100 Day Sober Challenge

Are you interested in doing the 100-day sober challenge?

​Here’s the pledge:

    “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”


OK, now what?

When I was trying to quit, I had many day 1s. It wasn’t until I got more support that I started to do better. 

It's not like we can do this alone in our head.

The drinking voice is just too convincing and it ‘sounds’ like it’s making sense (when really, that voice is bullshit, but it takes some outside cheerleading to figure that out).

And the cool thing about the internet is it’s more anonymous, which can really help, at least to begin.

There are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge

​1. ​With Support

​​If you'd like a live-human, sober penpal ​and get personalized, direct responses to emails, then you can sign up for the Sober Jumpstart. Both ​​​levels come ​with a ​sober penpal (me!).

You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. I answer every email I receive. And yes, we remain sober penpals for a whole year. ​I'll keep track of your dates, and remind you when it's time to get treats.

If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed. The sober penpal is part of the Jumpstart here.


2. Self-Administered

To do the sober challenge on your own, you can write out the pledge above and make a note of the date of your last drink.

Find ways to add in more tools and supports. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it. Read sober blogs (mine and others) every day 🙂 And be sure to sign up to get daily sober motivation emails below.

Belle

I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • Hi everyone I’m on day 7 😀. I just wanted to say thanks to Belle for giving me so many tips and tools to use. I have a daily affirmation as well as many other tools but I especially love the FU Wolfie.
    My partner gave me some great advice too on the weekend and it was…
    .” You might drink that bottle of wine tonight because of some problem you’re having in life but the problem will still be there tomorrow when you wake up, but it will be worse because you’ll have remorse and feel guilty and sluggish from drinking.
    How true (Belle probably mentions this too) but hearing it from my partner who drinks and still does seemed to resonate with me.
    Oh that’s my next challenge…..a partner who is happy to keep drinking 😩

  • 11 Feb 19
    Today I begin my 100 days of sobriety – no matter what happens, where I go, who I’m with – I will Not drink. No more liquid pop spreading all over the floor and me trying to mop it up and contain it to one room. The liquid poop is everywhere; all over my house, my life, my relationships, my situations and surroundings. It’s time to get off the booze elevator and stand on the sober level and really dig deep. Watch the urges and surf them, reminding myself that one drink is never enough and that the voice, the urge will pass. Today I pledge to myself that it is enough. That I’m done… that today I will do 100 days sober. Thanks

  • Me again, a lurker (day 23) never before attempted (sobriety ie) so I am feeling pretty proud of myself. So tonight wolfie was in my ear, I was pouring myself a fuck of Wolfie drink instead of the usual wine. I tried to picture myself pouring a wine but could not imagine myself drinking it. The thought of it was so strange to me. Belle your book has kind of hypnotised me.. it’s so cool hey. Never before have a attempted to stop drinking because I never thought I could until I read the book. (TOTAD) I wasn’t looking for it, it appeared on my fb page, a gift to freedom. I read it in one go and haven’t drank since putting down the book.
    I am in my mid fifties and a wino since my early twenties: I am surprised I am still alive to be honest. My husband a “normie” says I didn’t have a problem so why stop. He must be blind or I must of hid it well , all these years falling asleep on the couch in my numb state, sleepless nights, hiding hangovers, the noise in my head “never again, never again. Only to repeat it night after night” on the elevator going down, the express elevator, no stopping. strategically cycling through wine bottles, leaving about three bottles of wine in the fridge anytime all with some taken out so no one could Track how much I was actually drinking (no one was probably tracking me, It was the guilt and paranoia cause I knew it was excessive drinking). Sneaking to the bottle shop and smuggling in replacement bottles, hoping no one would look in the recycle bin, guilt stricken but that didn’t stop me. It was so tiring thinking about drinking and trying to hide it when I did.
    I am 23 days free of it all…. 77 days of freedom to go… sorry for long message, just putting my story out there. I’ve got this thanks to Belle and her book. The manhole cover that has been hanging over my head is now behind me and all I can see and smell are fresh fields of flowers, no dampness or stench surrounds me anymore. Now I can be the wife I want to be and the mother my kids deserve.
    Ps my two sisters are doing the challenge now as well.

