Tired of Thinking About Drinking

“This makes quitting much more fun”

From me:

The last weekend of summer. I’m thankfully not feeling as shitty about summer as I did last year. This is my second sober summer, and hooray it’s much easier now 🙂 I’ve had a relaxed and busy and fun and exciting summer all rolled into one hot and sunny bundle. First and foremost, being the sun-whore that I am, the best part has been the (unusually) good weather for this part of Europe. Really really nice. I haven’t had to wear socks for months (this is my definition of good-times)!

I’ve also been super busy with catering, but in a good way. I’ve been hired to cater a wedding in the Fall and now that I’ve lined up some help (duh!) I feel prepared and capable.  Parallels with support for catering and support for sobriety? Yeah, Belle. Stop trying to do it yourself. Ask for help. Accept help. Don’t just collect tools for the toolbox. Actually USE the tools. Again, duh.  (All I did was email 3 people and asked if they’d volunteer to help me with the wedding food prep, and in return i offered to pay them with food.  All three people said yes, and one volunteered to take a paid vacation day, and come spend 14 hrs with me on the day before the event.  She OFFERED this. Let me say it again, because I’m speaking to myself here:  Ask for help, and then accept the help. STOP flailing around in the dark.)

I’ve also decided (finally) to phase out Job #2 entirely. I’ve been walking around this for a while, but now I’m ready to do it.  The fear I had about losing the potential of what could have been has left me. I spent a lot of time and money trying to get Job #2 to work and it never really did.  It earned some money, but never in relation to the sheer effort expended. I bought a lot of expensive training, I tried different ‘revenue streams’ and a bunch of other internet marketing bullshit. It just did not work well enough. The ‘big payoff that’s just around the corner’ never came. I learned A TON, I have a a bunch of excellent training that I can now apply to something new. And I’m finished trying to push a truck uphill (which is what this job felt like from the beginning). Last night I started to write my “i’m closing this company” email that I’ll send out to the clients/prospects, and it was all i could do to NOT press send right away. Yes, I’ll wait until after the long weekend, or it’s going to get lost in people’s inboxes. Today I feel relief. While this Job #2 has a very large prospect/mailing list of people who’ve opted in for ‘more information’, the actual client list is very small. Ten people will email to say “sorry to hear your news.” And one single person may really be freaked that I’m shutting it down.  I’m OK with this. She can visit me when she’s in town and I’ll take her for tea.

When I send the email to Job #2 on Thursday next week, I’m going out for dinner to celebrate.  It’s also my wedding anniversary (Sept 5).  I’m going to celebrate big time. Bring on the American burgers! And the sparkling water! This girl knows how to par-tay!

From my inbox:

Ella (day 29):   Thanks again [for being my sober penpal].  This makes quitting much more fun.  I’ve had enough crappy, dreary quits to last me a lifetime.

TheRealMe (10): I’m an almost-40-year-old mom who is finally ready to give my poor mind and body a break from 25 years of binge drinking. I am tired of drinking and tired of thinking about drinking. Tired of being the shitty mom who cares more about the glass (bottle) of wine I get to have after work than seeing my kids. Tired of needing 2 or 3 drinks before the drinking occasion just to “get ready” … Tired of alcohol taking up so much damn space in my brain!!! I don’t even know who I am — I don’t know how to feel my emotions and I really don’t like myself at all right now. I want the second half of my life to be real and I know that quitting drinking is the only way to achieve that. Thanks for listening and adding me to your 100 day challenge!

C How (70): I am starting to feel bits of a new me … I actually got up at 6 a.m. this morning to make an 8 a.m. “horseback riding for fitness” class — an 8 a.m. fitness class is definitely another first for me LOL — I haven’t scheduled anything before 9 or 10 a.m. in probably 20 years 🙂

Quill (19): Shit! Cravings. Long-lasting and insistent, like a sore tooth. It’s half wanting to drink because I want to drink so I can stop thinking about drinking, and half longing for just a little numbness, just the edge off, just the blurring of the sharper parts of tonight’s sad mood. But I’m not going to drink, just out of sheer inability to believe in the urgency. Like a kid who’s stopped believing in Santa Claus, or when you discover something gross and mean about your crush and can’t remember anymore why you found her attractive. My cravings want me to think I’ll implode without alcohol but I know I won’t. I know I can sit here and be fucking miserable as shit until I fall asleep and the world will keep turning and I’ll wake up sober …  I’d love a drink. But it’s just so … dumb. I can’t even fake belief in something that obviously ludicrous. So I’ll email you, to get it out of my head, and I’ll eat some strawberry ice cream and watch TV and finish a load of laundry, and I’ll be sadder than I would if I were drunk, but I’ll wake up sober, and tonight will be safe and untouchable in the books.

Read Blog Posts in Order: 

I’ve put together a collection of my blog posts, in chronological order, so you can see where i was on day 18 and see if it’s like where you are! You can order order the collected PDF file here.

Team 100:

228 members, welcome to Jules (5), Nic (4), DianeLouise (5), Ella (29), and Jo (8).  Happy days to KristinRecovering, she’s on Day 100 today 🙂  Say hello to Rose Garden (35), MC (19), MaryPatricia (50), Spencer (22), Liberte (15), Beckie (61), