… and then we take on the world

From my inbox:

Committed (day 6):

Still feel foggy headed but I have had terrible cold which started before I gave up drinking.  Bit disappointed that normally I would over these five days have drunk 5 bottles of wine and 5 very large glasses of Baileys but I have not lost any weight!  I think my skin definitely looking better :-).  Turned down a weekend away which I would love to go to but this early in my journey the drinking temptation would be there and I don’t want to risk it

me:

dear you, you’re going to hate me saying this but you will not (likely) lose any weight in the first 90 days sober.  Sober first, everything else second 🙂 it just all takes more time. but it does come 🙂 I also didn’t socialize much outside my home in the first 6 weeks – smart girl you are to take care of yourself.

Committed:

Thanks Belle, I don’t understand the weight loss as I must be at least 6000 calories deficit in 5 days – I know I have been eating more sweet stuff but not that much lol xx. If I had carried on drinking and put myself on a healthy diet food wise in 90 days I could lose nearly 2 stone?  The weight loss was a big thing for me 🙁

me:

true 🙂 I’m not a dietician. I can only report what I’ve experienced myself and what others in the challenge report. Weight loss will happen, but more slowly that you are imagining.  As boozers we are very impatient. Part of getting sober is to realize that yes, it all happens, it just takes time.  quitting drinking specifically to lose weight will be disappointing in the short term, but successful in the longer term.  I guess probably it’s not just about calories in/out. cuz we eat differently when we’re drinking too, and it all has to shift around … our metabolisms have to adjust … quitting drinking ‘to be sober’ is great because it means that losing weight (later) is possible … as are other big changes you want to make in your life.  sober first. everything else second (she says again, in an irritating way).

Committed:

Thanks Belle – hope you don’t think I am the argumentative one lol – just like to understand stuff.  If I think about it, most nights I never ate supper as I filled myself up with wine – now I am eating supper and sweets!  Also doing no exercise and having been off work for a month not even moving around generally so none of that helps … I hear what you say and will put my sobriety first and foremost.

me:

🙂 I’ve seen a lot of people quit being sober because they load on too many goals at the same time (especially “give up” goals…). Getting sober is hard and takes a certain amount of singular focus. and then it’s easier, and then we take on the world 🙂  That I promise.

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Happy day 50 to Miss Lynn!

Happy day 50 to Shannon A!

Happy day 50 to Bridget!

Happy day 50 to Sober Senior Lady!

Happy day 50 to AmandaJ!

Happy day 50 to Ellena!

Happy day 50 to Em Anne!

Happy day 100 to Jeroen!

Happy day 100 to Tara!

Happy day 200 to C How!

Happy day 200 to KC!

Happy day 200 to Ingrid!

Happy day 200 to Sarita!

Belle

I want to put this online, to hold myself accountable. I want to document the noise in my head. I'm tired of thinking about drinking. date of last drink: june 30, 2012

11 thoughts on “… and then we take on the world

  1. I agree with your final comment about taking on too many things. Having become more clear headed with more energy I want to tackle a million things. Was considering more volunteer opportunities. Then reason took over and my small voice said, you gotta do this sober thing first or all the other things are going to fall by the wayside. Thanks again for all you do.

  2. Did you write this for me? This post speaks to me big time. I’m in the early days of trying to tackle 2 huge issues (quit drinking AND smoking). My past attempts at taking on these 2 at once have resulted in epic “F*ck It” moments…I’m trying to be superlady in doing it all at once…I’m scared I’m taking on too much and am setting myself up for another major crash & burn…currently questioning things, perhaps I should only focus on my sobriety first and then…I can take on the world. Thanks for this Belle.

  3. Congratulations to all you 50, 100 and 200 dayers out there! WOOT WOOT
    And on the weight loss front. I too thought that I would lose weight at the start considering you consume so many calories eating crappy food to go along with the bottles of wine. But, alas. Maybe we were peeing out the calories faster than we thought?? LOL (just kidding) SOBER FIRST 🙂

    1. Congratulations to everyone who reached a milestone! I’ve gained weight since I quit drinking 32 days ago. Like Committed I was drinking at least a bottle of wine per day and thought for sure I’d drop some weight. Hasn’t happened. My skin looks fabulous now that I’m not dehydrated from the alcohol so I’ll be happy with that. My backside is widening and I am sober. I loved it when Belle said in the sober jumpstart, “Sobriety First. Everything else second”. I will lose the weight but for now I am focusing only on my sobriety.

  4. Hooray for all the 50-100-200 daysers!
    Here another surprised woman who did’nt lose much weight while before taking in a bottle of wine/some beers a day and eating a lot of unhealty food like crips with it. But now I am eating more coockies etc. and finally (30 something days) I really begin to look so much better: face less puffy, beer/wine belly a bit flatter, eyes clearer etc. Not only weight is important, also how you feel/look. And not drinking I do more yoga, nordic walking etc. so suppose (and feel) some fat must have changed to muscle and that’s a very good thing to happen. When you start to exercise more it will happen, I’m sure. Just keep up the good spirit, 6/7 days is early days 😉
    Love, N.Maya

  5. I’m down a few lbs. (Day35) but I have awoken my ice cream addiction so I’m sure that will change. I feel so much better and my face is not a puffy mess. The energy and clear headedness are worth it. I was beginning to think I had a memory problem. That was all I needed a wine AND memory problem !! So, one down, one to go…hee… hee…

  6. I am on day 20 and crave sweet things all the time,I never used to when i drank , it has started to lessen in the past few days so hopefully weight loss will follow. Today has been a bit anxious but i am drinking my cups of tea and looking forward to day 21, this site is a godsend

  7. The weight issue is becoming a huge issue for me. Would love to hear from others who passed through this when they were well into their sobriety. At least over 90/120 days I believe. Thankyou. 54 days sober. And yes, this site IS a godsend. x

    1. Julie,

      I am on day 265, and the weight is coming off. But it didn’t start right away, and I was rather bummed about that. But I think the internal systems, especially the liver, need time to fully rebound before they can best serve us.
      In early sobriety I was eating a lot of homemade chocolate pudding as my sober treat. Oh it was so good, warm and luscious, a comfort food from my childhood. And back in the early days you couldn’t have given me a mango as a treat. I surely rolled my eyes at that notion.

      As time moved on my need for a sweet fix dimished – maybe around month 7. I still wanted them, but not so much. By month 9 I had no sugar cravings. My chemist neighbor tells me I fixed my gut balance . I don’t know much about that.

      Now I have my sweet treat on the weekend to appease Wolfie, so I don’t feel deprived. Now I enjoy some luscious fruit as a treat, or an avocado, or herbal tea, or a BeKind bar, or a yoga class, or flowers, or a movie.

      Early on I read both of Jason Vale’s books – one on stopping drinking, the other on stopping sugar. They both helped. I didn’t know if or when I would give up sugar. I’m happy that my body let it go rather than having to do so by will power.

      I’m down 20 pounds with minimal effort.

      Give it time, focus more on health choices, and remember as Belle says – sobriety first, the rest will come.

      Kitkatpaddywack

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