Wednesday Celebration Roundup

(i haven’t posted a roundup since July, so this list is longer than usual).

If we are sober penpals, then we email all the time and I keep track of your dates. Then i can celebrate you online (here) when you hit the big milestones. like these ones:

Happy Day 50 to JasJet

Happy Day 50 to Sandal!

Happy Day 50 to Sober Julie Mtl!

Happy Day 50 to CarolynW!

Happy Day 50 to Buttercup244!

Happy Day 50 to Brissie!

Happy Day 50 to Chum!

Happy Day 50 to Happiersober!

Happy Day 50 to drinkdodger!

Happy Day 50 to LightningBug45!

Happy Day 50 to BelayOn!

Happy Day 50 to Sargeant!

Happy Day 50 to Fly Over Girl!

Happy Day 50 to Flora!

Happy Day 50 to NMD!

Happy Day 50 to Edison!

Happy Day 50 to Franci!

Happy Day 50 to Moneyfortreats!

Happy Day 50 to Nayana!

Happy Day 50 to Miranda!

Happy Day 50 to Barbs!

Happy Day 50 to Daffodil Princess!

Happy Day 50 to Andpops!

Happy Day 50 to SoberNevertheless!

Happy Day 50 to Lee the Pea!

Happy Day 50 to Glanville!

Happy Day 50 to Sobersusie!

Happy Day 50 to Lena!

Happy Day 50 to Sparky!

Happy Day 50 to Granite Angel!

Happy Day 50 to JenJen!

Happy Day 100 to Aleesjourney!

Happy Day 100 to Veeee!

Happy Day 100 to Pilates Queenie!

Happy Day 100 to Miss Nelson!

Happy Day 100 to Ohnarn!

Happy Day 100 to Nell!

Happy Day 100 to SterlingGhost!

Happy Day 100 to Amazon Sister!

Happy Day 100 to ShelT!

Happy Day 100 to Bayleaf!

Happy Day 100 to Peppercorn!

Happy Day 100 to karin!

Happy Day 100 to Blackbird!

Happy Day 100 to Lheras!

Happy Day 100 to Jennifer 2.0!

Happy Day 100 to Da!

Happy Day 100 to lageeg!

Happy Day 100 to Janey!

Happy Day 100 to pinkclouds!

Happy Day 100 to Marie Louise!

Happy Day 100 to KeysKathy!

Happy Day 100 to Terry Kate!

Happy Day 100 to Flyfishingdude!

Happy Day 100 to Timely!

Happy Day 100 to Wilder!

Happy Day 100 to Versa!

Happy Day 100 to Moi!

Happy Day 100 to Suzabelle!

Happy Day 180 to Jane Marie!

Happy Day 180 to Carly!

Happy Day 180 to A Free Willow!

Happy Day 200 to Coffeegirl!

Happy Day 200 to AMA!

Happy Day 200 to Lotus!

Happy Day 200 to SoberSeasideSally!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to Twisty!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to KeyLes!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to C-J!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to Jacci2!

Happy Day 300 to Happy Day 200 to Simon’s Mom!

Happy Day 300 to Mary Elizabeth!

Happy Day 300 to Lovinrunning!

Happy Day 300 to Serenity Now!

Happy Day 300 to Evita87!

Happy Day 300 to Greenyj1!

Happy Day 300 to Jaded!

Happy Day 300 to MindfulMe!

Happy Day 300 to Ishmael!

Happy Day 300 to Lex!

Happy Day 300 to Kay!

Happy Day 300 to Shel!

Happy Day 300 to Mamabird!

Happy Day 300 to ECP!

Happy Day 300 to SG!

Happy Day 300 to Katrinka!

Happy Day 300 to Hidcote!

Happy Day 400 to Trigirl!

Happy Day 400 to Rehc!

Happy Day 400 to Sadie2015!

Happy Day 400 to JI!

Happy Day 400 to vstuart!

Happy Day 400 to RainyPNW!

Happy Day 400 to Stanley!

Happy Day 400 to Leener!

Happy Day 400 to Smokey!

Happy Day 400 to Sobe the Lion!

Happy Day 400 to Lordi!

Happy Day 400 to Ket!

Happy Day 400 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 400 to Mlodius!

Happy Day 400 to Frog!

Happy Day 400 to Bug June!

Happy Day 400 to MiMoMa!