    • Hi Shaw, there are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge. One is self-administered, which means you enter a comment here on this page, with your date of last drink. As you can imagine, there are thousands of people doing the challenge who aren’t penpals with me; I am not able to reliably answer messages or track the sober dates of non-penpals 🙂

      The second way to do the challenge is to have a live-human sober penpal and get personalized, direct responses to emails. I then assign you a member number, and celebrate your dates online. You can learn more on the Sober Jumpstart page here > http://www.soberjumpstart.com There are two levels to the Sober Jumpstart class, and both levels include us being penpals for a year. If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed.

      hugs, belle xo

  • Day 102. I have been a lurker (except for sending a photo of my fluffy slippers around Christmas time). I have read 15 sober books, as my support. Belle, you are the reason I am at day 102. My original goal was to try wine in moderation after day 100. ( I tried moderation a couple of years ago after a 30 day break; torture, couldn’t do it.) I started reading your book on day 95 (devoured it), and my whole plan changed. Now my goal is 180 days. I feel great. I don’t feel like drinking. So I won’t.
    For “awhile”.
    Thank you.

  • I’m now on day 36. The numbers rolling over on my app are appalling, in number of drinks, money saved and calories not consumed. I still haven’t completely conquered the wine o’clock cravings, but I’m not giving in

  • Day 23. I have been a lurker but coming out to thank you Belle. Everything you say makes sense. You should be crowned or something. Honestly you are saving lives and marriages, letting mothers mother and fathers father. Saint Belle…thank you for helping me see the light.

  • Mark..1-27-2019. Third reset. 101 days the first time.. 60 days the second time. I gave WOLFIE a milk bone now go chew on that and leave me alone. Exit the elevator….Open the door… Stay on the sober floor. Love and respect myself.

  • So glad I found this. I can’t believe I have gotten this low with drinking, it’s destroying my life so going to tell my partner how bad it is tonight so I don’t have to lie anymore my last drink was 2/2/2019

  • I’ve gotta do this. I’m so tired of being controlled by alcohol. I hate feeling like I need to leave places early so I can get to the wine store before it’s closed. I’d like to remember things about people. I want friends. I used to think drinking would bring me lasting friendships and joy.. but I see now that I was wrong and I’m so lonely. Today is day 3. My day is January 28, 2019. I can do this!

  • Elaine,
    Today is day 2. I’ve had so many day ones I can’t count. I made it almost a whole year. This morning I listened to a one minute message about logic,how drinking isn’t logical so I need to focus on behavior. Stopping drinking is like trying to level with a four year old using logic; it doesn’t work. So, no logic, just behavior and if I was applying this to a four year old I’d show her a new way to approach a dilemma!!!!! Thank you for this challenge. My date is 1/29/19.

    • Hi there, sorry for any confusion. if you look above there are two options. 1. With Support and 2. Self-Administered. Which means you can do the 100 day challenge on your own, by posting your start date here, or you can have a penpal (me) and support. hugs, belle xo

      • So glad to have found this site after reading Caroline Grey’s book, I’m just embarking on the 100 day challenge from today after many faulty starts, I managed 1 month in November which surprised me, thank you starting this blog

  • Hi I’m on day 21 found your book by accident on like day 2 just popped up on my Facebook. I know this sounds silly but I didn’t know and had never heard of sober blogs, sober book, sober web sites, before I read your book I had no idea there was this whole online sober community all helping each other out and cheering each other on . your book has led me into an web (excuse the pun ) of funny heartbreaking real stories of woman who are fighting to steal there life’s back from the bottom of a bottle and I wouldn’t have known anything about it if not for you so Thank you and thanks to all those lovely ladies who are making me feel less alone more determined and more hopefully .xxx

  • I’m on day 16. It is getting easier each day. I’m glad I found Belle’s website, blog and book. I decided to try the 100 days since I was getting tired of never feeling like I had enough of a buzz and feeling guilty in front of my family. I also received a Christmas gift of 3 pair of lounging socks and on the bottom they said “If you can read this bring me a glass of wine.” I thought to myself, “Is this who I am and do people only think of me as a drinker that I have to advertise it on my socks?” I’m actually quite proud of myself for making 3 Fridays, 2 Saturdays and the other weekdays without the booze. Stay strong everyone!

