anonymous confession booth: sex

step right up. for one day only, i’m creating an anonymous sober confession booth about SEX. Yes, i’ve got something running through my head and i thought, OK, let’s blog about it. and really, it’s amazingly hard to talk about sex even when we’re quasi-anonymous online. And so then i thought, OK, let’s make it 100% anonymous, me included.

So here’s the deal.

  1. Post a comment below.
  2. For this to work you MUST leave your name and your email and your website address BLANK in the comments form (if you forget, i’ll go in and delete that info manually). all comments are to be anonymous. one of the comments will be from me, you just won’t know which one.
  3. I have no way of personally knowing who posts what.
  4. In your comment, write two or three sentences (max.) about something about sex that you think is ONLY your problem and that probably no one else has the same problem as you do. For example, i’ll make one up: “I can’t initiate sex when sober but i used to be able to when drinking” … OR … “i worry that i’m the only person who has x problem now that i’m sober.”
  5. Then post ONE anonymous ‘reply’ to one of the other comments already posted, and say something comforting, consoling, forgiving, kind. In fact, it would simply help if you said “i have this problem, too.”

i have a feeling that this will unfold in a lovely way. because you’re all lovely people. and we all have sex shit that we can’t talk about.

PS. if your name/email automatically shows up when you start to enter a comment, you can manually delete them OR you can ‘log out’ of your blogging profile.

 

Audio: Research and statistics

​This is an audio clip from Sober Podcast #247 sent to sober podcast members.

​Now that we know that the alcohol industry has been funding some of the booze-related research, it just makes me wonder about studies and research in general.

and how most of us (me included) aren't able to determine whether a news article that claims to be based on a study, is actually ​fact, if it's been skewed, who paid for it, and what is the underlying agenda of the news media writer, or the original researcher.

in this audio, i start off ranting about booze research, and then I think that before i get myself into too much trouble, i will share some of my own biases, thought process, and numbers. how many people had i been penpals with before it was a paid thing? how many people did i interact with, see patterns, offer cheerleading to, before i started talking about what i saw? listen to this and find out.

see if there's something in here that rings true to you. other than the visual of me standing on my balcony with cold feet, wearing my pyjama bottoms and sweater, holding a clip-on microphone to my mouth. I also tell you about the little girl with the yellow raincoat that I see from the window.

​I have posted below the ENTIRE 22 minute audio for this podcast, and I will leave this link available for ​24 hrs only. ​Have a listen now. all i ask in return is that you post an anonymous message in the comments. If you’d like to be able to hear this again, ​you can use the link to sign up at the bottom of the post.

​Comments from subscribers:

Inspired (day 606): "​I feel the same way about research, critical thinking, agenda behind it and bias. Years ago, wolfie loved hearing research that wine was heart healthy and resveratrol in red wine was good for me. BRING IT ON, he said, we will just moderate drink. This topic reminds me of an interview with Katie Couric, a news anchor, I read a few days ago in the airplane magazine on a flight. She speaks about the difference in reporting on information versus affirmation. Are we only looking to affirm our beliefs in order to empower or strengthen them, or can we allow information in when we may not agree with it completely? Critical thinking and continuing to ask the questions around agendas and bias is important ..."

Jacci2 (day 82; medical professional): "​... as a general rule, I ALWAYS take research cited by any journalist with a huge lump of salt. If I really want to know something, I'll go look up the research article myself and read it to discern whether or not it was a good study, whether or not it is generalizable to the public (they often are not, the journalist just extrapolates the data to apply to everyone even though the study group is limited and very specific), and who funded it. This drives me crazy. Journalists are not scientists and they make their own assumptions from the research and feed it to a gullible public. RANT ALERT! I had to do this recently for my boyfriend. His mom was all concerned about some article in a magazine about one of the meds he was taking for heartburn, saying it was going to give him kidney failure. I pulled up the original article, and it turns out the findings were only relevant if you are over the age of 65, are obese, have diabetes, and are already showing signs of kidney failure ​..."

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Interview with Kristi Coulter (2016)

There was a time when Kristi Coulter and I were sober penpals, and we both said "oh you used to be a writer? me too. before drinking. did you also study writing at school and then not really use it? me too."

I'm sure you've done something like this. You were a person before, and then booze soaked into the fabric of your life and you lost some of the old person, some of the fresh-ideas person, some of the adventurous person.

Then you remove the booze, and the real you starts to shine again. (Really, it is exactly like drowning the little orchid with bottles of wine—it doesn't bloom—and then you stop pouring alcohol on it and it brightens up again.)

OK, so time has passed and now KC is here (book writing and widely-shared-viral-article writing) and i'm here (one book done, sober fiction book underway). 

KC is sober penpal #128 and she's on day 1786 today (Saturday). 

And way back, before she was well and truly famous, I interviewed her on my podcast. I've pulled that audio out of the archives and am sharing it as my weekend audio.

Here is a three-minute sample starting at about the 11 minute mark. This was recorded in July 2016 and it's so cool that we mention the Medium article that would then go on to become the viral piece...


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inside your head [one minute message #300]

inside your head

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when people give you advice, it’s often not helpful. mostly, that’s because the person offering the opinion doesn’t know the WHOLE story. if you walk around asking everyone what to do, if you solicit the opinions from 60 people on whether you should quit drinking, you’ll hear a variety of things. none of them have to do with the truth, which is that you know it’s the right thing to do. you don’t need anyone to agree. 

happy sober friday. if you’ve been trying to get people to agree with you, that you need to quit drinking, you can stop that poll-taking now. I agree with you 🙂 I have a list of ideas that I can send you, with 20 things you can do, read, and listen to, to get your sobriety going (and to keep it going). send me an email and ask for the 20 things list. i sent some out yesterday, but if you didn’t get one yet, you can ask now… le hugs from me. xo

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    try new things

    I don't know how to say this so that you can hear me.

    It's not just about starting again on day 1.

    It's not just about saying "today is my new day 1."

    It's about changing something.

    Because if what you've been doing up to now isn't working, then you need to do something different.

    It's not just 'try harder'. It's 'try different'.

    If we are penpals, and you email me and say "today's my new day 1," I'm going to thunk you and say...

    What are you changing?

    Because you don't want to hang around day 1 anymore. And you want things to be different. And you're emailing a sober coach, so you want her opinion, because if you didn't, you'd just not tell me! 

    So when you tell me "I'm on day 1," it would be incredibly bad form—and not fair—if I support you having a new day 1  without changing anything. That wouldn't be fair to you. It'd probably be irresponsible on my part, too. 

    ​Because this booze thing can get worse and worse.

    We don't want that to be you and we don't want that to happen to you. 

    It's not just having a new day 1 ... having a new day 1 is fabulous, don't get me wrong.

    You need a new day 1 AND you need to add some new things because what you've been doing up to now hasn't been enough. 

    And you want to move away from here, so you're going to do some new things now. 

    ~

    If you would like some ideas on what you can add, so that you stop repeating the day 1 cycle, send me an email ​and i'll send you some links to things. hugs from me



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    Wednesday Celebration Roundup

    If we are sober penpals, then we email all the time and I keep track of your dates. Then i can celebrate you online (here) when you hit the big milestones. like these ones:

    Happy Day 50 to SoberSeasideSally!

    Happy Day 50 to Flamingo Legs!

    Happy Day 50 to Sunshine!

    Happy Day 50 to Twisty!

    Happy Day 50 to Cellocat!

    Happy Day 100 to MaryElizabeth!

    Happy Day 180 to MindfulMe!

    Happy Day 180 to Ishmael!

    Happy Day 200 to Sauvignon Sober!

    Happy Day 200 to Shel!

    Happy Day 200 to mamabird!

    Happy Day 200 to Elated, Confident & Proud!

    Happy Day 300 to LD4ME!

    Happy Day 300 to Mlodius!

    Happy Day 300 to Frog!

    Happy Day 300 to Bug June!

    Happy Day 300 to MiMoMa!

    Happy Day 365 to BalanceBeam!

    Happy Day 365 to Mia!

    Happy Day 400 to Auntimame!

    Happy Day 400 to Renne in Rochester!

    Happy Day 500 to Loz!

    Happy Day 500 to Buttercup244!

    Happy Day 500 to Undrunken Dan!

    Happy Day 500 to SoberinVa!

    Happy Day 500 to Jaylee!

    Happy Day 500 to MrsRoberts!

    Happy Day 500 to Lizzytish!

    Happy Day 600 to FlightPlan!

    Happy Day 600 to Inspired!

    Happy Day 600 to Calypso!

    Happy Day 600 to Allie!

    Happy Day 600 to Bunnie!

    Happy Day 600 to Liz!

    Happy Day 600 to Girl Named Sam!

    Happy Day 600 to Meadowmuffins!

    Happy Day 600 to Jeans!

    Happy Day 700 to JT Weir!

    Happy Day 700 to Edi!

    Happy Day 700 to Leftcoastgirl!

    Happy Day 800 to CaseyM!

    Happy Day 800 to Surfrider11!

    Happy Day 800 to Runnergirl!

    Happy Day 900 to Trueleah!

    Happy Day 900 to Phoenix!

    Happy Day 1000 to Linley!

    Happy Day 1100 to Inky!

    Happy Day 1200 to Coffeecuphead!

    Happy Day 1200 to Kitkatpaddywack!

    Happy Day 1200 to 1035!

    Happy Day 1200 to Frankie!

    Happy Day 1300 to Elly!

    Happy Day 1300 to 19Cathleen!

    Happy Day 1300 to Rexytime!

    Happy Day 1300 to Cocomac!

    Happy Day 1400 to Paulita!

    Happy Day 1400 to Artsmommy!

    Happy Day 1400 to Ish!

    Happy Day 1500 to IrishGirl!

    Happy Day 1500 to Janett!

    Happy Day 1600 to OneDayAtATime!

    Happy Day 1600 to KateF!

    “I choose not to do that”

    I will say that probably the Number 1 determining feature of the probability of success in being sober, is an openness to try things that go against what your brain is suggesting is a good idea. 

    Because you’ve got a brain that thinks that drinking is a good idea, so frankly anything I suggest—like if I say to you, when we’re sober penpals: “I think you should email 3-4 times a day.”

    I don't need to do that

    Wolfie comes right in there with, “I don’t need to do that. I’m too busy to do that. I’m too busy to send a one-word email that says ‘sober’.” (Nice.)

    You: I’m going to be offline so I can’t email for 6 weeks, 3 weeks, 4 days.

    I have an answer for that.

    Still send a message every 4 hours, and they sit in your outbox and then as soon as you have a wifi connection, I’ll get them all at once.

    Number of times someone has actually done that, and I’ve gotten a whole bunch of check-ins all at once? Zero.

    It’s an option. But we don’t want to do it.

    Why don’t we want to do it? ...

    ... because we want to keep drinking.

    Well, we don’t WANT to keep drinking, but we have a voice that thinks that drinking is a good idea, so it’s going to fight against things that could actually help. Which is this whole thing about compliance.

    Example:

    You: I broke my ankle, and I want to walk without crutches.

    Well, that’s sort of impacts its ability to heal. Might make it that you need surgery down the road. Instead you might need to take time off right now …

    You: I don’t want that.

    No shit, nobody wants it [laughs]. Who wants to email me 4 times a day?

    but don’t tell me you can’t. 

    Don’t tell me you can’t. Because it’s one word. And you set a timer on your phone that goes off at 9 am, 1 pm, 5 pm, 9 pm—and you send a one-word email every time the alarm goes off.

    Don’t say that you can’t.

    say that you won’t.

    But don’t say that you can’t. Not fair.

    And don’t say that you can’t get a sober treat every two days when you’re sober. You’re going to say something wolfie-like, such as I don’t really deserve it; I shouldn’t get a treat for something that everybody else can do without treats; or I don’t have money …

    Don’t tell me that you don’t want to get treats. Tell me that wolfie is telling you not to get treats. Because you might as well call it what it is.

    Wolfie will say: No treats, not worthy.

    Wolfie will say: Too hard, no one will understand.

    I’m saying—I’m yelling—Please, please, please …

    You: Yea, I don’t want to do that. I choose not to do that.


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    I want to be sober. Should I try vitamins? A French class?

    (Update of a post originally published february 2017)

    OK, if you don't have a lot of time, I'll cut to the chase: Stop fucking around by building your house out of straw.

    ~

    M (day 1) sent me this email: Belle, I keep trying all these things to help me be sober and nothing works. I just spent $100 on vitamins. I’ve been to a one-day, quit-drinking workshop. I signed up for a French class. You see, I’ve always wanted to go to Paris and with all the money I’m not spending on booze, I could buy a plane ticket.