Happy Day 400 to Lars!

Happy Day 400 to Nan!

Happy Day 400 to Flyaway!

Happy Day 500 to Leila!

Happy Day 500 to Maggie Mo!

Happy Day 500 to lmichel!

Happy Day 500 to LinZeeLou!

Happy Day 500 to BalanceBeam!

Happy Day 500 to BirdSetFree!

Happy Day 500 to Mia!

Happy Day 500 to Sobriety Unlocked!

Happy Day 500 to AuntieMame!

Happy Day 500 to Renne in Rochester!

Happy Day 600 to Newg!

Happy Day 600 to Leigh Ann!

Happy Day 600 to RossFSU!

Happy Day 600 to 35&changing!

Happy Day 600 to SoberSparkles!

Happy Day 600 to MrsWooly!

Happy Day 600 to NatureNancy!

Happy Day 600 to Kaycee!

Happy Day 600 to Blou!

Happy Day 600 to RetiringPartyGirl

Happy Day 600 to Peewit!

Happy Day 600 to Lavender!

Happy Day 600 to Gina!

Happy Day 600 to Helen!

Happy Day 600 to Gomez!

Happy Day 600 to Mummabear!

Happy Day 600 to Loz!

Happy Day 600 to jaylee!

Happy Day 600 to MrsRoberts!

Happy Day 600 to Lizzytish!

Happy Day 600 to Peaceable J!

Happy Day 600 to Mindful Monica!

Happy Day 700 to Princess Buttercup!

Happy Day 700 to SueW!

Happy Day 700 to Roadtosoberville!

Happy Day 700 to Lacie!

Happy Day 700 to KiKi71!

Happy Day 700 to Honey Bear!

Happy Day 700 to Resiliensea!

Happy Day 700 to true.d.true!

Happy Day 700 to Becca1978!

Happy Day 700 to Blondie!

Happy Day 700 to Jamie-Tampa!

Happy Day 700 to Capt. Unwined!

Happy Day 700 to Tiger2018!

Happy Day 700 to Honoring Grace!

Happy Day 700 to Boozy Betty!

Happy Day 700 to A_Sober_Cannibal!

Happy Day 700 to Shannon A!

Happy Day 700 to Sisty!

Happy Day 700 to SohoCat!

Happy Day 700 to Ashley!

Happy Day 700 to Gracie514!

Happy Day 700 to Indy!

Happy Day 700 to Pwhims!

Happy Day 700 to Rachel E!

Happy Day 700 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 700 to Inspired!

Happy Day 700 to Calypso!

Happy Day 700 to Allie!

Happy Day 700 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 700 to Liz!

Happy Day 700 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 700 to Meadowmuffins!

Happy Day 700 to Jeans!

Happy Day 700 to Sallyd!

Happy Day 700 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 700 to Jena14!

Happy Day 800 to Ruby!

Happy Day 800 to Hollm!

Happy Day 800 to Reg!

Happy Day 800 to Bemmy Girl!

Happy Day 800 to BattleMatt!

Happy Day 800 to *Maverick!

Happy Day 800 to April!

Happy Day 800 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 800 to unduped!

Happy Day 800 to Tsilver!

Happy Day 800 to vmd free!

Happy Day 800 to Lippy!

Happy Day 800 to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 800 to Nomobsing!

Happy Day 800 to Hollykate!

Happy Day 800 to JT Weir!

Happy Day 800 to Edi!

Happy Day 800 to Leftcoastgirl!

Happy Day 800 to Dry Ginger!

Happy Day 900 to Miss Kell!

Happy Day 900 to Reenie!

Happy Day 900 to Imara!

Happy Day 900 to Conn!

Happy Day 900 to KatieMay!

Happy Day 900 to Clearlee!

Happy Day 900 to Patten!

Happy Day 900 to KT Web!

Happy Day 900 to CaseyM!

Happy Day 900 to Surfrider11!

Happy Day 900 to Runnergirl!

Happy Day 1000 to Lanza!

Happy Day 1000 to Chell!

Happy Day 1000 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 1000 to Franny!

Happy Day 1000 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 1000 to TJ!

Happy Day 1000 to SoberInMtl!

Happy Day 1000 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 1000 to Binkles!

Happy Day 1000 to Elis!

Happy Day 1000 to Lydster!

Happy Day 1000 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 1000 to Fern!

