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Sober Podcasts [SP]

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NEW SP256 - I Thought I'd Be Further Along (when you're worried that drinking has sucked up too much time, and you'll never recover)

SP255 - Self-Sabotage (This is controversial. i don't believe in self-sabotage. there i said it. i belive in wolfie. You are worth it. And you know it.)

SP254 - How to Travel (you need more alone time than you think; you shouldn't be out on a ledge)

SP253 - They Don't Cheer for Me (learning to turn and face people who can do what you need)

13 free audios, behind the scenes stories of how the site started, how the penpals work (and how i keep track), why the bracelets... i answer a lot of the 'why' questions you might have. free.

SP252 - Alcohol is Addictive Liquid Poo (drinking is like pouring liquid shit into your life, it flows over everything, it affects every aspect of your life)

SP251 - We're More the Same Than Different (a special "introduction to sobriety" audio, recorded especially for you if you are in the first 60 days sober)

SP250 - Anxious. Tired of Drinking (sleep and anxiety and the noise in our head that lies to us)

SP249 - Sober Summer (the first time you do anything is weird—first sober sex, first sober summer)

SP248 - Easily Frustrated (dealing with feelings of discomfort, and the thing that we all share as drinkers: a low frustration threshold. Easily irritated? Check. Think that bad traffic is a god reason to drink? Check.)

SP247 - Research and Statistics (be careful what you believe, biased media, and then I share some of my own numbers in an effort to be more transparent)

SP246 - Quit Forever? (what do you do when you want to quit drinking, but forever seems too long?)

SP245 - Rapid Fire Messages (2-minute answers: scared to start, telling others you’re not drinking without annoying them, when is a good time to think about losing weight, how to stay hopeful if you're having multiple day 1s...)

SP244 - Do It All At Once (we tend to want to be sober, fix the diet, fix the relationships, earn more money, lose weight all at once—and the predictable outcome when we try to do too much)

SP243 - Q&A (treats, proud of yourself, NOT focussing on shitty stuff, how long does the poor sleep last)

SP242 - Feel Proud (learn how pride builds on itself once it gets going)

SP241 - Alcohol Is Not Required (when you feel jealous of other people's success)

SP240 - Rebellion (about having a rebellious nature, and how this can help us in being sober)

SP239 - Forgive Myself (how to deal with things that happened when we were over-drinking; how to ensure that they never hapen again)

SP237 & SP238 - Lee Davy's Podcast (parts 1 & 2) (1.5 hr interview about language, metaphors, starting a sober journey with a trial/challenge. We also examined the difference between group support and the kind of one-on-one support that I do)

SP236 - Pros and Cons (how to get going again after you’ve already had some sober time, especially when you feel very alone with it all)

SP235 - Nobody Wants to Quit (drinking, that is ... we just want the surrounding shit to stop)

SP234 - How not to be an ass (advice for well-wishers on how to support us while we do this sober thing)

SP233 - Missed Opportunities (the things we cannot take advantage of when we are drowning in alcohol)

SP232 - Incremental Change (how to approach making large changes for those of us who are easily overwhelmed)

SP231 - Community (why does online sober support work? and how does it work; what is it about having a community of sober people that helps us to feel not so alone)

SP230 - Temptation (how do we resist the temptation to drink, to do too much, to stay up too late)

NEW SP229 - I Wish I Could Fly (distorted thinking, delusions, and how hard it is to talk someone off a ledge when they believe they can fly)

NEW SP228 - My Situation is Different (when we think that it's harder for us to be sober than for other people)

NEW SP227 - Got Money Got Sober (we tend to think that other people don't have problems)

NEW SP226 - Lindsay Lohan (Oprah made a documentary show about LL when she got out of rehab)

SP225 - Behind the Scenes - Explaining Sober Fiction (a private conversation between me and my book editor about the role of sober fiction)

SP224 - Hope (can hope be taught, how do you find a path when you can't see it)

SP223 - Travel for Work (if you have to travel for work, and other situations where you feel like it's harder to be sober)

SP222 - All the Stuff (when you think you're doing 'all the things' to be sober, but you keep relapsing ... then what)

SP221 - Beyind the Scenes (Newspaper) (I am interviewed by a journalist in the UK about a future story on sobriety and its image problem)

SP220 - Thirty Years (what if you've been trying to quit drinking for a long time; how to have hope that things will change)

SP219 - Dating (when is dating a good idea, what should you give up to date someone?)