  • Hi Belle, I am taking the 100 day challenge. My last drink was December 28. I read your book in one night. I am taking the challenge during a difficult
    time. I finally left an abusive marriage to an alcoholic. I found that I was drinking more using the “ if you can’t beat ‘em Join ‘em mentality”. I realized that the worst time to drink is during the hardest time as it is adds to depression. So it will be a bumpy ride. So far your book has been my bible. I keep a copy on my bedside table and glove compartment. I’m having trouble figuring out how to sign up not just as a guest. 🤔

  • Hi all. I did ten weeks dry last year then relapsed. Long story. Decided to give it another go. Last drink 4 January 2019. Can’t wait to do 100 days as I only made it to about 75 last time. Let’s do this.

  • Hi Belle, I’m back. I did the 100 day challenge a few years ago and of course Wolfie told me I could handle drinking now and I believed him. He lied. I am going to look up my membership info and really try harder this time! And when I stopped following you, you were writing the book. You did it! Congratulations. I’m hungover AGAIN. I need you to talk to.

  • Hi Belle! I am taking the 100day challenge. I knew I had to stop drinking for many of the reasons that you write about – your book and blog have helped me everyday (I’m on day 8 after not having an alcohol free day for a very long time!) more than you can imagine. I’m currently navigating my way through setting up a blog as I know that I can’t do this on my own. I saw a post on facebook yesterday ridiculing all the ‘dryanuary’ folks and I’ll be honest it made me so cross. Personally I waited until January after many failed attempts at moderation as I hoped it would deflect the unwanted attention, this post will have no doubt pushed many towards the wine and to give up.

    So I’m just posting to say hi to all of you that started this year and send hugs to you all – and to say a huge thank you to Belle for her story. Its kicked my ass into this and I feel like I can do it.

  • Hi. I stopped drinking Jan 1 as I had a horrible hangover and decided to take control of my life. I just found this blog and read the post from the past week. I wish you all success. Your stories sound so much like my own.

  • Day 2. Though I did well today, it’s now 11.30pm and after another fallout with my 19yr old son, i’m Stressed and beginning to have Wolfie thoughts!😞

  • Day 3 for me I couldn’t quite manage to give up for Jan 1st like everyone else had to drag it out a little longer. Sick of battling with the whole drinking thing it’s so wearing and demoralizing. Drinking pretty much a bottle of wine every day with an [alcohol] nightcap occasionally. Would love to be free from alcohol completely and never have the urge to drink again. I’ve tried before but not managed 100 days so signing up and staying positive😁

  • Day 6 this time around. I discovered this site through “The unexpected joy of being sober” as well. I have read and tried multiple sober books and practices over the years. I was widowed for 10 months as I reached my 10 year sobriety anniversary on July 4, 2015 (I live in the US) and decided I could have a drink. And I only had 1 but since that was so easy, the “1” began to happen with fewer weeks/days in between. Up and down as you all have probably experienced-another 10 months sober when a trip to Europe (voice in head) convinced me I could drink while there. so another 6 months of highly drinking and all that entails😢 I ordered Allen Carr’s “Quit DrinkingWithoutWillpower” and Caterine Grays book at the same time. Loved the message that the alcohol is a trap and I am not missing a thing by remaining sober. Quit Jan. 2, 2019 because that is when I finished the 1st book. Now reading Catherine Gray’s which led me here. Will turn 62 in May and have probably never had a “normal” relationship with alcohol. Even very young, I could out drink my friends and was the one who wanted more. Thank you for your honesty all you real people who suffer the same private hell. The best of luck. I pledge to make 100 days sober and beyond! Thank you Belle for you insight and your desire to help others. I will buy your book as well! Robin MN-USA