Happy Day 1000 to Coco!

Happy Day 1000 to ShellMN!

Happy Day 1000 to Suzie Jay!

Happy Day 1000 to SarahBee!

Happy Day 1000 to NS Runner!

Happy Day 1000 to Case Study Michelle!

Happy Day 1000 to Truleah!

Happy Day 1000 to Pohenix!

Happy Day 1000 to ChellyBelly!

Happy Day 1000 to KAB!

Happy Day 1000 to Hughie!

Happy Day 1100 to JP!

Happy Day 1100 to Thirsty Iris!

Happy Day 1100 to Gypsygirl!

Happy Day 1100 to Tree!

Happy Day 1100 to Lucia!

Happy Day 1100 to Juliejean123!

Happy Day 1100 to Ami!

Happy Day 1100 to Sooz!

Happy Day 1100 to EMJ001!

Happy Day 1100 to Lavenderzone!

Happy Day 1100 to Linley!

Happy Day 1100 to Cal!

Happy Day 1200 to Gordon!

Happy Day 1200 to Unwinedgal!

Happy Day 1200 to Meraki!

Happy Day 1200 to Heya Monster!

Happy Day 1200 to Shorttermnoterm!

Happy Day 1200 to AnnieB!

Happy Day 1200 to Whitbell25!

Happy Day 1200 to Ginette!

Happy Day 1200 to Lilac!

Happy Day 1200 to ElizabethDC!

Happy Day 1200 to Silver Birch!

Happy Day 1200 to Mil!

Happy Day 1200 to Seekingpeace!

Happy Day 1200 to Yoda!

Happy Day 1200 to VTgirl!

Happy Day 1200 to MJP!

Happy Day 1200 to Inky!

Happy Day 1200 to Graceful!

Happy Day 1300 to TK!

Happy Day 1300 to Julie-Joy’s Sister!

Happy Day 1300 to Faye858!

Happy Day 1300 to me-fixing-me!

Happy Day 1300 to mythreesons!

Happy Day 1300 to Honner!

Happy Day 1300 to gingerade!

Happy Day 1300 to SophieSomething!

Happy Day 1300 to Jock!

Happy Day 1300 to Sea Turtle!

Happy Day 1300 to Miss M!

Happy Day 1300 to Coffeecuphead!

Happy Day 1300 to Kitkatpaddywack!

Happy Day 1300 to 1035!

Happy Day 1300 to Jayda!

Happy Day 1300 to Frankie!

Happy Day 1300 to LJ63!

Happy Day 1400 to Summer Walking!

Happy Day 1400 to Turcotte!

Happy Day 1400 to Jennetic!

Happy Day 1400 to Souther Magnolia1013!

Happy Day 1400 to Maureen!

Happy Day 1400 to Library Girl!

Happy Day 1400 to Joannie!

Happy Day 1400 to Chace!

Happy Day 1400 to Junebug!

Happy Day 1400 to Frenchie!

Happy Day 1400 to Gabbygirl37!

Happy Day 1400 to TheMadnessStopsNow!

Happy Day 1400 to Elly!

Happy Day 1400 to 19Cathleen!

Happy Day 1400 to rexytime!

Happy Day 1400 to cocomac!

Happy Day 1400 to NewChris!

Happy Day 1400 to Jas!

Happy Day 1500 to Paris!

Happy Day 1500 to Shout444!

Happy Day 1500 to Midwestveggie!

Happy Day 1500 to Rah!

Happy Day 1500 to RoseMarie!

Happy Day 1500 to Janna!

Happy Day 1500 to Jacqui!

Happy Day 1500 to Kelz!

Happy Day 1500 to Petunia!

Happy Day 1500 to Dancing Rabbit!

Happy Day 1500 to Microlady!

Happy Day 1500 to AlexP!

Happy Day 1500 to Chefstarr!

Happy Day 1500 to Monique!

Happy Day 1500 to iphonebonnie!

Happy Day 1500 to chachi!

Happy Day 1500 to nomorepinot!

Happy Day 1500 to fleur!

Happy Day 1500 to chatsworth!

Happy Day 1500 to cricket!

Happy Day 1500 to shar!

Happy Day 1500 to kenney!

Happy Day 1500 to paulita!

Happy Day 1500 to artsmommy!

Happy Day 1500 to ish!

Happy Day 1500 to meagan!

Happy Day 1600 to CassieB!