SP218 - Bored (an audio for when the long afternoon and evening of sobriety are staring back at you)

SP217 - Social Worker (the one where I interview a social worker, don't agree with what she's saying, and awkwardness ensues)

SP216 - Behind the Scenes with the BBC (I am interviewed by BBC freelance journalist about the 'image problem' that sobriety has)

SP215 - Incongruent (about the incongruent idea of drinking - how having alcohol in your life doesn't match up with what you say, and who you say you are)

SP214 - Q&A (husband who wants to be supportive, more on compliance, how to look forward and avoid regret)

SP213 - Compliance (there are tools available for us, we just don’t like them, and we don’t want to use them)

SP212 - Snake and Starfish (when you tell only part of the story ... you talk about your husband, but not about drinking. You talk about menopause but not the 2 bottles of wine)

SP211 - The Sprinkler (how to avoid dealing with someone (or some situation) that is making you feel nutty)

SP210 - Nobody wants to hear what I have to say (when you find it hard to speak up, and ask for help, because you're worried about bothering someone)

SP209 - The Value of the Placebo Effect (why does the placebo effect work? there are 3-4 discrete, concrete reasons why. First, it's participatory ...)

SP208 - Update with Lex (we originally spoke in SP013; she was having a hard time getting going, mom to 3 little kids, husband who also drank. fast forward from november 2013 to june 2017)

SP207 - Misfit (you're a misfit and who gives a shit; you don't step in dog shit – you take care of you)

SP206 - Q&A (husbands, motivation, how to get a day 1; how to explain to your spouse or family what you're doing, and the idea of trying different to get a different result)

SP205 - Fix Your 5 Percent (in all disagreements, in all of the criticism – there is 5% that's you. You can fix that. and when you fix that, EVERYTHING changes)

SP204 - Drink At Work (this is about drinking to fit in. Like, if your workplace has a very boozy culture, how do you handle that?)

SP203 - Why Be Sober? (The boozing you is a liar; if you drink, it creates a whole, different version of you, and it’s not the real you)

SP202 - Blog Reading "A Very Shitty Day" (I read from my blog, month #2, when things seemed about as bad as they could get; with commentary)

SP201 - How to Cool off in Warm Weather (being sober is like being overheated, you can use the same problem-solving tools to help you avoid overwhelm and have supports & tools before you need them).

SP200 - Don't Jiggle Your Sober Foundation (advice on how to avoid bringing a jackhammer into the foundation of your sobriety & the people you invite into your life)

SP199 - Drink Again? Regret (how to reply when wolfie says that you "didn't have a problem" and that "drinking now would probably be fine...")

SP198 - 3-Meatball Mother (how to deal with people who don't 'get' us, people who are actively dismissive, who are difficult, or who generally give us shit about our ideas)

SP197 - Keep Your Sober Car on the Road (can you see when your sober car is starting to drift?)

SP196 - Do you have to wait for a low bottom? (or, "I want to be on the Rich Roll Podcast")

SP195 - BBC Interview "Is Drinking Required"? (by far the most stressful interview I've ever done, with an argumentative host, how I defend being sober)

SP194 - I'll Have to Apologize (sometimes i think that people are doing things 'to me' and they aren't. it's not about me. argh.)

SP193 - Mother's Day (mothers aren't perfect humans, and we like to carry around resentments for a LONG time)

SP192 - BBC Radio 5 Live with Emma Barnett (recorded live, May 3, 2017 and includes 2 of my sober penpals on the line with me too)

SP190 + SP191 - What Your Therapist Can't Tell You - Parts 1 + 2 (can your therapist share if they too have a booze issue; why is it that more psychiatrists don't tell you that they've struggled too)

SP189 - Progress Not Perfection (what does this phrase really mean? like, before the 'sober' world started to use it to justify relapse, what did it mean BEFORE?)

