When Tiffany reached day 100, she sent me this message:
“For the most part, once I really faced the fact that I needed to do this, it’s gone fairly smoothly. Several things have helped:
1. Following your blog of course and your email support.
2. I think the single best piece of advice I have gleaned from you is “you can always go to bed early.” Luckily, my son is old enough where that is true – I can just bow out, and say to my husband and son, I am going upstairs to read or take a bath or I am going to bed early. This really helps because I have come to realize I am a prickly person, and super sensitive to sounds, etc. So when I’m feeling hemmed in, or the noises are bothering me, or I’m just plain irritated and stressed, I used to head for the wine bottle. But removing myself from the situation and getting a good night’s sleep is the miracle cure. I always feel better in the morning.
3. My drink of choice when I’m out or want a treat at night is grapefruit juice and soda. Love it.
4. The best part is I am not racked with self loathing and I feel like I have the mental capacity to really stop and think about problems or emotional issues. I was so tired and hung over most of the time before I used to be reaction mode all the time. I think it’s been better for my family for sure – even if they get the full on cranky me sometimes. Though let’s be honest they got that before when I was hungover or hating myself!
5. I am getting a lot done. Still not enough hours in the day, though. I have a busy, growing business and a full family life. There’s no way I can do what I need to if I’m lagging everyday.
6. My sleep has been glorious – a full 8 hours every night – no night sweats, no bathroom runs, no tossing and turning and wine sick stomach. I have to travel for work, and not drinking has helped so much. Even when I’m crazy busy on a crazy pace, if I get a good night sleep, I am ready to go the next morning.
7. The other thing that has really helped in social situations and work situations – I work in an industry that is super hard partying – is that I have tapped into my contrarian nature. There have been a few awkward moments when people tried to pressure me into drinking. Once I realized I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks, it set me free. I really don’t. Screw them. I know this is best for me and I don’t need to follow the herd.
8. I’ve had a few cravings or thoughts along the way, but realize it’s just a thought and it will pass. Also, I talk back to the thought – Drinking would be a very bad idea, I know exactly where it will end, and it isn’t a pretty place.
9. I wish I could say the weight has fallen off. It hasn’t at all. I have not been a diet hawk because I don’t have the energy. Also, I am not striving for perfection. How I am is good enough, especially with not drinking, and not drinking is No. 1 priority.
10. Lastly, in my mind, I stopped counting days (just after day 30 or so). I just tried to move on, and think this is my life now. So I totally plan to stay this way forever. Life is so much better, and I am living it more now, warts and all. But I am so happy you let me know I reached 100. I am proud of myself!!
Good work and thank you for everything! Totally ready for team 180, team 365 and beyond!” ~ Tiffany (now on day 107!)