Happy Day 1600 to Roisin!

Happy Day 1600 to Shelby!

Happy Day 1600 to Weenie!

Happy Day 1600 to 1111!

Happy Day 1600 to Manda!

Happy Day 1600 to Sober lemon!

Happy Day 1600 to PP!

Happy Day 1600 to Foxie!

Happy Day 1600 to Battersea Park!

Happy Day 1600 to Welles!

Happy Day 1600 to Gra!

Happy Day 1600 to SusieQ!

Happy Day 1600 to IrishDee!

Happy Day 1600 to GW!

Happy Day 1600 to JustHadToHaveIt!

Happy Day 1600 to Annie!

Happy Day 1600 to Parsienne Knitter!

Happy Day 1600 to Run Dontwine!

Happy Day 1600 to IrishGirl!

Happy Day 1600 to Janett!

Happy Day 1600 to tlecompte!

Happy Day 1600 to hcassstevens!

Happy Day 1600 to otherjosh!

Happy Day 1700 to Isabel!

Happy Day 1700 to Daybird!

Happy Day 1700 to Connie!

Happy Day 1700 to Hank!

Happy Day 1700 to Emery!

Happy Day 1700 to Going2pieces!

Happy Day 1700 to SoberP!

Happy Day 1700 to DeeN!

Happy Day 1700 to Moore!

Happy Day 1700 to abwalsh!

Happy Day 1700 to Crispy!

Happy Day 1700 to Kimf!

Happy Day 1700 to Rose!

Happy Day 1700 to Santa Cruz!

Happy Day 1700 to Telling TheWords!

Happy Day 1700 to Sherri!

Happy Day 1700 to Lurking with Intent!

Happy Day 1700 to Lizzy!

Happy Day 1700 to OneDayAtATime!

Happy Day 1700 to KateF!

Happy Day 1700 to Wanting to be a sober mom!

Happy Day 1700 to Tammi!

Happy Day 1700 to Shell Bell!

Happy Day 1700 to RM!

Happy Day 1800 to Primrose!

Happy Day 1800 to Sadie!

Happy Day 1800 to SignGurl!

Happy Day 1800 to Jilly Bean!

Happy Day 1800 to Mylene!

Happy Day 1800 to Jeroen!

Happy Day 1800 to Lucy!

Happy Day 1800 to Catherine Gray (day 1859 today)!

Happy Day 1800 to DianeLouise!

Happy Day 1800 to Pam!

Happy Day 1900 to Sharon!

Happy Day 1900 to LD!

Happy Day 1900 to Laurie!

Happy Day 1900 to Durf11!

Kristi Coulter (day 1944 today)!

Happy Day 1900 to Sarita!

Happy Day 1900 to Ingrid!

Happy Day 1900 to Original Beth!

Happy Day 1900 to Leah!

Happy Day 2000 to JM!

Happy Day 2000 to Digs!

Happy Day 2000 to Carrie!

Happy Day 2000 to Amy!

Happy Day 2300 to me today!

[Audio] Sober Tools

A couple of days ago I recorded a new podcast about sober tools ... what helps and what doesn’t. 

You know, how we try to take vitamins to help us be sober, and French classes, and sign up for marathons — hoping they’ll provide the accountability we need to quit drinking.

This new podcast (episode 267) went out to podcast subscribers.

Here's a 7-minute clip where you can listen to a bit of the audio. This begins at about the 17 minute mark in the full-length 30 minute podcast.

extract from Sober Podcast 267. Sober Tools

You can leave a comment below, anonymous is fine ... To download the entire audio, you can use the link below.

Download SP267. Sober Tools

Sign up for the ​podcast membership
(1-2 new full-length audios each ​week, you can cancel whenever you like ... but you won't. more sober tools = good)


if booze is an elevator that only goes down, you can exit the elevator. when the door opens, be sure to get off. and stay off.

original Exit art > here

broken plumbing, family squabbles, existential crises

from me:
after i sent my earlier message to say thank you I got some really lovely responses, so now i get to say thank you again 🙂