SP188 - My Therapist is an Asshat (Response) (maybe your therapist is a nice person but doesn't understand the drinking thing)

SP187 - Take Care of You (what does it mean to 'take care of yourself')

SP186 - Keep it Exciting (sometimes sobriety feels boring, here's what you can do to help)

SP185 - "I'll Take the Stairs" (you may have a brain that mistaken tells you that it'll be easier to quit drinking 'later')

SP184 - Empathy for Addiction (what do you say to friends who want to quit drinking but don't listen to your advice; what is it like for your friends and family to deal with you)

SP183 - Magic Potion (Part 2) (trying to find magic potions that will fix us once and for all)

SP182 - Magic Potion (Part 1) (there is no magic potion; you can spend $100 on vitamins if you like)

SP181 - Fake Cocaine (why does fake beer exist if there's no fake cocaine)

SP180 - Amnesty (don't let embarrassment stop you from reachign out for help)

SP179 - Having a Crappy Time (does life suck, or does pouring booze on our heads make life seem sucky?)

SP178 - Should I Drink Again? (reading from month #1 of my blog when i can't decide whether to keep being sober or not)

SP177 - Back to the Future (some day later you'll wish you were here in early sobriety again...)

SP176 - I'm Not Going Back There (getting help for a sore back is like sobriety)

SP175 - Do I Tell People I've Quit? (how to explain to people that you've quit drinking) Sample

SP174 - Top 3 Factors That Contribute to Long-Term Sobriety (don't drift, do things, deal with shitty days)

SP173 - Celebrations (is it possible to celebrate without alcohol)

SP172 - The Melbourne Radio Interview (me, recorded live, being interviewed December 7, 2016)

SP171 - Interview Practise 3 (would i still be sober if i hadn't started the blog, one quality that makes you more likely to be sober, what piece of advice do i give most often)

SP170 - Interview Practise 2 (30 mins long; what are my plans for the future; why am a sober penpal at all, and what is self-help-live?)

SP169 - Interview Practise 1 (how to maintain boundaries, why do we over-drink (is it family history?)

SP168 - Excuses (we have a brain that asks for alcohol; the rest of the 'reasons' are wolfie

SP167 - My Chat with GW (long interview with penpal, about his sober journey after 3 DUIs and being sent to court)

SP166 - Blankets of Support Part 2 (second part of longer interview about adding layers of support)

SP165 - Blankets of Support Part 1 (part 1; If you relapse (fall out of bed) and get back in with the same 3 blankets and you don’t add more, then you’re still going to be cold. )

SP164 - My Interview with Apprentice SoberP (30 minutes)

SP163 - Good Boundaries (we care so much that other people like us, that we don't care if we like ourselves ...)

SP162 - Q&A Part 4 (how to have a last day 1)

SP161 - Q&A Part 3 (when someone wants to talk about moderation / what to look forward to after one year sober / how to respond to family pressure)

SP160 - Q&A Part 2 (couples quitting together & ideas on medication)

SP159 - Q&A Part 1 (what to expect after 50 days / how to use the sober tools you have and not just 'collect' them)

SP158 - Plan B (how do you rock the shit out of Plan B?)

SP157 - Dating (how do you know when it's time to date?)

SP156 - Q&A (weight loss, weight watchers, running a marathon in snow boots, and I read from the list of 60 sober tools)

SP155 - Prelapse (edition #2; this is my second full podcast about prelapse, the previous one was episode SP046)

SP154 - Nail Polish (when we feel uncomfortable, we're more likely to bail)

SP153 - Dismantling Wolfie (someone offers advice and that makes wolfie act up)

SP152 - Marketing (makes booze seem 'better' than it is)

SP151 - I talk with The Contrarian (one of my penpals interviews ME for his podcast)

300+ free one-minute messages, one big bundle, hours of listening pleasure (and tears, and ass-kicking)

SP150 - Interview with Kristi Coulter (sober penpal / blogger / author)

SP149 - Self-Soothing (ways we learned to 'create a mood' when we were younger)

SP148 - Don't Drink (short, powerful, there is crying)

SP147 - Weight Loss Part 2 (what happens when we put weight loss ahead of sobriety?)