    ~

    You can hear her thinking, and you can absolutely see what she’s saying.

    It seems logical, doesn’t it.

    My reply to her would be: “If you are continuously sober, then yes, whatever you’re doing is working. Keep doing it.”

    But if you are NOT continuously sober —if you reset after 2 days, or 20 days, or 200 days — then what you’re doing isn’t quite enough to keep you sober. So you add more sober tools.

    Argh, I’m on Day 1 again. I’m enrolled in French class. Why isn’t that enough?

    French class is something you can hang in the space that booze used to occupy.

    But taking a French class is not a sober tool.

    Sober tools are things that help you to BE sober.

    Imagine this.

    You are a little piggie, of the Three Little piggies, and you build your sober house, and wolfie repeatedly comes and blows your sober house down.

    We'll note that you've built your sober house out of straw or sticks or tarps, but wolfie blows it over. Maybe not right away, maybe not tomorrow, but as soon as there’s a strong wind, or a celebration, or a death, or a runaway teenager, or Sheila in accounting pulls her shit and refuses to do the cheque run before end of day on Friday.

    It doesn’t take much, when your house is built of straw. Wolfie is at the door, blowing.

    Your sober house falls down.

    But let’s be real, wolfie only has to barely knock on the door of your house made of straw to knock it over. To the house of wood, he’ll knock once or twice, and when that doesn’t work, he’ll add in lung full of hot air and a bit of whining. Doesn’t take long.

    (And really, you built a sober house out of straw? You were wishing. You’re were hoping you could do the minimum. You knew it wasn’t going to be enough.)

    To the house built out of sober stones, set careful on a sober cement foundation — yeah, that house — well, wolfie will knock on your door and when that doesn’t work, he’ll try to blow you over with convincing arguments as to why you need to Drink Right Now.

    You will add in a bit more cement and wave to him through the window. He’ll look for cracks, but you’ve got double-paned glass and a bug screen.

    This isn't a stone house. This is your life.

    Your life is worth more than the minimum. It’s worth more than straw and tarps.

    The soul of you, the essence of you, the real you that isn’t anesthetized, the real you that is empathetic and helpful and has good boundaries —THAT you deserves to be guarded in a solid stone structure.

    What helps to build a wolfie-proof, stone sober house?

    Advice from an architect. Talking to the girl at Home Depot about the length of the nails and what has worked on similar projects.

    Pouring a cement foundation.

    Going as slowly as required to NOT have to pour the foundation, dig it up, pour it again, and dig it up again. What a waste of time that is. You need a sober foundation, sure, but if you do it too quickly, or too rashly, or try to do it with inadequate cement, or do it while doing too many other things at the same time — well, you know what happens.

    You can see this example clearly when I'm talking about cement.

    The colour of the paint, and the carefully selected flowers, and the breeding fruit trees do not build a strong house. The French classes and spin classes and yoga classes and pottery classes and vitamins don’t help you change your behaviour. They’re wonderful (and necessary and lovely) things to add to your life. They are.

    But they are not sober tools.

    A sober tool is something that helps you to be sober. Not paint colour.

    I know you want to paint the room, but you haven’t built the room yet. You want to choose the light fixture, but the wiring hasn't been installed.

    You want to focus on the details all around THE THING.

    The THING you want is to be sober.

    And you’re online spending hours choosing the right French class? You just spent $100 on multivitamins because that should help you be sober?

    What if you’d spent that time and that $100 on actual sober supports.

    [You don’t though, because wolfie is a sly fucker, taunting perfectly nice people with bullshit logic like vitamins and French classes.]

    OK. Sober tools. They are things that help you be sober. That would include anything that directly makes it more likely that you (a) remember that being sober is a good idea, (b) soothes irritation, (c) helps you be accountable, (d) checks in on you, (e) reminds you what you’re doing when you forget, (f) reinforces the idea of the sober foundation and why you need it because you forgot again, (g) makes it possible for you to not drink.

    A French class isn’t a sober tool.

    It's not just a book. A book about being sober is awesome. But you can stop re-reading the book, waiting for something to click. It doesn't work like that.

    (Do you think you can read books about pouring cement foundations, and have the book be enough? Is a one-day workshop on cement-pouring enough? How about a forum of other people on day 1 of cement installation?]

