toga!

Happy Day 180 to Conn!

Happy Day 180 to KatieMay!

Happy Day 180 to Purple Robin!

Happy Day 180 to Clearlee!

Happy Day 180 to Toga!

Happy Day 200 to 2BLimber!

Happy Day 200 to Patten!

Happy Day 200 to KT Web!

Happy Day 200 to SoberSparkles!

Happy Day 200 to Bridget!

Happy Day 200 to Melissa Rose!

Happy Day 200 to Mastiffmom!

Happy Day 200 to waggintail!

Happy Day 300 to Troxler!

Happy Day 300 to Fern!

Happy Day 300 to Coco!

Happy Day 300 to NLW!

Happy Day 300 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 300 to NSRunner!

Happy Day 300 to MichelleS!

Happy Day 365 to JP!

Happy Day 365 to Thirsty Iris!

Happy Day 365 to Gypsygirl!

Happy Day 365 to Tree!

Happy Day 400 to Juliejean123!

Happy Day 400 to RossFSU!

Happy Day 400 to Ami!

Happy Day 400 to Sooz!

Happy Day 400 to EMJ001!

Happy Day 400 to Lavenderzone!

Happy Day 400 to TickleMeShelmo!

Happy Day 500 to Liberte!

Happy Day 500 to AnnieB!

Happy Day 500 to Youngernow!

Happy Day 500 to AnnaD!

Happy Day 500 to Whitbell25!

Happy Day 500 to Beck!

Happy Day 500 to Ginette!

Happy Day 500 to Lila!

Happy Day 500 to ElizabethDC!

Happy Day 500 to Hazelx!

Happy Day 500 to Mil!

Happy Day 500 to seekingpeace!

Happy Day 500 to yoda!

Happy Day 500 to VTgirl!

Happy Day 600 to Julie-Joy’s Sister!

Happy Day 600 to AmandaPanda!

Happy Day 600 to Ms. Red!

Happy Day 600 to Fay868!

Happy Day 600 to Me-fixing-me!

Happy Day 600 to Lisa1199!

Happy Day 600 to Mythreesons!

Happy Day 600 to SoberBuddy!

Happy Day 600 to Honner!

Happy Day 600 to gingerade!

Happy Day 600 to SophieSomething!

Happy Day 600 to Rache B!

Happy Day 600 to Yogayamagirl!

Happy Day 600 to Jock!

Happy Day 600 to Sea Turtle!

Happy Day 600 to Ina!

Happy Day 700 to Library Girl!

Happy Day 700 to Joannie!

Happy Day 700 to Chace!

Happy Day 700 to Nowine59!

Happy Day 700 to Marbear!

Happy Day 700 to Junebug!

Happy Day 700 to Frenchie!

Happy Day 800 to iphonebonnie!

Happy Day 800 to Chachi!

Happy Day 800 to nomorepinot!

Happy Day 800 to fleur!

Happy Day 800 to Chatsworth!

Happy Day 800 to Cricket!

Happy Day 800 to Shar!

Happy Day 900 to Foxie!

Happy Day 900 to Renee!

Happy Day 900 to Batersea Park!

Happy Day 900 to Welles!

Happy Day 900 to K!

Happy Day 900 to Gra!

Happy Day 900 to SusieA!

Happy Day 900 to IrishDee!

Happy Day 900 to GW!

Happy Day 900 to JustHadToHaveIt!

Happy Day 900 to Darla!

Happy Day 900 to AM!

Happy Day 900 to ParisienneKnitter!

Happy Day 900 to Run Dontwine!

Happy Day 900 to IrishGirl!

Happy Day 1000 to DeeN!

Happy Day 1000 to Amos!

Happy Day 1000 to FitFatFood!

Happy Day 1000 to Heather!

Happy Day 1000 to Moore!

Happy Day 1000 to abwalsh!

Happy Day 1000 to Crispy!

Happy Day 1000 to Kimf!

Happy Day 1000 to Jacques!

Happy Day 1000 to Rose!

Happy Day 1000 to Santa Cruz!

Happy Day 1000 to Phoebe!

Happy Day 1000 to Doll Face!

Happy Day 1000 to Telling the Words!

Happy Day 1000 to Sherri!

Happy Day 1000 to Lurking with Intent!

Happy Day 1000 to Carole!

Happy Day 1000 to Layla!

Happy Day 1000 to Libby!

Happy Day 1000 to Traci!

Happy Day 1000 to Winkle!

Happy Day 1100 to Mylene!

Happy Day 1100 to Anna!

Happy Day 1100 to Jeroen!

Happy Day 1100 to Quinn!

Happy Day 1100 to Lucy!

Happy Day 1100 to TipTree!

Happy Day 1200 to Beckie!

Happy Day 1200 to Kristi Coulter!

Happy Day 1200 to C How!

Happy Day 1200 to Sarita!

Happy Day 1200 to Ingrid!

Happy Day 1200 to Trish!

Happy Day 1300 to JM!

Happy Day 1300 to Rebecca!

Happy Day 1300 to Digs!

Happy Day 1300 to Carrie!

Happy Day 1400 to Amy!

 

anonymous confession booth: things we can’t control

step right up. for one day only, i’m creating an anonymous sober confession booth on the subject of “things we can’t control”.

I want to focus on things we need to let go of. Like crazy in-laws, compulsive behaviours, and those people you are forced to visit where you’re afraid to eat in their homes because you’re not sure if you’ll get food poisoning or not. “I just scraped off the mould, they say.”

This came to me because of a one-on-one call i had with a sober penpal this week. We are all carrying around this backpack of rocks of things we just need to let go of.

i personally hate dwelling in the past — unnecessarily. Yes, sometimes we have to excavate. But i don’t want to wallow. And there’s a very fine line between the two. And then there’s the shame. and the guilt. yeah.

So here’s the deal.

  1. Post a comment below.

  2. For this to work you MUST leave your name and your email and your website address BLANK in the comments form (if you forget, i’ll go in and delete that info manually). all comments are to be anonymous. one of the comments will be from me, you just won’t know which one.

  3. I have no way of personally knowing who posts what. Promise.

  4. In your comment, write two or three sentences (max.) about something that you’d like to stop in your life, some weight you’ve been carrying around, that being sober is going to help you let go of. For example, i’ll make one up: “I’d like to step out of the way of my crazy MIL and just recognize that she’s a flawed human and it’s my job to remove myself from her reach.” OR “I have been a compulsive laundry freak, the clothes I wore today must be clean and folded every night when I go to bed. Now that i’m sober I’m going to let that go. I don’t need to be in control of my laundry anymore. I’m going to let it go.”

  5. Then take a second and post an anonymous ‘reply’ to ONE of the other comments already posted, and say something comforting, consoling, forgiving, kind.

i have a feeling that this will unfold in a lovely way. because you’re all lovely people. and we all have a backpack of rocks that we’d like to put down, right? What’s in your backpack?

PS. if your name/email automatically shows up when you start to enter a comment, you can manually delete them OR you can ‘log out’ of your blogging profile.

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