SP146 - Weight Loss Part 1 (what happens when we put weight loss ahead of sobriety?)

SP145 - Fake Drinking (should you fake-drink for a toast at a wedding)

SP144 - Interview with Primrose (sober penpal / sober blogger)

SP143 - Continuum (we share certain compulsive behaviours)

SP142 - Learn it Now (what does relapse mean, what can you learn 'right now' that you can use going fowrard)

SP141 - Can I Drink Again Later? (what to tell yourself when your brain acts up with ideas of future drinking)

SP140 - Longing (audio about longing, and alcohol, and how our brains trick us with fantasy stories)

SP139 - I can't do it like that (because I'm a sober girl and I have to do things in a way that doesn't disrupt my sobriety)

SP138 - May The Fork Be With You (Resentment) (turns out that sometimes we choose to feel resentment)

SP137 - This is for Julie (all those things that you think are keeping you from being sober? They're all beside the point ...)

SP136 - Mrs. D. (my interview with NZ sober blogger, Mrs. D.)

SP135 - Orchids & Dandelions (are you a sensitive little flower? yeah, me too. this is part 2 of a longer audio)

SP134 - Orchids & Dandelions (are you a sensitive little flower? yeah, me too. this is part 1 of a longer audio)

SP133 - Drinking is Not Required (how can you tell if the voice in your head is wolfie, or you?

SP132 - That would never happen to me (Part 2; booze is an elevator that only goes down)

SP131 - That would never happen to me (Part 1; booze is an elevator that only goes down)

SP130 - Ask the Right Person (who do you ask for sober support)

SP129 - Feminist Rant? (are women in sobriety any different from men)

SP128 - Sobriety and the Meaning of Life (not sure why you're sober any more)

SP127 - Shame / Should (double episode) (why can't i do things like i think i should be able to)

SP126 - Novelty and Structure Part 2 (we need novelty when we're 'bored' and sober; here's how to get it)

SP125 - Novelty and Structure Part 1 (we need novelty when we're 'bored' and sober; here's how to get it)

SP124 - Go Back (go back to the last place you were successful)

SP123 - I Need a Carrot Part 2 (we hear 'i need a drink' in our heads, but we never hear 'i need a carrot')

SP122 - I Need a Carrot Part 1 (we hear 'i need a drink' in our heads, but we never hear 'i need a carrot')

SP120 + SP121 - Adult Learners Parts 1+2 (why is it so hard for adults to learn new skills [hint, it's because they hate feeling like they're making mistakes; they hate not knowing what they're doing])

SP119 - Ranty Belle Part 2 (we need a new 'off' button once booze is removed, and then i start to rant)  Sample 

SP118 - Ranty Belle Part 1 (we need a new 'off' button once booze is removed, and then i start to rant)  Sample 

SP117 - Motivation (apply motivation daily, like deodorant)  Sample

SP116 - Should I Quit or Cut Down? (should you abstain completely or continue to try to cut down)

SP115 - Day 11 (what is it like to be on day 11 sober)

SP114 - Self-Esteem (what is self-esteem and how do you get it)

SP110-113 - Support and How to Get It Parts 1-4 (1 hour and 15 minutes long)

SP109 - Continuous Days Sober (what do we learn when we're continuously sobriety)

SP108 - Keeping Your Car on the Road (anticipatory anxiety; and how learning to drive is like early sobriety)

SP107 - Emotional Honesty (sober people talk about REAL stuff, and how important that is)

SP106 - Treats & Rewards (what's the difference between a treat and a reward, and does it even matter)

SP105 - All New Friends (when sober, do we have to get all new friends, or can we keep some of our boozer friends)