    You are probably walking around THIS THING, acting like you don’t know what to do.

    You know what to do.

    You know that if you ask for support from people who can actually support you, then you have a higher chance of actually getting this done.

    You know that if you turn and face the resources and education and accountability that sober support provides, that you’ll learn from people who’ve done it 2,778 times, that you’ll save time, feel better, and have your cement poured sooner.

    If you have built a house out of straw AND IT’S WORKING FOR YOU then keep doing what you’re doing.

    But if the wind keeps blowing you over, you’ve got to look at having some new tools. Things to read AND accountabilty AND support AND cheerleading AND treats AND audios AND going to bed as early as possible...

    Paint isn’t a tool.

    Neither is a French class.

     

    100 Day Sober Challenge

    Are you interested in doing the 100-day sober challenge?

    ​Here’s the pledge:

        “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”


    OK, now what?

    When I was trying to quit, I had many day 1s. It wasn’t until I got more support that I started to do better. 

    It's not like we can do this alone in our head.

    The drinking voice is just too convincing and it ‘sounds’ like it’s making sense (when really, that voice is bullshit, but it takes some outside cheerleading to figure that out).

    And the cool thing about the internet is it’s more anonymous, which can really help, at least to begin.

    There are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge

    ​1. ​With Support

    ​​If you'd like a live-human, sober penpal ​and get personalized, direct responses to emails, then you can sign up for the Sober Jumpstart. ​All ​​levels come ​with a ​sober penpal (me!).

    You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. I answer every email I receive. And yes, we remain sober penpals for a whole year. ​I'll keep track of your dates, and remind you when it's time to get treats.

    If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed. The sober penpal is part of the Jumpstart here.


    2. Self-Administered

    To do the sober challenge on your own, you can write out the pledge above and make a note of the date of your last drink.

    Find ways to add in more tools and supports. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it. Read sober blogs (mine and others) every day 🙂 And be sure to sign up to get daily sober motivation emails below.

    Tuesday Celebration Roundup

    If we are sober penpals, then we email all the time and I keep track of your dates. Then i can celebrate you online (here) when you hit the big milestones. like these ones:

    Happy Day 50 to SunshineStace!

    Happy Day 50 to StayingAlive!

    Happy Day 50 to Hat trick!

    Happy Day 50 to Keyles!

    Happy Day 50 to C-J!

    Happy Day 50 to Gippy!

    Happy Day 50 to Jacci2!

    Happy Day 50 to Sober in St. Pete!

    Happy Day 50 to Kathyb!

    Happy Day 50 to Sparky!

    Happy Day 100 to SandraS!

    Happy Day 100 to Lovinrunnin!

    Happy Day 100 to Dani!

    Happy Day 100 to i.t.!

    Happy Day 100 to Da!

    Happy Day 100 to SerenityNow!

    Happy Day 100 to Ana Maria!

    Happy Day 100 to Sargent!

    Happy Day 100 to Junie B!

    Happy Day 100 to Prissy!

    Happy Day 100 to Terry Kate!

    Happy Day 100 to Lhaschnoodle!

    Happy Day 100 to Pat!

    Happy Day 100 to KB!

    Happy Day 100 to Wildflower!

    Happy Day 100 to Emsyface!

    Happy Day 100 to Jenwithoutwine!

    Happy Day 100 to hernoodlyness!

    Happy Day 100 to Trishy!

    Happy Day 100 to Freedom!

    Happy Day 100 to LittleRed!

    Happy Day 180 to Ishael!

    Happy Day 180 to Lex!

    Happy Day 180 to Kay!

    Happy Day 180 to ShelD!

    Happy Day 180 to Mamabird!

    Happy Day 180 to ECP!

    Happy Day 200 to Sobersusie!

    Happy Day 200 to Katrinka!

    Happy Day 200 to Hidcote!

    Happy Day 200 to Liquidtracy!

    Happy Day 200 to Trigirl!

    Happy Day 200 to Rehc!

    Happy Day 200 to Sadie2015!

    Happy Day 200 to vstuart!

    Happy Day 200 to RainyPNW!

    Happy Day 300 to Lars!

    Happy Day 300 to Flyaway!

    Happy Day 300 to Dry Ace!

    Happy Day 365 to Sobriety Unlocked!

