100 Day Sober Challenge

Are you interested in doing the 100-day sober challenge?

​Here’s the pledge:

    “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”

OK, now what?

When I was trying to quit, I had many day 1s. It wasn’t until I got more support that I started to do better. 

It's not like we can do this alone in our head.

The drinking voice is just too convincing and it ‘sounds’ like it’s making sense (when really, that voice is bullshit, but it takes some outside cheerleading to figure that out).

And the cool thing about the internet is it’s more anonymous, which can really help, at least to begin.

There are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge

​1. ​With Support

​​If you'd like a live-human, sober penpal ​and get personalized, direct responses to emails, then you can sign up for the Sober Jumpstart. ​All ​​levels come ​with a ​sober penpal (me!).

You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. I answer every email I receive. And yes, we remain sober penpals for a whole year. ​I'll keep track of your dates, and remind you when it's time to get treats.

If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed. The sober penpal is part of the Jumpstart here.

2. Self-Administered

To do the sober challenge on your own, you can write out the pledge above and make a note of the date of your last drink.

Find ways to add in more tools and supports. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it. Read sober blogs (mine and others) every day 🙂 And be sure to sign up to get daily sober motivation emails below.


I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • 78 Days sober now. I Know you Said Summer is Not harder than Winter. But for ne it is harder now. Everyone is going to The beergarden or sitting together with wine etc. I Miss it. especially when days are hot now. And i recognized that i Started to Switch from Alcohol to sweets. That Makes Me Petty helpless now. Do you have a tip for me? What can i do in Order Not to eat that much and stop craving for wine or a cold beer?

    • you may find that you do better with more supports. it’s hard to do this alone in our heads, the wolfie voice can get quite loud in there. the food thing is more easily dealt with when you are 200+ days sober. if we’re penpals, send me a message and can make some plans. if you’re not penpals… well, you can sign up and then we will be 🙂 hugs

      • Hi Belle. Thank you for your Support and your lovely words. Now i am curios about the 200+ days and about the plans we could set up. I am going to be your penpal soon and send you a message.

        I must say that I only came this far since my boyfriend and my family is supporting me a lot. But sometimes it’s hard for them to understand the struggle. Getting support from people who had the same problem would be a great idea. Thanks a lot. 🙂

  • Day 1, round 2. I completed my first 100 days from December 1 last year until mid-March. I was surprised to find that it really wasn’t even that hard! Making the committment made a big difference – something so simple. I really felt great at the end. But, closer to day 100, that “end” point started looming, and I started thinking about it too much. What do I do now? Keep going? Try to moderate? Day 100 was March 12. On March 9, my fiancee had a mini stroke. We discovered he had very high blood pressure, and he also has sleep apnea, which are both major risk factors. It was his first hospital stay in his life. I remember thinking on the day I took him to the ER that I was so thankful that I wasn’t drinking at the time. I could be present, focused, have energy, and be there for him. Today, I’m very happy to report that we were lucky – his stroke was very small, and he has no impairment. He’s on 4 medications, and he started using a CPAP, and is doing great! And me? I started drinking again. I gave it a “try” on March 18, day 106 – I drank enough wine to throw up. I hadn’t done that in a really long time. Since then, I’ve basically gone back to old habits (I never, ever stop at just one glass. I consumed a total of about 3 bottles of wine in the last 2 nights – who needs to do that????). After feeling so great and feeling confident after 100 days, I was shocked at just how quickly and forcefully Wolfie and FOMO came rushing back. Wine became a crutch again. But really, it just makes everything worse! And I know this, in my rational mind, but succumbing to Wolfie just seems so much “easier” sometimes. SO – today I tell Wolfie to F off, I have way more important things to do (like getting married in October!!) than hide from life by drowning in wine. I deserve better, my fiancee deserves better. And this will be so worth it. Thank you for everything you do, Belle!!

  • Belle- just a thank u for your presence and words..I am new here and listened to dozens and dozens of one minute meditations..love them and they help so much!!!

  • Day 100!!!! Took the pledge on March 19th and did it. It was hard, some moments are still hard, but each day I commit to not drinking just for that day. And one hundred of those days have passed. I am a fucking rockstar!!!! I feel so much better. The rotten rot in my stomach is gone, the wasted days and foggy nights are no longer happening. I have discovered this hidden room in my brain. It’s big and airy and clean. It looks out over a beautiful rolling green meadow that stretches to the ocean. And the beautiful thing is — I can go there any time I want. My brain feels like it’s healing. Wasn’t sure if I would continue after these 100 days since I’m heading out on vacation on Friday to a place with another family that has always included heavy nightly drinking. Many G&T’s at dusk, lots of wine at dinner, scotch and the stars at night. It will be the biggest challenge yet. But I am willing to make it an experiment. What will this trip and this place be like without booze? I’ll just test it. Each day. Hoping the pressure from my friends won’t be overwhelming. Thank you Belle. At the start of this journey that I have known I needed to take for years, your blog and website came up somehow. I took the pledge and here I am. Grateful forever.

  • I let wolfie back in. Big mistake. I now start day 1 of the 100 day challenge as a way to get my sober car back on the road to the best me I can be.

  • Day 306, and I have compiled a list of a few of things I things I enjoy much more sober:

    My kid;
    Good food;
    Arriving at my destination after an overnight flight;
    Evenings (between 7-11pm);
    Saying goodnight to my son and remembering it;
    Emotions (even the uncomfortable ones);
    Not frantically checking social media, my outbox, Whatsapp, and my call log every morning;
    Not frantically scrambling to finish projects at the last minute;
    Not having to start my day with an apology.

    At this point, the novelty of being sober has worn off and I hear wolfie saying, “look, 300 days is great, you have proven your point, now let’s celebrate in moderation..(hahah!).

    Not a chance.

    So today I commit to another 100 day challenge. I will not drink for the next 100 days, no matter what happens…


    • DubaiDad, excellent! So happy to know you’re there for your family and for yourself! Good job telling Wolfie, “nope,” and many congrats. -StarLover (day 27)

  • 13 days today… mostly fine but there is still that weekend itch. Will be going for a run this evening to help with that. Also have sparking water on the way… I think that’s what I miss… the celebratory “thing” to relax with so here is to fizzy water, just fizzy water, and maybe some chocolate 🙂 I DO NOT miss the headaches, the moodiness, the regret of consuming more than I should, the occasional spat that is fueled by booze, or the occasional sadness that comes with it…. I honestly have nothing to be sad about but when I drink I think about past times that were very sad and then it puts me on a pitty party… WHY?! Life is now, not then. On the positive this week I received a couple of bits of good news and would like to attribute it to karma for making better decisions 🙂

  • 102 days here. The 100 day goal really helped me as I do well with defined targets. I’ve got a new target of Dec 31st… that really only leaves a small step to the end of April 2019 and a whole year right? 😉 Baby steps though, got to make through day 103 first! It’s just one day.

  • Day 2 and feeling totally pathetic that I am struggling, when I read all of your wonderful 100 day + stories.

    • Remember it’s not a competition. I’m almost 5 years sober, but I had at least a dozen Day 2’s before I got here. The early days are the hardest but it gets easier with time and experience.