~

doug: “Wow. Humbly, I say you’re welcome. You thanking us.  I wasn’t expecting that. God, thank YOU so  much for everything.
Gratitude, true gratitude is precious. I try to recognize when I am grateful and stop and appreciate it. I realized recently that I felt like I was missing something. I thought about it. I realized that the feeling of gratitude had been absent lately. Not because I had anything less to be grateful for. I’d simply been too busy to appreciate my life. I love this email.  Thank you again. For giving me a reason to pause and give thanks. ~big hugs”

fatgit: “Well, that’s nice, if entirely redundant. Thank you too for giving me a life worth living. X Da”

emsyface: “That’s so good to hear (about mr.B). Makes such a difference when the other person is feeling good about themselves.”

honeybadger: “Just purchased the latest Mr. B work of art. I would have liked to pay more but have been on maternity leave (without getting paid) and daycare expenses start soon so money is tight right now. Didn’t want Mr. B to think it was a reflection on its value. I anticipate going back to work will be hard on many fronts so I plan on keeping the painting at work as a reminder of how far I’ve come. Playing it forward and remembering life in the sewer is always helpful when shit gets rough.”

peewit: “This is really lovely. A bit of a glimpse into belle-world, which I know you share plenty of but this is different, more like the doors opened a bit wider and we can see a bit more of you because this is you in relationship. And of course you don’t spill the guts of your relationship with us generally but as humans are relational beings – whether we like it or not 😉 – seeing how someone else ‘does’ relating is basically a teaching aid. And the way you’re willing to try to support each other, even when there’s struggles and differences and shit going on, that’s a door opening on to a lesson for most of us (most of us being people who do NOT like reaching for our own door handle even when we know we’re trapped). … Thanks so much for sharing belle, bless you and mr belle, xxxxx”

sobersusie: “I somehow missed that these are Mr. B’s creations. Well done! How exciting. Good for him.  May he continue creating! Thank you Belle for your presence in our lives. I hope you go to bed each night and feel you’ve made a difference in people’s lives because you have.”

happygal: “Overjoyed to read this. So happy you and Mr B are feeling fulfilled. We all love you Belle. Thank YOU for the seismic shift you’ve created in the sober world ”

LVL: “You are so special!! Blessed to have heard about you and you help make this struggle and climb easier!! Without Mr B, Mrs B would be different I guess. So in a sense the thanks goes to him for supporting you as well. Wanting to make you proud (like a verrrry young mom in a different country).  Hugs and lots of love from a sober and level LVL x”

fridgkit: “Thank you, Belle, for getting me to Day 36. For make my me believe that each day can be different and better. Thanks for your fiction and Mr. B’s art. And thanks for starting all this yourself, all those years ago. Broken plumbing, family squabbles, existential crises—I’ve weathered them all this week. Knowing you are there has been a big help!”


Exit painting

If booze is an elevator that only goes down, you can exit now. Find the door. Get out. Exit.

These are original EXIT paintings, done by MrBelle. each one is an original, they’re not prints. so there’s only one of each available. to see today’s new painting, go here.

thanks

from my daily micro-email sent August 28, 2018

 

thanks. 
let me start by saying thank you. for all the things.
you know those knots you carry around inside forEVER and then they slowly start to unwind? those knots. sure, you know about them.
that’s how i feel right this minute. un-knotted. (long may it continue!)

i want to say thanks for:
your support while i do this sober thing. you think that i’m doing something for you, but you’re doing something for me — in my coaching calls, in my montreal sober meetup, in my daily emails. i wake up each morning and scroll through my inbox, to see how you’re doing, to see if you have news. to see if you’ve written the song in the sand yet, or cleaned up the cat vomit, or if you’ve travelling home safely from vacation.

i also want to say thanks for the support on the newest addition to the site, the original art from Mr. Belle (who wants to sign his name now as: mr.B).

i don’t share a lot about his life (cuz it’s his life) but let me say this to you and you can read between the lines: he’s painting. evenings and weekends. he’s up and down the stairs to his office (when we’re at home), and now that we’re on vacation, he BROUGHT some of his art stuff in his suitcase to continue here in Canada.

to see him working on vacation is actually lovely. he’s had a slow, hard time with his career for the past 7 years so it’s really been a great thing to see him inspired.
and when THAT happens, it changes the inside of my marriage.
and when THAT happens, i feel ‘relieved’ but also supported. by you. so thank you. from both of us.

i’ll also say thank you to the agent who has asked to read the second draft of the sober fiction book. i’ll say thanks to the Everything list for your support in getting that book done. I’m planning (yes, still) to begin writing a new fiction book in September and i will let you know how you can follow along, too, when the time comes.

if you’re on a booze superhighway, it might be time to exit. if you’re on a booze elevator that only goes down, you can get off now. if you’re in the booze sewer, i promise you it’s better in the sunshine.

if you’re stuck in weird thinking, you can stop drinking and see how you feel.

exit the booze things.
all of them.
alcohol doesn’t suit you.
you’ve tried it.
it’s not for you.

hugs from me


link to original art – Exit 036
exit the sewer, exit the booze elevator.
original art, paintings – not prints – so only one of each available.