SP104 - Large Life (how to take a bird's-eye-view of problems, dealing with bratty teenagers/neighbours)

SP103 - Boundaries (i'm doing this to take care of ME, you say. i'm learning how to say no)

SP102 - Unsupportive (what to do if married to someone who drinks, or surrounded by people who are 'unsupportive')

SP101 - Drifting (when wolfie says: i don't need to do that sober stuff any more)

SP100 - Oh Look You've Evolved (when it seems like nothing is changing in sobriety)

SP096 to 099 - Ellie Revisited - Parts 1 to 4 (just after her one year sober-versary)

SP095 - Friends (what to say to your friends, what if you're too wobbly to go out)

SP094 - Hockey (yes, it's possible to watch sports and not drink)

SP093 - Death By Escalator (our brain predicts the worst)

SP092 - Missing Out (will you always feel like you're missing out?)

SP091 - Got Shame (beating yourself up over past events)

SP090 - There is No Magical Time (you can stop waiting for the right time)

SP089 - Feel Proud of You (when you feel not enough change in sobriety, not enough improvement)

SP088 - Angry Worms (why does alcohol so darkly affect our moods)

SP087 - High Firm Bottom (if life gives you the opportunity, it’s nice to have a high bottom)

SP086 - Alcohol in the House (how to cope when alcohol is in the house)

SP085 - Life Challenges (15 minutes long; how to be sober when life is gigantically, impossibly hard; there is crying)

SP084 - The High Jump and the Wheelchair (18 minutes long; how we have beliefs about what we can and can't do)

SP083 - Embrace the Lifestyle (our brain suggests that Moderation is a new idea we haven't tried before)

SP082 - Tired of Thinking About Drinking (am I tired of thinking about drinking or about NOT drinking)

13 free audios, behind the scenes stories of how the site started, how the penpals work (and how i keep track), why the bracelets... i answer a lot of the 'why' questions you might have. free.

SP081 - Control (17 minutes long; relationship between drinking and control issues and anxiety; what are the things you can control, and the things that you can't)

SP080 - Blowing a Fuse (overwhelm leads to a 6:45 pm bedtime; double episode, 20 minutes long.  Sample

SP079 - Not Quite Enough (about having 'not quite enough' sober supports; double episode, 20 minutes long)

SP078 - Character Defect (arrogance, over-confidence, and how card tricks work; double episode, 20 minutes long)

SP077 - The Camp of Sobriety (summary of London meetup 2014)

SP076 - Not the Right Time (what happens when we wait for the perfect time to begin)

SP075 - Sober Military (what's it like to be in the miliary and sober)

SPT14 - Special audio from American Thanksgiving 2014 (1 hour long)

SP071 to 074 - Ellie - Parts 1 to 4 (interview with Ellie Schoenberger, founder of The Bubble Hour)

SP070 - Prickly (irritated when someone offers to help and feeling grumpy in general)

SP069 - Coming Out of the Closet (while drinking, we live in a very small space; picture a closet)

SP068 - What's it Like to be a Sober Street Nurse?

SP067 - Bash Wolfie on the Head - Part 4 (sometimes sobriety feels 'too easy')

SP066 - Bash Wolfie on the Head - Part 3 (finding support outside of AA and outside of relying on your friends)

SP065 - Anonymous Noise (my moving-induced insight on taking things personally)

SP064 - Bash Wolfie on the Head - Part 2 (support)

SP063 - Bash Wolfie on the Head - Live Call Part 1 (what it's like to sit in my chair and see what I see)

SP062 - That you don't deserve it? Not true.

SP061 - What Does Drinking Represent? (you think drinking is time travel and will take you to another place)

SP060 - Beach Postcard (a postcard from the future)

SP059 - Sober Time (we think sobriety is HARDER for us than for others)

SP058 - What's it like to be a Sober Musician?

SPC13 - Special (1 hour) audio from Christmas 2013

SP057 - What's it like to be a Sober Doctor?

