Tuesday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Rory!

Happy Day 50 to Chalee!

Happy Day 50 to Wanderlust!

Happy Day 50 to NMD!

Happy Day 50 to Annikki!

Happy Day 50 to Maggie Mo!

Happy Day 50 to lmichel!

Happy Day 100 to SDBKatz!

Happy Day 100 to Auntimame!

Happy Day 100 to Renne in Rochester!

Happy Day 100 to Rehc!

Happy Day 100 to Sobergirl72!

Happy Day 180 to Ninabear!

Happy Day 180 to Aimee!

Happy Day 180 to Kaycee!

Happy Day 180 to La Sobria!

Happy Day 180 to Blou!

Happy Day 180 to Jazzhands70!

Happy Day 180 to Retiring Party Girl!

Happy Day 180 to Stefanie!

Happy Day 200 to Mummabear!

Happy Day 200 to LOL!

Happy Day 200 to GK!

Happy Day 200 to Franci!

Happy Day 200 to Loz!

Happy Day 200 to IC Momentum!

Happy Day 200 to Buttercup244!

Happy Day 200 to SoberinVA!

Happy Day 300 to Rachel E!

Happy Day 300 to FlightPlan!

Happy Day 300 to Inspired!

Happy Day 300 to Calypso!

Happy Day 300 to Bunnie!

Happy Day 300 to Liz!

Happy Day 365 to Unduped!

Happy Day 365 to TSilver!

Happy Day 365 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 365 to Frupa63!

Happy Day 365 to VMD Free!

Happy Day 400 to RaspberriKiss!

Happy Day 400 to Hollykate!

Happy Day 400 to JT Weir!

Happy Day 400 to Edi!

Happy Day 600 to Case Study Michelle!

Happy Day 600 to Phoenix!

Happy Day 800 to MJP!

Happy Day 800 to Graceful!

Happy Day 1000 to Gabbygirl37!

Happy Day 1000 to TheMadnessStopsNow!

Happy Day 1000 to Elly!

Happy Day 1000 to Kenney!

Happy Day 1100 to Kenney!

Happy Day 1100 to Paulita!

Happy Day 1200 to IrishGirl!

Happy Day 1200 to KateF!

Happy Day 1300 to Challenges!

Happy Day 1800 to Katherine!

Tuesday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Liquid Tracy

Happy Day 50 to LinZeeLou!

Happy Day 50 to Rambling Rose!

Happy Day 50 to MsM!

Happy Day 50 to Kimpossible!

Happy Day 50 to Doriomom!

Happy Day 50 to Balancebeam!

Happy Day 100 to -L.!

Happy Day 100 to LittleRed!

Happy Day 100 to Tea!

Happy Day 100 to Happy Day 100 to Pahobe!

Happy Day 100 to Sandal!

Happy Day 100 to Spring Rabbit!

Happy Day 100 to Scrappy!

Happy Day 100 to Sobergirl72!

Happy Day 100 to Bonkers!

Happy Day 100 to Karebear!

Happy Day 180 to IngridandMac!

Happy Day 180 to Gomez!

Happy Day 180 to Peewit!

Happy Day 180 to Steph!

Happy Day 180 to Lavender!

Happy Day 180 to Sheree!

Happy Day 180 to Gina!

Happy Day 180 to Helen!

Happy Day 180 to LunaBlu!

Happy Day 180 to Sings!

Happy Day 180 to Ararebird!

Happy Day 180 to Mummabear!

Happy Day 180 to Wanda T!

Happy Day 180 to LOL!

Happy Day 180 to GK!

Happy Day 180 to Franci!

Happy Day 180 to IC Momemtum!

Happy Day 180 to Loz!

Happy Day 180 to Buttercup244!

Happy Day 200 to Jaylee!

Happy Day 200 to MrsRoberts!

Happy Day 200 to Lizzytish!

Happy Day 200 to Peaceable J!

Happy Day 200 to Mindful Monica!

Happy Day 200 to SarahJune31!

Happy Day 300 to Girl Named Sam!

Happy Day 300 to Meadowmuffins!

Happy Day 300 to Jeans!

Happy Day 300 to Carly!

Happy Day 300 to AmandaJ!

Happy Day 300 to Jena14!

Happy Day 300 to Lori!

Happy Day 365 to TT!

Happy Day 365 to Tierrazul!

Happy Day 365 to Nomorebsing!

Happy Day 365 to Sabrina!

Happy Day 400 to Leftcoastgirl!

Happy Day 400 to Rivets!

Happy Day 400 to BethBeth!

Happy Day 500 to CaseyM!

Happy Day 500 to Surfrider11!

Happy Day 500 to Runnergirl!

Happy Day 600 to ChellyBelly!

Happy Day 600 to KAB!

Happy Day 600 to StonewallPDS!

Happy Day 600 to Hughie!

Happy Day 600 to JP!

Happy Day 700 to Linley!

Happy Day 700 to Nicholascharles!

Happy Day 700 to Cal!

Happy Day 800 to Graceful!

Happy Day 800 to Grateful Girl!

Happy Day 900 to Kitkatpaddywack!

Happy Day 900 to 1035!

Happy Day 900 to Jayda!

Happy Day 900 to Frankie!

Happy Day 900 to LJ63!

Happy Day 900 to Sean!

Happy Day 1000 to Rexytime!

Happy Day 1000 to Cocomac!

Happy Day 1000 to NewChris!

Happy Day 1000 to Jas!

Happy Day 1000 to Ish!

Happy Day 1000 to Meagan!

Happy Day 1000 to Lara!

Happy Day 1200 to Janett!

Happy Day 1200 to Tlecompte!

Happy Day 1200 to Hcasstevens!

Happy Day 1200 to Otherjosh!

Happy Day 1200 to Runnermom!

Happy Day 1200 to JLynn!

Happy Day 1226 to Julie Joy’s Dad!

Happy Day 1300 to Margy!

Happy Day 1300 to Wanting to be a Sober Mom!

Happy Day 1300 to Tammi!

Happy Day 1300 to Shell Bell!

Happy Day 1300 to Tuomas!

Happy Day 1300 to Nuchter Maya!

Happy Day 1300 to Janet!

Happy Day 1300 to Beach_Gurl!

Happy Day 1400 to DianeLouise!

Happy Day 1500 to KristinRecovering!

Happy Day 1500 to Original Beth!

Happy Day 1500 to Leah!

Happy 5 years to me 🙂

Monday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Nixie!

Happy Day 50 to Birdsetfree!

Happy Day 50 to Mia!

Happy Day 50 to Hallacious!

Happy Day 50 to Sobriety Shingles!

Happy Day 50 to Nicola!

Happy Day 50 to MsMay!

Happy Day 50 to KittyKate!

Happy Day 50 to Oriole!

Happy Day 100 to Wafflehousemomma!

Happy Day 100 to AverageJoe!

Happy Day 100 to Bug June!

Happy Day 180 to Undrunken Dan!

Happy Day 180 to SoberinVa!

Happy Day 180 to Jaylee!

Happy Day 180 to MrsRoberts!

Happy Day 180 to Mindful Monica!

Happy Day 200 to Lime Tree!

Happy Day 200 to MelMel!

Happy Day 200 to Wynn!

Happy Day 200 to Sophiestar!

Happy Day 200 to Mamahope!

Happy Day 200 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 300 to Genie!

Happy Day 300 to Lola4126!

Happy Day 365 to Rasberrikiss! 

Happy Day 400 to Dry Ginger!

Happy Day 500 to Auds!

Happy Day 800 Jenuhful!

Happy Day 847 to Faye858!

Happy Day 900 to FunCar13!

Happy Day 900 to Indian Lake!

Happy Day 900 to Mahatma JoJo!

Happy Day 955 to Joannie!

Happy Day 1000 to Canadian Girl!

Happy Day 1000 to Festie!

Happy Day 1100 to Sharlotte!

Happy Day 1100 to SanFranSober!

Happy Day 1100 to Mizgabz!

Happy Day 1200 to Jessi!

Happy Day 1300 to Denise!

Happy Day 1300 to Hazeleyes!

Happy Day 1400 to Jenisthesoberist!

Monday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Frog!

Happy Day 50 to Golden Pond!

Happy Day 50 to Mack!

Happy Day 50 to SusanMarie!

Happy Day 50 to GaGalGoingDry!

Happy Day 100 to Cowboy!

Happy Day 100 to Goldie!

Happy Day 100 to TimShel!

Happy Day 100 to Julianne!

Happy Day 100 to Springer!

Happy Day 180 to Peaceable J!

Happy Day 180 to LizzyTish!

Happy Day 180 to SarahJune31!

Happy Day 200 to Gem64!

Happy Day 200 to Bruna!

Happy Day 200 to Princess Buttercup!

Happy Day 300 to TJS!

Happy Day 300 to Poppy!