  • I’m 34 and during 2018 reduced my alcohol intake quite a bit,not drinking through the week or if I did only one glass of wine, not every night, not 2 nights in a row, only having a blow out now and again. I wouldn’t come home from work on a Friday and open a bottle straight away, I wouldn’t even drink both days of the weekend. I was doing well, controlling my drinking,or so I thought. I’m no different to any of my friends, we all like a drink. Some of them down shots and fall out of pubs, I don’t mix my drinks and don’t go out to pubs often at all. I could have a glass or two without finishing the bottle. I hadn’t been sick from drinking for a long time and I wasn’t blacking out when I was drinking which used to happen most times I drank. I was finally in a good place with alcohol, I could control it and myself. Then the last 2 weeks of the year I lost it all again, my birthday is just before Christmas so as a department we had our Christmas night out/birthday celebration, I don’t recall being taken home that night and spent the following day doing very little and eventually had to leave work early as I had been sick 3 times. On the Saturday a friend came over and I don’t remember her leaving my house, Christmas Day and Boxing Day came and I drank but with control, New Years Eve I had more than I intended to but not to an extent where I was drunk. New Years Day with friends and again I was blackout drunk with no recollection of getting home, spent the next day on my sofa unable to move and then last night a friend came over and even though I didn’t even really want a drink it again ended with a blackout and today being wasted due to the severity of my hangover. In the past I have often thought about quitting drinking altogether but went down the route of moderation, I enjoyed drinking as all my friends do. For the best part of last year I thought I had cracked it, it seemed to have finally clicked and was working however after the past two weeks I have decided I want to try and stay completely sober. I am tired and scared of the blackouts and the hangover. I have spent the whole day reading tired of thinking about drinking I am ready to begin the challenge.

    • I’ve been in your shoes and now 6 months sober (with the help of Belle on my side), I’m really starting to get that it’s easier not to drink. You can do it!

    • I can relate to this .The ok drinking and then a period of too much almost every night for at least a week , often having blackouts and feeling the shame of not quite remembering what had happened.trying moderation again and doing ok and then another bout of getting out of control.So i too have joined the 100 day challenge[well I said three month until I just found this site, it is Fantastic,Day 4 and doing ok but as i am going through a difficult time with some serious losses I am finding I am low often and feel sad.allowing myself to just feel what I feel and not try to escape is a challenge. Great to hear others stories too. we are not alone !! or a terrible person.

  • Here is my bad, this is what that *#%^ wolf with the big black eyes had me doing to hydrate it…… I took to buying the cheapest gin I could find to reduce the risk of my husband noticing on my shopping trips…. pouring the contents of the cheap gin into the emptying tanquery gin bottle in the hope he wouldn’t notice. Hiding more secret gin in the side cupboard so I could quickly top up my ‘tonic’ when he had left the room… quickly downing a glass of wine from a tumbler whilst he’s out walking the dog… pretending it’s water or juice to my son. Drinking before I go out to ensure I get enough, panicking when the wine bottle is being shared by the 2 of us as it won’t be enough. Stopping on the way home to buy mini bottles of wine that I can secretly pour into a tumbler to drink quickly, (warm white wine, eugh) hiding the mini bottle under the rubbish in the bin – Basically lying to myself and to my family. Then starting drinking at 3pm to get rid of the painful mouth tingling I’m getting which I assume is from the daily withdrawal.

    I am day 2 today and I WILL NOT DRINK TODAY, NOT TODAY. I’m exiting the booze elevator. It’s time to get off.

    Thank you Belle for this page. I think it just might change my life. I’m very scared. But I now feel accountable and stronger for admitting this to others for the first time ever. I am a secret drinker no more, you all now know that I did it. It’s time x

  • Day 7 for me. Already noticing my sleep is getting better. I have a stinking cold but even with that, not having a hangover every morning is great. The last time I gave up for almost a year, but this time I don’t want to cave in. Drinking gives me nothing – it only takes away.

