100 Day Sober Challenge

Are you interested in doing the 100-day sober challenge?

​Here’s the pledge:

    “I will not drink for 100 days.  No matter what.  I can cry, but I will not drink.  I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink.  Bad things might happen, but I will not drink.  Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother.  But there will be no booze.  Funerals? Weddings? Amputation?  I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”


OK, now what?

When I was trying to quit, I had many day 1s. It wasn’t until I got more support that I started to do better. 

It's not like we can do this alone in our head.

The drinking voice is just too convincing and it ‘sounds’ like it’s making sense (when really, that voice is bullshit, but it takes some outside cheerleading to figure that out).

And the cool thing about the internet is it’s more anonymous, which can really help, at least to begin.

There are two ways to do the 100-Day Sober Challenge

​1. ​With Support

​​If you'd like a live-human, sober penpal ​and get personalized, direct responses to emails, then you can sign up for the Sober Jumpstart. ​All ​​levels come ​with a ​sober penpal (me!).

You can email me every single day, ask questions, rant, whine, and get cheerleading. I answer every email I receive. And yes, we remain sober penpals for a whole year. ​I'll keep track of your dates, and remind you when it's time to get treats.

If you’re like me, then you’ll will do better with accountability and cheerleading. Me on my own, I couldn’t get more than 9 days in a row. Then once I added in support, things changed. The sober penpal is part of the Jumpstart here.


2. Self-Administered

To do the sober challenge on your own, you can write out the pledge above and make a note of the date of your last drink.

Find ways to add in more tools and supports. The more you reach out, the more sober tools you add, the easier you’ll find it. Read sober blogs (mine and others) every day 🙂 And be sure to sign up to get daily sober motivation emails below.

Belle

I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

  • Day 1, I’ve had many day one’s. Belle you’ve been there for me and I thank you so much. I will use my supports, I’m tired of starting over.

  • Day 242 and it still feels like magic. I have a superpower now. No matter what life throws at me, I can channel my inner 6 year old, stick my tongue out and say, “Haha, nope, you can’t make me!” Doesn’t matter what it is–death, divorce, despair, distress, a ruined batch of laundry, guests that won’t leave, cat puke on the stairs, American politics, climate change, broken heart–haha, f.u., can’t make me drink!! I can one-up ANYTHING now, and gawd DAMN is that a great feeling! 🙂

    And in all seriousness, every time I’ve had one of those moments–and there have been many–my next thought is, “Thank GOD I’m not drinking; this would be so much harder to handle if I was.” This from someone who for 20 years would dive straight into a bottle of wine if life so much as sneezed in her general direction.

    So to everyone reading this: yes, you CAN do it, and yes, it’s SO worth it. 🙂

  • Big thank you Belle, you’re amazing. I discovered your book and blog the other day. I’ve tried everything – most recently AA which I found pretty tough and sometimes uncomfortable. I love the way that you bring positivity, a light hearted and down to earth approach to this. It helps in so many ways. Very much hoping I can stick with the 100 day challenge. I have managed about 2 weeks sober in the last 3 or so years. Time to stop at 35 years old. Feeling optomistic on day 2 xx

  • Day 14. The Sunday morning of two weeks sober. A second weekend conquered. So how do I feel? Well one thing is definitely pleased with myself. Last night I practiced “no thank you “ three times. I went to a social gathering of which I was very anxious and didn’t drink a drop. Also, I have no hangover on a Sunday so I am very pleased about that too. No sick shame when the kids come in and I reel away from their brightness. When I can’t bear to move but they have run down stairs and it’s not safe for them to be there without an adult. When I’m immobilised by a pain in my head and my brain feels hot and soft. So none of that today.
    In the last 2 weekends I have also noticed a little panic creep in around taking responsibility for the day. The excuse of being poisoned has gone and though insidious, this state of sickness has framed my weekends for decades. But they are no longer mine they are ours and I have all the same stuff to do , things I want to and things I don’t but have to and it’s all very overwhelming. I’m going to start with a shower and see what happens but whatever this day holds I will face it sober. Come on Sunday…and thank you brave people x