    Happy Day 365 to Auntiemame!

    Happy Day 365 to Renne in Rochester!

    Happy Day 400 to Karebear!

    Happy Day 400 to RRH!

    Happy Day 400 to Goldie!

    Happy Day 400 to Newg!

    Happy Day 400 to Leigh Ann!

    Happy Day 500 to Peaceable J!

    Happy Day 500 to Mindful Monica!

    Happy Day 500 to SarahJune31!

    Happy Day 500 to Lime Tree!

    Happy Day 500 to Wynn!

    Happy Day 500 to Sophiestar!

    Happy Day 500 to Jazzie!

    Happy Day 500 to Missmeliss!

    Happy Day 500 to Gem64!

    Happy Day 500 to Bruna!

    Happy Day 500 to Princess Buttercup!

    Happy Day 500 to Nowinemom!

    Happy Day 500 to SueW!

    Happy Day 500 to RoadtoSoberVille!

    Happy Day 500 to Lacie!

    Happy Day 600 to Sallyd!

    Happy Day 600 to AmandaJ!

    Happy Day 600 to Jena14!

    Happy Day 600 to Gene!

    Happy Day 600 to Lola4126!

    Happy Day 600 to TJS!

    Happy Day 600 to RubyHarper!

    Happy Day 600 to Poppy!

    Happy Day 600 to Topo Chico!

    Happy Day 600 to Ruby!

    Happy Day 600 to Holly!

    Happy Day 600 to Reg!

    Happy Day 600 to Bemmy girl!

    Happy Day 600 to BattleMatt!

    Happy Day 600 to *Maverick!

    Happy Day 700 to Dry ginger!

    Happy Day 700 to Miss Kell!

    Happy Day 700 to Reenie!

    Happy Day 700 to Imara!

    Happy Day 800 to Auds!

    Happy Day 800 to KaffyB!

    Happy Day 800 to Debbie!

    Happy Day 800 to KLC!

    Happy Day 800 to Country Pat!

    Happy Day 800 to Lanza!

    Happy Day 900 to ChellyBelly!

    Happy Day 900 to KAB!

    Happy Day 900 to Hughie!

    Happy Day 900 to JP!

    Happy Day 900 to Thirsty Iris!

    Happy Day 1000 to Linley!

    Happy Day 1000 to Cal!

    Happy Day 1000 to Gordon!

    Happy Day 1100 to Graceful!

    Happy Day 1100 to Grateful Girl!

    Happy Day 1100 to Jenuhful!

    Happy Day 1100 to Cheaton!

    Happy Day 1100 to Tk!

    Happy Day 1200 to LJ63!

    Happy Day 1200 to Sean!

    Happy Day 1200 to Indian Lake!

    Happy Day 1200 to MelP!

    Happy Day 1200 to Sober in Richmond!

    Happy Day 1200 to Summer Walking!

    Happy Day 1200 to Turcotte!

    Happy Day 1300 to Cocomac!

    Happy Day 1300 to NewChris!

    Happy Day 1300 to Jas!

    Happy Day 1300 to Canadian Girl!

    Happy Day 1300 to GG!

    Happy Day 1300 to Festie!

    Happy Day 1300 to Graceb!

    Happy Day 1300 to Paris!

    Happy Day 1300 to Shout444!

    Happy Day 1300 to Midwestveggie!

    Happy Day 1300 to Rah!

    Happy Day 1300 to RoseMarie!

    Happy Day 1400 to Bekki!

    Happy Day 1400 to Meagan!

    Happy Day 1400 to Lara!

    Happy Day 1400 to Sharlotte!

    Happy Day 1400 to Mizgabz!

    Happy Day 1400 to sanfransober!

    Happy Day 1400 to Sarah72!

    Happy Day 1400 to CassieB!

    Happy Day 1400 to Roisin!

    Happy Day 1500 to tlecompte!

    Happy Day 1500 to hcasstevens!

    Happy Day 1500 to otehrjosh!

    Happy Day 1500 to RunnerMom!

    Happy Day 1500 to JLynn!

    Happy Day 1500 to Julie-Joy’s Dad!

    Happy Day 1500 to Jessi!

    Happy Day 1500 to Heike!

    Happy Day 1500 to Isabel!

    Happy Day 1500 to Daybird!

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