[Audio] Interview with Kristi Coulter 2018

It's been 2 years since I spoke with sober penpal #128, Kristi Coulter. She has a new book coming out on Tuesday, August 7th called Nothing Good Can Come From This. 

But the story of how she got here has a lot to teach us sober folks.

Like, how do you deal with people telling you that you just don't get it, or that you're shit?

I sent out this audio today (episode SP260) to podcast subscribers ... 

BUT I am going to make this full podcast available for 48 hours, even if you are not a podcast subscriber.

You'll want to hear this. Start now, just for a few minutes. 

Sober Podcast 260. Kristi Coulter (2018)

If you could leave a comment after you listen, that'd be great. Anonymous is fine. To download the entire audio, you can use the link below.

Download SP260. Kristi Coulter (2018)

Sign up for the ​podcast membership
(1-2 new full-length audios each ​week, you can cancel whenever you like ... but you won't. more sober tools = good)

Feedback from listeners:

Lena: Love that part about it not being about willpower. Because I guess, that’s what works ... slowly getting to know a perspective of things to be great and even greater! And particularly inspiring awesome to getting to know real people who are showing up, and what is possible if you just go through that tough stuff. 'cause grass IS greener on the other (sober) side! Love for that <3"

Emsyface: "I found this a really useful and there were some parts that stuck out:

Before she quit she felt like she was just fulfilling everyone else’s needs and that her writing/pure creativity was “not essential”. This I think is important because it shows how alcohol makes us just focus on getting through and we deny ourselves any sense of pleasure or frivolity.

The part when she got negative feedback for expressing anger and that meant she was a “dry drunk” and would relapse...

The part where she talks about reading your blog and you “liking” being sober. Catherine Gray in her book talks about sobriety having such a negative image whereas the reality is anything but. That was so worth hearing again.

I found it affirming to hear from someone who didn’t have underlying mental health issues that if one did, one might need more support.

Other little nuggets were “drinking doesn’t change reality” (but changes how you process it); and that feelings don’t kill you. ... Thanks for this- one of the best I’ve heard in a while."


Wednesday Celebration Roundup

If we are sober penpals, then we email all the time and I keep track of your dates. Then i can celebrate you online (here) when you hit the big milestones. like these ones:

Happy Day 50 to Lheras!

Happy Day 50 to Scrappy!

Happy Day 50 to Wave-Spirit!

Happy Day 50 to Jennifer 2.0!

Happy Day 50 to Hat Trick!

Happy Day 50 to Da!

Happy Day 50 to Allison!

Happy Day 100 to Jane Marie!

Happy Day 100 to Reenster!

Happy Day 100 to Carly!

Happy Day 100 to Alligen!

Happy Day 180 to Mary Elizabeth!

Happy Day 200 to SerenityNow!

Happy Day 200 to Ana Maria!

Happy Day 200 to Prissy!

Happy Day 200 to Lhaschnoodle!

Happy Day 200 to Happy Day 200 to unpuzzlingpatti!

Happy Day 200 to wildflower!

Happy Day 200 to emsyface!

Happy Day 200 to jenwithoutwine!

Happy Day 400 to Dry Ace!

Happy Day 400 to Leila!

Happy Day 500 to Karebear!

Happy Day 500 to RRH!

Happy Day 500 to Goldie!

Happy Day 600 to Lime Tree!

Happy Day 600 to Sophiestar!

Happy Day 600 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 700 to Gene!

Happy Day 700 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 700 to TJS!

Happy Day 700 to RubyHarper!

Happy Day 700 to Poppy!

Happy Day 900 to Auds!

Happy Day 900 to Kaffy B!

Happy Day 900 to Debbie!

Happy Day 900 to KLC!

Happy Day 900 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 1000 to Hughie!

Happy Day 1200 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 1200 to Jenuful!