  • So, I decided to stop drinking after another blackout, which resulted in embarrassing myself and my husband (again). I felt awful, when for the first time on the morning after, he told me he felt sad!, usually it ends up in a row whereby I am defensive and in denial and he is frustrated and angry with me. This shift in his reaction really caused me to consider the impact of my drinking. I had an lightbulb moment where i faced my reality that drinking, for me at least, causes pain, extreme anxiety and huge regret the next day. I cannot go out and have 1 drink. I admitted to myself for the first time, that actually I have a drink problem. This is probably the hardest thing for me to accept, yet is the catalyst for me to make a change. I have not drunk for 13 days. I have read a lot of information online and the Blackout book by Sarah Hepola (I had such an affinity with many of the experiences she wrote as I have had the same experiences). I am now reading The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. Reading about other peoples personal journeys has given me the confidence that I am not alone, the feelings that I have felt and feel now are shared with other people. It’s difficult for people around us who do not have drink problems to understand, that is why the support and stories I read really help make this journey easier and reinforce in me that I do not need to drink. It is Saturday morning here and waking up on my second weekend without a hangover is amazing. I enjoy the time with my children and husband more in this state of clarity. I am training for 10k run, whilst listening to positivity podcasts. I feel I am giving myself the gift of everything positive in life and removing the negative (drink), embracing how lucky I am and this really is driving me not to drink. I love this blog, it is super supportive. Thank you Belle for starting this. I look forward not only to 100 days not drinking but the rest of my life drink free. Sending love and positivity to all of you here, you can do it, so can I !! 🙂 love Rosie

  • I decided to start the 100 day challenge today. I’ve had a thousand day ones and I am sick and tired of thinking of drinking. I am extremely blessed and there is a big beautiful life waiting for me!! No more wasting time, money, memories! No more feeling shame, lying, blackouts, hangovers, regrets, humiliation! No more! So here it is, day one. I will not drink no matter what.

  • Belle, please reset my date. 11/4/18. I am not listening to Wolfie anymore and am putting my sober bracelet back on as a visual reminder. xoxo

  • I know this sounds terrible but I’m going to start the 100 day challenge tomorrow. I tried already this week and failed. So I’ll start on Monday. I have my first counseling appointment Thursday and feel like I need the extra support. I love this idea of a sober pin pal. Wish I could afford it. The counsler is already costing an arm and a leg. I have a 4 year old I adore and I’m 45. Drinking has already taken time off my life I imagine and I’ve had plenty of great family times I barely even remember. I’ve tried to quit so many times. It’s nice not even fun anymore. I hope it sticks this time. I mean pretty desperate.

    • Hi you, if you email me i can send you a list of resources of my site, free and paid, and 80% of what i do is free (or less than $30). my email is tiredofdrinking@gmail.com – for example, you could start with the free one minute audio messages (there are 300+) and the beginning Exit Lurker series. send me a message. hugs

  • Day 5. I’m thinking about not drinking a lot but not finding it particularly hard. Maybe this means I don’t have that much of a problem. First test will be on day 7 when we have a family gathering and I’m well know for having a drink at any opportunity. They’ll probably think I’m pregnant or something!! Ha ha!

    • if it’s ‘not that much of a problem’ then it’ll be no problem to quit for 100 days 🙂 (to begin, i thought about NOT drinking a lot, but that fades as you go on). hugs from me

  • Day 15. Finding this website and this community has been a kind of homecoming, or a series of mirrors. I see myself everywhere here. I come from a family of drunks and lifelong alcoholics. I told myself I was a reasonable drinker, not a real alcoholic. I told myself I only drank wine, only in the evenings, not every day. The problem was none of things were true. I wasn’t a reasonable drinker, I was just better at lying about it and about hiding it. Once I started to think about quitting I took the online test and I lied to the test. (I know, I know.) Even when I lied the test said “You may have a drinking problem.” Somehow I mustered my courage to take the test and tell the truth and the test said, “QUIT NOW BITCH.” I mean, not in those exact words. And I felt so much relief and fear, facing the truth. So I am committed to 100 days and beyond. But in my heart I know I won’t ever be able to drink like a normal person. And when that starts to get me down I tell myself, you know what, I’ve had my share of drinks. More than my share.

