some people lose months (or years) between sober spells
From my inbox:
S (day 7): Question. Since i’m doing really really well (better than I expected), what are your thoughts on me having a glass of wine tomorrow night out to dinner for my birthday?
me: not a great idea. you’d have to begin again on day 1 and it’s not always easy to quit again. Wolfie gets very agitated and starts to torture you again. It might take weeks or months to get 7 continuous days again … If you’ve got something that’s working, I’d keep doing it. Hugs, me
S: I understand. I was just hoping maybe I was wrong about myself and that I can be a social only drinker. The fact I’ve gone 7 days (still sober) has surprised me – the fact that it’s been so easy has shocked the hell out of me.
me: 🙂 In my experience (and I’m not god) but from what I’ve seen, we’ve all ‘tried’ moderation before we quit. We all tried to manage our drinking in some way and it never really worked. We tried counting drinks, or only drinking on special occasions. That you’ve found it easy to quit this time is good news. Every re-start is completely different and like I said, some people lose months (or years) between sober spells… if yours is working then my advice would be to stick with it and see how it goes. You will figure out what’s best for you.
[two days later]
S: OK. You were right… I drank on my birthday. And the next night. And the next. Will start again. Not sure about counting days anymore, though.
me: you were happy with your 7 days, you just need to decide to begin again. And email me every day like before. Don’t let wolfie get in your head too long… you don’t have to ‘count days’ but I can keep track for you and tell you when to have cake!