SP056 - No More U-Turns (relapse is a u-turn, we go back to where we were)

SP055 - Mind Tricks (how lying to myself works)

SP054 - Can You Buy Hope? (response to a concern I received by email)

SP053 - Don't Get Distracted (thinking that we've made a bunch of bad decisions)

SP052 - What I Deserve (what would Belle say?)

SP051 - July 4th - an audio to combat wolfie (listen to this when wolfie is on your shoulder)

SPT13 - Special audio from American Thanksgiving 2013 (1 hour)

SP047 to 050 - Sober Passions Parts 1-4 (sobriety insurance, and getting rid of ‘either/or’ | analysis/paralysis, patience, your primary goal | what next)

SP046 - Prelapse (what happens in the days before relapse, what can you do in advance)

SP045 - Here’s What I Need From You (an explanation of drinking and sobriety to anyone who doesn’t get it)

SP044 - What's it like to be a Sober Lawyer?

SP043 - What's it like to be a Sober Pastor?

SP042 - What's it like to be a Sober Therapist?

SP041 - I'm Right and You're Wrong (how wolfie whips us into a frenzy, on purpose)

SP040 - Cinnamon Toast (how to give yourself the treats you need)

SP039 - Signs From the Universe (signs that it's a good idea to be sober)

SP038 - Overwhelm (things I do to avoid feeling overwhelmed)

SP037 - Sea Shells (we're all more alike than we are different)

SP036 - Judging (wolfie suggests moderation, as if it's a new idea we've never tried)

10-part free audio series, mini-meditations about how to reframe regret. i'm not a meditation expert. you've been warned!

SP035 - Everything Else is Wolfie (any voice you hear that isn't saying "take care of you" ... it's wolfie)

SP034 - Clever Title (when we were drinking, we couldn't count on ourselves - so we lived 'small')

SP033 - Mashed Potatoes (Oprah picks mashed potatoes, you and I pick booze)

SP032 - Getting Shit Done (why do we leave things undone)

SP031 - Post-Goal Letdown (how to deal with sober goals, like achieving day 100)

SP030 - Even Though (compulsive behaviours – doing stuff that doesn’t serve you)

SP029 - Swallowing Cement (how our very strong beliefs aren't as strong as we think)

SP028 - Practise Feeling Better (can you choose how you feel?)

SP027 - Perfectionism (waiting for the perfect time, that never comes)

SP026 - Reframing Part 3 - Regret / But my husband drinks

SP025 - Reframing Part 2 - Sober Vacations? / But I'm Shy

SP024 - Reframing Part 1 - Life is Hard / Booze is My Crutch

SP023 - Choose Focus (what you focus on changes who you are)

SP022 - I Heart Chicks (what I learned about sobriety when in the cardiac ICU)

SP021 - Don't Worry Be Happy (trusting advice)

SP020 - Fun (can you have fun sober?)

SP019 - Little Chick in the Grass (chick is lost on the new road to sobriety)

SP018 - Chicken Little (there's a little chick inside you)

SP017 - Sleep & Changing the Channel (how to change your mood)

SP016 - Anxiety & Depression (sometimes we feel crappy when sober)

SP015 - How to Have a Sober Christmas

SP014 - Lighthouse (how to find guidance)

SP013 - Lex (23 minute interview)

SP012 - 5 a.m. Wakeup Call (do you know what you're passionate about?)

SP011 - Lullabye (how to deal with a non-exciting patch - a lull - in sobriety)

SP010 - Dehydrate the Wolf (reading from the blog with anecdotes)

SP009 - London Sober Meetup (we're all normal!)

SP008 - What I Know About Me (things up with which i will not put)

SP007 - Today is the Best Day

SP006 - Sobriety is Like a Little Car (reading from the blog, with anecdotes)

SP005 - A Shitstorm of Treats (are you getting enough sober treats?)

SP004 - All is Well (even when it's not)

SP003 - Dry Drunk (my rant about what I think of this term)

SP002 - Two Eiffel Towers (the danger in trying to do the same thing again and expecting different results)

SP001 - Accepting Help (accept their milkshakes)