  • I am on day 15 after being taken to the ER and treated for alcohol withdrawal by my husband. He found me drunk in our bedroom at 3 in the afternoon. After many reset this is the last straw for me. I’m done alcohol has kicked my a$$ for the last time.

  • “I will not drink for 100 days. No matter what. I can cry, but I will not drink. I can go to bed or go home early. I might feel distressed … but I will not drink. Bad things might happen, but I will not drink. Incredibly shitty things may happen to someone around me, or my neighbour, or my friend’s friend’s grandmother. But there will be no booze. Funerals? Weddings? Amputation? I’m not drinking for 100 days no matter what happens … No matter what.”

    • Just wondering why you decided to drink that night after being 217 days sober? I have never gotten to that high of a number (73 is my highest) and I’m just wondering if you could give any advice as to what signs (if any) to look for that might bring wolfie back to the for front. Hope you are back on track now.

  • I think that drinking pushes negative thing and I think that negative thinking is fueled by wolfie and his pack of negateers. When my brain is engaged and by that, I mean serving me and not serving wolfie – I can see this quite clearly. I am not consumed with where my next drink is coming from nor in a hypnotic state that booze puts me in and I can take control.

    I am a big drinker. I can put back a lot of booze with no real outward signs. I can also convince myself that I am not drunk but is it really me and who am I convincing? If I am really honest with myself there are patterns in my thinking that begin very quickly after I finish that first drink or take that first swig of whisky. And it goes downhill after that.

    So, when we talk about framing reality we really need to remove alcohol from the equation. You can have your brain at some rodeo riding a wild horse or you can have it intelligently guiding your sober car on the right path towards freedom from your “disease”. As you say, we are the lucky ones. We have a choice. We can choose to be sick or we can choose to be cured. There is no place for negative wolfie thinking in this scenario. None.

    A solid month in and my brain is starting to function better already.

  • Day 8 just saw this challenge. I was going to to do 30 days just for myself but a 100 days is more likely what I need. I have been drinking a lot in the last year and it doesn’t help that I work in a bar. I love reading everybodies experiences. Time to get my life back on track. I am having a difficult time dealing with my emotions they are intense but I am working through them.

  • Day 13. My first serious attempt at this. Voracious reading and a supportive husband are helping me fight this battle at present. I need to do this for myself and my family. Good luck to everyone reading this. F*** the wolf!!

  • Hello – all of your stories are so comforting and inspirational. I am Day 1, and this is like my 5th Day 1 but my first time committing online or to anyone other than myself. I will continue to read and stay focused on just NOT drinking. lots of love to you all.

  • This is my day 1.
    I have tried the totally sober life once before and I am clinging on to those memories of freshness, energy, the joy of living to get me past this huge hurdle of evening 1.

  • Nice to read so many people who understand and even been in my situation having already completed the experiment and knowing the only answer is to do another 100 day experiment…NOT moderation because Wolfie tries that and it seduces you. It’s not reliable..even if you can moderate only sometimes..other times it is a shit show. DO NOT TRY AND PET THE RATTLESNAKE!

    I emailed Belle from Paris at 5 O clock the last day I visited France and told her I wanted back on the sober train and asked for a reset. It was symbolic to be getting on the subway and feeling that I had committed to this 100 days again. April to July 10th last year and I am going back to read all the awesome things I wrote down about how great I felt..and re-read the highlighted book again. Adding more suppports. How silly I was to celebrate the 100 days with a drink..OMG.

    I’m ready; for new and better experiences, more creativity, more checks off my bucket lists…..in my sober car.

    Cheers…DRY cheers lol.
    moonshine Dry Day 7

  • Day 23 for me and I just found your blog from reading ‘The unexpected joy of being sober’. After 25 years of being an alcoholic of varying degrees I am turning my back on the moderation bullshit – not drinking Tuesday to Thursday does not put Wolfie back in the box. This is the longest I have been sober since I had my son nearly 13 years ago.
    What’s different? I have confided in my mother, my partner and my best friends. I have submersed myself reading. I have started to draw and I am learning to enjoy exercise. I have had crippling anxiety for years – I am not menopausal..I was hungover. A lot. I have started to check my bank statement and rather than feel sick thinking of my debts I have gone to the bank, sorted my finances and I can be back in the black in six months with no money wasted on alcohol.
    Most importantly I went on a long walk with the dog and my teenage son tonight – as I have done for the last two weeks. We talked and laughed and it wasn’t just a ten minute walk to the shop for wine. I don’t have to get up at 6am to hide the bottles before they get up for school and I miserably get dressed for work.
    I’m done. I’m out. I’m in. Thank you.