  • Day 3 today – I had stopped the booze in February 2012 with the help of AA. I started drinking again in 2015, very slowly…here a bottle on my own because I felt depressed, there a shared glass of wine with a friend on the eve of his operation, again a bottle on my own after the funeral of a friend etc. I decided to drink regularly again on my 60th birthday in November 2017 with thoughts like “life is too short…”, “I deserve this…”, “I am fed up being the only one not drinking…” etc. Although I have never drunk again as much as before 2012, the quality of my life changed for the worse : I started to obsess about drinking again, trying to be sober some evenings a week, which was challenging, losing my week-end evenings to the booze as starting drinking before the dinner party or the rendez-vous with a friend to be sure to get enough wine, waking up with swollen eyes and depressed feelings, reading less, watching less movies, spending much more money on wine in restaurants, cafés, supermarkets and night shops, starting smoking again – and: the worst of all, resuming an abusive relationship I had quit some years before. I used the booze to be more animated with him, to have sex, to cover up my dislike of his values and his way of being in the relationship.
    I now want to regain sobriety. And I make the 100-sober days pledge. I will try to do this without the daily pen pal support as I am in therapy and hope to find the necessary support there. If I don’t, I will sign up for the sober jump start. Thank you Belle for this place to share. Thank you.

  • Oh my goodness. I am not alone. Day 1 sober today. My mouth literally aches, my heart is racing, butterflies in my throat. The wolf keeps saying, drink , drink , but NO, NO. I can starve this wolf to death. I have been drinking heavily for years, lost count, can’t remember a day when I didn’t have a drink. The secrecy is getting worse and harder to conceal. I am sick of feeling ill, ill until I have a drink, feel a bit better when get the warm fuzzy feeling, drinking until I fall asleep, wake up feeling ill. Vicious nasty cycle and I’m sick to death of it. Enough, Day 1 nearly done xx

  • Day 1 was 01.01.2019
    It got to the point where I stole a bottle of gin so my husband wouldn’t see it on the receipt…..that is my lowest point and that was only last week….I drank heavily over Christmas and found ‘tired of thinking about drinking’ and after a read….decided enough was enough. Belle was talking directly to me….I am taking g on the 100 day sober challenge as are many of you. We can do this. Nobody should have a wolf on their shoulder whispering bad advise!!

  • Nottingham, 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿
    On board the 100 day sober challenge.
    I’m a 41year old Mum and was Drinking at least a bottle of wine every day. Day 2 today.

  • Day 2 for me I was drinking a bottle of wine per night. Then I read The Unexpected Joy of being sober and it totally changed my relationship with alcohol! My husband is a heavy drinker, as are all my close friends so it’s going to be tough.

  • Wow so many of us doing it right here and now. We will do this. Like you all this struck a chord…never being taught how to deal with stress i an adaptive way leading to substance issues. Day 2 nearly done x

  • Last drink: December 28, 2018. Made it through New Year’s Eve sober and feel proud I didn’t wait til after because then there would just be another excuse after that to wait. And I would probably be on a raging bender right now. Alcohol never makes me feel better but it was always my only answer to everything. I need a new way of living and I finally decided it is no longer something I can put off. 100 day challenge here I come!!!

  • Day 1. 50 this year, and 15 years of plunging into a wine bottle at any old excuse needs to stop. One bottle crept up on me, and now I want to open bottle 2. I refuse. I’m not fulfilling my potential or being the better me. Have just read Catherine Gray’s book, which recommended this site. 2019 is the year I and we all here can smash it, literally and figuratively.

    • I am 50 this year too. I started just thinking about doing dry January but am now in the middle of Catherine Gray’s book so wondering whether it would make sense to be more ambitious.

  • Day 1 starts here. I’m very nervous I have managed to quit before then the old habit crept back. Wine was a reward tough day, good day for anything I felt in a day! Ready for the challenge and I know it will be hard.