Happy Day 300 to Topo Chico!

Happy Day 300 to Ruby!

Happy Day 365 to HollyKate!

Happy Day 400 to Miss Kell!

Happy Day 400 to Jessee!

Happy Day 400 to Reenie!

Happy Day 400 to Imara!

Happy Day 500 to KLC!

Happy Day 500 to Country Pat!

Happy Day 600 to JP!

Happy Day 600 to Thirsty Iris!

Happy Day 700 to Cal!

Happy Day 800 to cheaton!

Happy Day 800 to Monty!

Happy Day 800 to TK!

Happy Day 900 to MelP!

Happy Day 900 to The Solstice Guy!

Happy Day 1000 to Graceb!

Happy Day 1100 to Sarah72!

Happy Day 1200 to Julie-Joy’s Dad!

Happy Day 1200 to Isabel!

Happy Day 1300 to TheFun4!

Happy Day 1300 to Terence!

Happy Day 1300 to Clear Eyed Girl!

Happy Day 1300 to Tim!

Happy Day 1807 to me! (that’s 1,355 bottles of wine not consumed… oh my god)

OMM photo essay with sound – grocery store

OMM photo essay with sound

auchan grocery store, tuesday june 6th at about 4:00 pm.

if you’d like a sober pause, something to help change the channel, i invite you to listen/watch. you can come with me for a few minutes. it’s like meditation, but with pictures.

 

listen here:

 


 

photos here:


“regular grocery store, not the market …”

 

 


“and we come around [the corner] and we see some vegetables”

 

 


“all we get in the grocery store is 3 or 4 varieties of potatoes”

 

 


“i don’t make a fancy white sauce, i just use creme fraiche…”

 

 


“lots and lots of prepared food”

 

 


“mango chutney? no luck, but there is sauce a la mangue…” [haha ethnic delights, i just noticed that]

 

 


“eggs are stored at room temperature because they are not ________”

 

 

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if you’re signed up for the free daily one minute messages (OMMs), then you’ll get a copy of this audio automatically. it’ll be omm229.

sober treats thanks to the Tiny Gift Button.

 

 

OMM photo essay with sound – marché d’aligre

OMM photo essay with sound

marché d’aligre, paris, sunday june 4th at about 10:30 am.

if you’d like a sober pause, something to help change the channel, i invite you to listen/watch. you can come with me for a few minutes. it’s like meditation, but with pictures.

 

listen here:

 


 

photos here:

 


“what i cannot adequately convey to you is the smell of roast chicken …”

 

 


“what are the name of these flowers, are they peonies (pivoine)?”

 

 


“and i’m thinking: toasted tomato sandwich for lunch” (1,70 for 3 tomatoes)

 

 


“this guy’s ordering half a watermelon”

 

 


“there’s a lot of romanticism about this kind of market, that it’s all fresh from somebody’s farm”

 

 


i see a sober pineapple in here (on the right). but they were too big (strangely shaped), and were 4€ each which is more than usual.

bonne dimanche (happy sunday)

 

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if you’re signed up for the free daily one minute messages (OMMs), then you’ll get a copy of this audio automatically. it’ll be omm228.

sober treats thanks to the Tiny Gift Button.

 

 

OMM photo essay with sound – gare de lyon

photo essay with sound

gare de lyon, train station in paris, friday june 2nd at about 7 pm.

 

 

listen here:

 


 

photos here:

busy for a friday night

 

 

“people trying to hand out gifts and flyers”

 

 

“there’s a seating area where there are lamps, which creates a nice cafe-atmosphere”

 

 

“there’s a guy drinking out of a can of beer, just standing there, sort of looks like it’s normal [for him]”

 

 

“and i’m outside, and it’s stopped raining, and there’s a little bit of blue sky …”

 

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if you’re signed up for the free daily one minute messages (OMMs), then you’ll get a copy of this audio automatically. it’ll be omm227.

 

 

Thursday Celebration Roundup

Happy Day 50 to Arya!

Happy Day 50 to Renne in Rochester!

Happy Day 50 to Rehc!

Happy Day 50 to Mickie!

Happy Day 50 to SDBKatz!

Happy Day 50 to Skeeziks!

Happy Day 50 to ceemac!

Happy Day 50 to -L.!

Happy Day 50 to Little Red!

Happy Day 50 to Tea!

Happy Day 50 to Pahobe!

Happy Day 50 to Sandal!

Happy Day 50 to Octa!

Happy Day 50 to Sobergirl72!