  • Back to day 1. I stopped drinking for 89 days back in February and was feeling great. Then summer came and I caved to temptation and have spiraled downward from there. I’m writing this as I feel horrible from the decisions I made last night. I know in my heart that I want this but my head disagrees and always wins. I don’t want to wake up feeling like this ever again. Im afraid that I will fail again but I have to keep trying. One day at a time starting with today.

  • Well I’m back again for round 2 ! Completed my 100 days mid July. Felt great but unfortunately old habits die hard. I ‘ve been back drinking (Not heavily) for a month now and I just need to accept that alcohol just does nt agree with me. So will start 100 days and then need to review it after 100 to make sure I don’t fall into the same trap again. Feel relieved that I ‘ve commited to this again and now there s no question as to whether or not I can have a drink. ? let’s go x

  • Day 2 and feeling totally pathetic that I am struggling, when I read all of your wonderful 100 day + stories.

    • Remember it’s not a competition. I’m almost 5 years sober, but I had at least a dozen Day 2’s before I got here. The early days are the hardest but it gets easier with time and experience.

  • 102 days here. The 100 day goal really helped me as I do well with defined targets. I’ve got a new target of Dec 31st… that really only leaves a small step to the end of April 2019 and a whole year right? 😉 Baby steps though, got to make through day 103 first! It’s just one day.

  • My sister sent this website to me a few weeks ago and i’m Just now looking at it. Good stuff here and love all of the support.

  • Oh, god. Day 1. Another Day 1 on a demonic Ferris wheel that I’ve been on since I was eighteen, getting ever faster and looping around and around the same grim landscape that breaks my heart and stops my breath with the shame of it. I’m committing to this challenge, white-knuckled and sad at the moment, but I know even as I write that that I can muster up the better, happier momentum in time. It’s maintaining it that always fails, that first little whisper in my mind that so rapidly undoes everything and then it’s right back to binge drinking until I pass out. I’ve given that wolf permission to steal and destroy anything of grace or goodness and beauty in my life, any chances I have to do good things, for myself, for others, to explore a world that isn’t completely dominated by alcohol. It’s a dreary, evil carnival. Anyway. I needed very badly in this moment to write something, to say something, to speak the truth of it. I have a terrible drinking problem and I am fucking tired of it. Wiped out. Done.

  • 13 days today… mostly fine but there is still that weekend itch. Will be going for a run this evening to help with that. Also have sparking water on the way… I think that’s what I miss… the celebratory “thing” to relax with so here is to fizzy water, just fizzy water, and maybe some chocolate 🙂 I DO NOT miss the headaches, the moodiness, the regret of consuming more than I should, the occasional spat that is fueled by booze, or the occasional sadness that comes with it…. I honestly have nothing to be sad about but when I drink I think about past times that were very sad and then it puts me on a pitty party… WHY?! Life is now, not then. On the positive this week I received a couple of bits of good news and would like to attribute it to karma for making better decisions 🙂

  • Day 306, and I have compiled a list of a few of things I things I enjoy much more sober:

    My kid;
    Mornings;
    Intimacy;
    Good food;
    Sunrise;
    Arriving at my destination after an overnight flight;
    Sex;
    Evenings (between 7-11pm);
    Saying goodnight to my son and remembering it;
    Emotions (even the uncomfortable ones);
    Not frantically checking social media, my outbox, Whatsapp, and my call log every morning;
    Not frantically scrambling to finish projects at the last minute;
    Not having to start my day with an apology.

    At this point, the novelty of being sober has worn off and I hear wolfie saying, “look, 300 days is great, you have proven your point, now let’s celebrate in moderation..(hahah!).

    Not a chance.