  • Starting today. I read ‘Tired of thinking about Drinking’ and bells rang so loudly. The ‘Fuzzy warm, knock off the rough edges’ feeling is me. Nightly if I’m not being vigilant. I think about alcohol all the time. I get three quarters of the way through a bottle of wine and think ”Is that all that’s left?” and feel that creeping disappointment rather than “I have really had all that wine already?” and feel a kind of alarm. I think I’m ready to give up drinking altogether but I know it’s going to be really hard and I’m afraid. But I’m also determined and hopefully this blog will help me. New Years Day is such a cliche, but then so is being a drunk I guess.

  • I too heard about this blog via the book ‘the unexpected joys of being sober’. Last drink was Saturday 29 December. Ready for the 100 day challenge 💪🏼

  • I’m starting the challenge on January 2. After my mother’s funeral my siblings individually called me to speak to me about my drinking. I was angry and humiliated, I still am, but ready to listen.

  • Today is my day one, again. I am causing pain and misery to all around and even attempted suicide in Boxing Day. I also have bipolar so it’s a dual thing for me but the drinking MUST stop before I end up hurt or dead or loose my children. I managed 8 months last year so I know I can do it again I juts need more support and I can’t get on with AA. So I’m pleased to be here and hoping for inspiration and. I more hangovers!!

  • I turned 50 this year and I have been trying to reduce my alcohol consumption since my 30s, but I never seem to get past a few days and then I start on the wine again. Often a bottle to a bottle and a half most evenings. I worry constantly about my health, though I eat relatively healthy apart from the booze! I dearly want to give up completely and get my fitness and health back to where it was in my 20s. My gorgeous new husband gave me the best Christmas present ever…. Catherine Gray’s book “the unexpected joy of being sober” and she quotes your 100 day challenge throughout the book, so here I am…. this time I’m determined to quit once and for all…. Day One on Friday 28th December, 3 days before New Year’s Eve, but I CAN DO THIS!

    • Hi Clare. I’m 52 and have found this site through the same book. December 29th 2018 is day 1 for me. I have tried on and off since my 30’s to stop alcohol. I want to stop completely once and for all. To improve my health and fitness. Good luck to all of us. Christine

    • Claire – My Day 1 was yesterday and apart from the Christmas present you received, you described my life! Wishing you… and me all the very best.

    • HI Claire – turning 52 next year and like you having been trying to reduce my alcohol consumption – but despite periods (6 weeks at most) I always fall back into the habit of opening a bottle of wine as a response to any stress or indeed any celebration.
      Like you – am reading the “unexpected joy” – started on Xmas Eve – and after a boozy Xmas day decided to stop on Boxing Day rather than wait till New Years Day. So now on day 4 and delighted I did!
      Good luck everyone – we got this!

    • I too started my 100 days on this day! New Year’s Eve was easy for me since I had a terrible cold and didn’t feel like eating or drinking since I couldn’t taste or smell. My hardest so far has been weekends when I have no structure, but I killer cleaned my house and cooked a lot. This weekend I’m going to read a good book. We’re on Day 16 already!!!!

  • Aged 56. It truly is well beyond time to stop. My “Wolfie” will be called Cersei. She is looks so beautiful, and like someone you would like to spend time with. But GoT watchers know she is pure evil. F-off Cersei.

  • Where to begin?

    I’m sitting at the dining room table, alone. The lights are dimmed, it’s quiet, except for the bubbles in the fish tank (I was going to say aquarium, but that isn’t what I call it, and, here I can be me). My glass is to my left, it has 2 slices of lemon, a few mint leaves, apple juice and lemonade, a virgin Mojito of sorts I guess.

    Tomorrow (well today actually as it’s 00:14 in the UK) is day 100 and I feel great, somewhat strange still as I drank for so long, so 100 days is a drop in the ocean. However, it’s 100 days sober, something that I haven’t done since I was 17, and that was 32 years ago.

    I could go on for ages now that I’ve started, but I won’t, well not now anyway.

    Thank you Belle, you have no idea how much you have helped to get me here.

    I treated myself to the EXIT fridge magnet #34.