Happy Day 1300 to Sean!

Happy Day 1300 to Indian Lake!

Happy Day 1300 to Mel P!

Happy Day 1400 to Canadian Girl!

Happy Day 1400 to Festie!

Happy Day 1400 to Graceb!

Happy Day 1500 to Sanfransober!

Happy Day 1500 to Lara!

Happy Day 1600 to RunnerMom!

Happy Day 1700 to Janet!

Happy Day 1700 to Denise!

Summer Rescue Audios

One new audio each day for 5 days in a row.

Each audio will be 3-5 minutes long. Perfect for a reset, when your brain is running all over the place.

Topics: alternative drinks, how to deal with a fuck-it moment, ‘my sober summer is awesome because …’, dealing with cravings that come out of nowhere triggered by a song/situation/memory, and dealing with triggers books and TV where people are drinking a lot…

Hugs, Belle xo

P.S. If you’re a monthly podcast subscriber,you’ll get a copy of these audios automatically. Not a podcast subscriber? You can do that here if you like. Or just take this one week of audios as a stand-alone thingy.

Sober Summer Rescue Audios … go here 🙂
https://gum.co/SP-Summer-1

protect that shit

from AnnaD (day 86):

“Heavy drinking is like time travel. Each year of drinking is five years of actual life. It’s why relapses are time-sucking vortices, into which whole decades can be devoured like so many Cool Ranch Doritos. This makes falling off the wagon a much longer trip than the cute aphorism suggests. The wagon is much higher up off the ground than you’d think — if you dismount, you will fall a long, long time before you hit even a high bottom. Claw your way back on. It’s worth it. Because, like quitting smoking, almost everything is easier than the first part of quitting. Once you’ve done it, protect that shit like it’s sacred, because it fucking is.”

 

Senior Sober Workshop: Worth
(and senior just means you’re 200+ days sober)
registration begins Tuesday, July 17th
small group, live calls, homework, treat box in the mail
www.soberlinks.me/worth

Resentment

from my inbox

P:  “I’ve had some moments the past couple days but I’m determined to make it through … I’m still angry at my friends [about my birthday] and the world. I’m still hurt about their thoughtlessness. Oh and another thing that’s bugging me – I sent out like 50+ Xmas cards in the mail. I love getting some back in the mail and guess how many I got in return? Like 8. People just don’t care. Not like I care it seems. Makes me want to hate everyone right now. That’s how I feel.”

me: the thing about holding resentments (birthday/ Christmas cards) is that it’s wolfie winding you up so that drinking will seem like a good idea. as if hoiday cards mean anything. they don’t. you send them because you like sending them. you don’t send them so that you’ll get some in return. if you want a lovely birthday, you do it for yourself. that’s why being sober is about learning self-care.
when you outsource your self-care and count on other people to make things good for you, you will always be ‘disappointed’ and that’s wolfie territory right there. you’re learning now how to do this for yourself. that’s what being sober IS. it’s self-care. and it’s new. and it’s hard. and if you don’t like sending out cards, then don’t send them. but to drink because people like me get cards but don’t send them, is outsourcing your well-being to people like me who just don’t’ think about cards. 🙂 and don’t let wolfie tell you otherwise.

P:  “Omg, I never thought of it that way?! Like ever! Holy shit, this reasoning could change my whole perspective on things! YES! Now I feel sheepishly stupid about how I felt about my birthday and Christmas cards. Cause yes, I DO send them out expecting them in return (which never happens and then I feel shitty) and I DO expect others to make my birthday memorable (which is illogical thinking cause they have their own life and problems, they needn’t be responsible for my happiness). My husband has truthfully told me before (in exasperation I’m sure) that it’s so hard to make me happy, that I’m usually never happy, or that nothing anyone does ever lives up to my expectations. WOW truth!!!! OK, my mind is blown here. Thank you Belle for your honesty 🙂 I needed to hear that.”

how to travel (audio)

How do you stay sober when you're dealing with family, extra people, chaos, lack of sleep, and travel.

The advice I have for sober travelling will apply to you whether you are travelling or not, because you always have to be creating a space where you’re safe to be sober. 

And you know what? You need a lot more alone time than you think, so build it in. More in the full audio that is going out today to podcast subscribers.

Here's a clip where you can listen to a bit of the audio.

extract from Sober Podcast 254. How to Travel (You need more alone time than you think)

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