    So today I commit to another 100 day challenge. I will not drink for the next 100 days, no matter what happens…

    DubaiDad

    • DubaiDad, excellent! So happy to know you’re there for your family and for yourself! Good job telling Wolfie, “nope,” and many congrats. -StarLover (day 27)

  • I let wolfie back in. Big mistake. I now start day 1 of the 100 day challenge as a way to get my sober car back on the road to the best me I can be.

  • Day 100!!!! Took the pledge on March 19th and did it. It was hard, some moments are still hard, but each day I commit to not drinking just for that day. And one hundred of those days have passed. I am a fucking rockstar!!!! I feel so much better. The rotten rot in my stomach is gone, the wasted days and foggy nights are no longer happening. I have discovered this hidden room in my brain. It’s big and airy and clean. It looks out over a beautiful rolling green meadow that stretches to the ocean. And the beautiful thing is — I can go there any time I want. My brain feels like it’s healing. Wasn’t sure if I would continue after these 100 days since I’m heading out on vacation on Friday to a place with another family that has always included heavy nightly drinking. Many G&T’s at dusk, lots of wine at dinner, scotch and the stars at night. It will be the biggest challenge yet. But I am willing to make it an experiment. What will this trip and this place be like without booze? I’ll just test it. Each day. Hoping the pressure from my friends won’t be overwhelming. Thank you Belle. At the start of this journey that I have known I needed to take for years, your blog and website came up somehow. I took the pledge and here I am. Grateful forever.

  • Belle- just a thank u for your presence and words..I am new here and listened to dozens and dozens of one minute meditations..love them and they help so much!!!

  • Day 1, round 2. I completed my first 100 days from December 1 last year until mid-March. I was surprised to find that it really wasn’t even that hard! Making the committment made a big difference – something so simple. I really felt great at the end. But, closer to day 100, that “end” point started looming, and I started thinking about it too much. What do I do now? Keep going? Try to moderate? Day 100 was March 12. On March 9, my fiancee had a mini stroke. We discovered he had very high blood pressure, and he also has sleep apnea, which are both major risk factors. It was his first hospital stay in his life. I remember thinking on the day I took him to the ER that I was so thankful that I wasn’t drinking at the time. I could be present, focused, have energy, and be there for him. Today, I’m very happy to report that we were lucky – his stroke was very small, and he has no impairment. He’s on 4 medications, and he started using a CPAP, and is doing great! And me? I started drinking again. I gave it a “try” on March 18, day 106 – I drank enough wine to throw up. I hadn’t done that in a really long time. Since then, I’ve basically gone back to old habits (I never, ever stop at just one glass. I consumed a total of about 3 bottles of wine in the last 2 nights – who needs to do that????). After feeling so great and feeling confident after 100 days, I was shocked at just how quickly and forcefully Wolfie and FOMO came rushing back. Wine became a crutch again. But really, it just makes everything worse! And I know this, in my rational mind, but succumbing to Wolfie just seems so much “easier” sometimes. SO – today I tell Wolfie to F off, I have way more important things to do (like getting married in October!!) than hide from life by drowning in wine. I deserve better, my fiancee deserves better. And this will be so worth it. Thank you for everything you do, Belle!!

  • 78 Days sober now. I Know you Said Summer is Not harder than Winter. But for ne it is harder now. Everyone is going to The beergarden or sitting together with wine etc. I Miss it. especially when days are hot now. And i recognized that i Started to Switch from Alcohol to sweets. That Makes Me Petty helpless now. Do you have a tip for me? What can i do in Order Not to eat that much and stop craving for wine or a cold beer?

    • you may find that you do better with more supports. it’s hard to do this alone in our heads, the wolfie voice can get quite loud in there. the food thing is more easily dealt with when you are 200+ days sober. if we’re penpals, send me a message and can make some plans. if you’re not penpals… well, you can sign up and then we will be 🙂 hugs

      • Hi Belle. Thank you for your Support and your lovely words. Now i am curios about the 200+ days and about the plans we could set up. I am going to be your penpal soon and send you a message.

        I must say that I only came this far since my boyfriend and my family is supporting me a lot. But sometimes it’s hard for them to understand the struggle. Getting support from people who had the same problem would be a great idea. Thanks a lot. 🙂