there’s lots for everyone

email from C:
“Wow! Are you about helping people, or making money? Seems like you’re always trying to sell me something, rather than offering words of advice. Nothing personal, but I think your program is more about the $, than helping, in my opinion. Can’t wait to see what else you try to sell me next. Good luck.”

me 🙂 thanks for the feedback. you’ll find that 80% of what I do on the site is free: personal emails, blogging, writing, daily micro-emails, daily one minute audio messages, group calls, postal mail. and then 20% of what I do is paid (classes, audios, book, jewelry). lots of people don’t participate in the paid stuff ever, but enough other people DO pay so they end up funding the 80% who don’t pay anything. you can easily decide you’d like to remain in the not-paying category and others will continue to fund the free stuff 🙂 there’s lots for everyone. hugs, belle xo


i share this email from C because he is not alone with his thoughts. if you’d like to contribute something kind, perceptive, critical (and non-shitty), you can add your comment below. C is entitled to feeling like this, and he isn’t alone either. and his point of view is entirely reasonable if seeing me through one lens. please share your ideas, but remember that I won’t moderate shitty comments. you’ve been warned 🙂


I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I’m tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

114 thoughts to “there’s lots for everyone”

  1. from HollyKate: I think it’s a shame that you got the message saying that you’re all about the dolla dolla. I think the people who click on the links (and get directed to a giveaway where you have to make a comment) are reluctant to engage, and actually just want things for free because it requires no work on their part. I really think that often people assume everything on the internet should be free. I think the bonus links are a great idea – I read the post because I’ve been enticed by the giveaway, but actually end up reading something helpful and commenting on it makes me engage.
    Your links to the sober store at the bottom of emails are not invasive in any way – you can browse if you like or ignore them.
    You’ve never come across like you’re just out to sell stuff – I think that’s ludicrous. I’ve received at least three things in the post from you – from France, for free. Stuff like this reminds me of one of my favourite quotes: ” you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world – and there’ll still be someone who hates peaches.”

  2. from P: Oh, reading this makes me feel so sad. I’m newly sober and have gotten so much support from Belle’s emails and podcasts. I don’t think it is an exaggeration to believe her work is saving lives. What started as her solo project has now become a tool used by many, needed by many, and I know this need does not come without a price. Our expectations are inconsistent, here is a tool that is very beneficial to thousands of people and we somehow expect it for free, but in other less important daily interactions, we clearly don’t expect free. We don’t go to Starbucks and expect free coffee and I suspect most of us thought nothing of the thousands we all likely threw down for our booze of choice, and yet there is an expectation that this sober tool, so valuable, so needed, should be free. Belle’s time and effort should be a donation to each of our recoveries, oh and we just take it, expect it, give nothing back to her. Wasn’t that self focused thinking part of our problem to begin with? I don’t resent her request for some support back, seems only fair. I am thankful for Belle. I am thankful to be sober. I am thankful for this sober tool and have contributed to this effort because I believe in this work. I value my sobriety and know I have to have sober tools to make my sobriety stick. I want to support this effort for all of us.

  3. from P: This man sounds grumpy .,.. when we drink we are grumpy and its usually vented on someone else when really we are angry with ourselves because booze (wolfie?) has got us around the neck and we feel shitty because we are trapped,

    All I can say Belle is I have never given you a penny but I praise and thank you for helping me get sober (for good) 3 & 1/2 years ago, I just lurked, read your words, took your advice and here I am. Oh and I’m no longer angry now I don’t drink!!

    Maybe it’s time for me to donate, it might help the angry folks who are reading!

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