Happy Day 50 to Bonkers!

Happy Day 50 to KareBear!

Happy Day 100 to Newg!

Happy Day 100 to DMcBee!

Happy Day 100 to airbear!

Happy Day 100 to winefreeme!

Happy Day 100 to Brisgal!

Happy Day 100 to BG!

Happy Day 100 to Leigh Ann!

Happy Day 100 to lovinrunnin!

Happy Day 100 to Alicat!

Happy Day 100 to Superkitty!

Happy Day 100 to 35&changing!

Happy Day 100 to hernoodlyness!

Happy Day 100 to jacci2!

Happy Day 100 to honeybadger!

Happy Day 100 to sobersparkles!

Happy Day 100 to MrsWooly!

Happy Day 100 to Captain E!

Happy Day 100 to Airbear!

Happy Day 100 to Donohuli!

Happy Day 180 to MelMel!

Happy Day 180 to Wynn!

Happy Day 180 to mamahope!

Happy Day 180 to Sophiestar!

Happy Day 180 to Lime Tree!

Happy Day 180 to Jazzie!

Happy Day 180 to Gem64!

Happy Day 180 to Bruna!

Happy Day 180 to Princess Buttercup!

Happy Day 200 to SueW!

Hapy Day 200 to Nowinemom!

Happy Day 200 to Roadtosoberville!

Happy Day 200 to KiKi71!

Happy Day 200 to Honey Bear!

Happy Day 200 to Maggie Mae!

Happy Day 200 to Resiliensea!

Happy Day 200 to Stillbridge!

Happy Day 200 to True.d.true!

Happy Day 200 to Elyn Jones!

Happy Day 200 to Becca1978!

Happy Day 200 to LD4ME!

Happy Day 300 to Hollm!

Happy Day 300 to Reg!

Happy Day 300 to Bemmy girl!

Happy Day 300 to Battlematt!

Happy Day 300 to *Maverick!

Happy Day 300 to Molly Jones!

Happy Day 300 to April!

Happy Day 300 to Jaded!

Happy Day 300 to RachelB!

Happy Day 300 to Froggy Google!

Happy Day 300 to Unduped!

Happy Day 300 to Frupa63!

Happy Day 300 to Tsilver!

Happy Day 300 to VMD Free!

Happy Day 300 to Deborahlynn!

Happy Day 300 to Lippy!

Happy Day 300 to Lua!

Happy Day 300 to MG7!

Happy Day 365 to Leftcoastgirl!

Happy Day 365 to Edi!

Happy Day 365 to Rivets!

Happy Day 365 to BethBeth!

Happy Day 365 to Cindyb!

Happy Day 365 to Dry Ginger!

Happy Day 400 to Conn!

Happy Day 400 to Indigo50!

Happy Day 400 to KatieMay!

Happy Day 400 to Clearlee!

Happy Day 500 to Lanza!

Happy Day 500 to Boo!

Happy Day 500 to Chell!

Happy Day 500 to Joziegurrl!

Happy Day 500 to Franny!

Happy Day 500 to Husband #1!

Happy Day 500 to Terri!

Happy Day 500 to SoberinMtl!

Happy Day 500 to ScrubJay!

Happy Day 500 to binkles!

Happy Day 500 to Elis!

Happy Day 500 to Lydster!

Happy Day 500 to TrixeeK!

Happy Day 600 to Gypsygirl!

Happy Day 600 to Tree!

Happy Day 600 to Lucia!

Happy Day 600 to Julejean123!

Happy Day 600 to RossFSU!

Happy Day 700 to Gordon!

Happy Day 700 to Unwinedgal!

Happy Day 700 to Kai!

Happy Day 700 to Meraki!

Happy Day 700 to Heya Monster!

Happy Day 700 to Shorttermnoterm!

Happy Day 700 to Liberte!

Happy Day 700 to AnnieB!

Happy Day 700 to YoungerNow!

Happy Day 700 to AnnaD!

Happy Day 800 to DW!

Happy Day 800 to Julie-Joy’s Sister!

Happy Day 832 to me-fixing-me!

Happy Day 900 to Summer Walking!

Happy Day 900 to Chace!

Happy Day 900 to Southern Magnolia 1013!

Happy Day 1000 to Mak!

Happy Day 1000 to Paris!

Happy Day 1000 to Shout444!

Happy Day 1000 to Midwestveggie!

Happy Day 1000 to Rah!

Happy Day 1000 to RoseMarie!

Happy Day 1000 to Janna!

Happy Day 1000 to Jacqui!

Happy Day 1000 to Petunia!

Happy Day 1000 to Dancing Rabbit!

Happy Day 1000 to Microlady!

Happy Day 1000 to AlexP!

Happy Day 1000 to Chefstarr!

Happy Day 1000 to Monique!

Happy Day 1000 to iphonebonnie!

Happy Day 1000 to Chachi!

Happy Day 1000 to Nomorepinot!

Happy Day 1100 to Jon!

Happy Day 1100 to CassieB!

Happy Day 1100 to Shelby!

Happy Day 1100 to Weenie!

Happy Day 1100 to Via51214!

Happy Day 1100 to 1111!

Happy Day 1100 to Manda!

Happy Day 1100 to Sober Lemon!

Happy Day 1100 to PP!

Happy Day 1100 to Foxie!

Happy Day 1100 to Renee!

Happy Day 1200 Daybird!

Happy Day 1200 Allison!

Happy Day 1200 LolaB!

Happy Day 1200 Connie!

Happy Day 1200 Fich!

Happy Day 1200 Hank!

Happy Day 1200 Aschae!

Happy Day 1200 Emery!

Happy Day 1200 Going2pieces!

Happy Day 1200 Apprentice SoberP!

Happy Day 1200 Blake!

Happy Day 1300 to Baby Girl Butterfly!

Happy Day 1300 to Primrose!

Happy Day 1300 to Sadie!

Happy Day 1300 to SignGurl!

Happy Day 1300 to Jeannie Yogini!

Happy Day 1300 to Jilly Bean!

Happy Day 1300 to Kirst!

Happy Day 1300 to Myleen!

Happy Day 1400 to Sharon!

Happy Day 1400 to LD!

Happy Day 1400 to Laurie!

Happy Day 1400 to Durf11!

Happy Day 1500 to Kate Sober Journalist!

Happy Day 1500 to JM!

Happy Day 1800 to thirteenpointone!

dear alcohol: you lied to me

from my inbox

email from TickleMeShelmo (day 26):

“Dear alcohol,

Firstly, this is the hardest decision I’ve ever made, but make it I must. It’s over. We are finished.

For years I thought we were amazing together. Life with you made the world seem more colourful. You made me feel whole, feel important and feel loved by those we met. You have me the strength to do things I’d never have done without you. 

There was a reason for that.

You lied to me, all of this time. Lie after lie after lie. You told me I was funny, but I wasn’t – I was attention seeking and shaming myself and others. I would share secrets and inappropriate and intimate details because you said it was ok. You told me I could do what I liked – but the casual sex, the flirting, the drug taking – it damaged me more than I’ll ever know. You told me that responsibilities were bullshit – and now I’m trying to sort out years of debt and irresponsible decision making.

The whole time I believed you were showing me real life. Life in glorious colour; busy; hectic; fucked up; hedonistic. But it was a lonely, sad life of hidden pain and selfishness.

The things you told me were just bullshit lies to keep me with you. There’s an odd feeling of achievement in the little things in life; clean washing, an early night, a monogamous relationship, a well cooked meal, holding hands with someone you love. Life without you is calm and peaceful. Don’t mix that up with boring – it isn’t. It’s fun. It’s reliable. It’s better.

So this is goodbye. It’s not me – it’s you.”

[update: she’s on day 618 today]


 

links:

do i have to count days?

Here’s an extract from the  book

do i have to count days

from Clementine: “Why do you think it’s important to have continuous sober time? Why is it more valuable to have 60 days in a row, than to have 29 days, a week off drinking, and then 29 more days (like me)?”

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me:
I think day counting is important because each day represents a day when you said NO. You are building a wall between the ‘you’ back there, and the ‘new you’ over here, and so every sober day is a new brick in that wall. 

There are many forums and online communities that have pledges like “let’s plan to do 15 out of 30 days sober this month,” but they are not continuous days.

This doesn’t help us; we don’t get anywhere. On the days we’re not drinking, we are waiting to drink again. It’s like holding your breath and going underwater for a day. 

To me, the reason for a longer goal (100 days) is that you have to actually go forward and learn something. Once you remove the booze, you practise new things like self-soothing, treats, and learning to change the channel in your head. 

If you don’t pay attention to your sober momentum, then any day can be a drinking day or a sober day. By counting, you’re saying to Wolfie: “I’m not doing this. I’m getting the hell out of here. As far as I can, far away from you. One sober day at a time.”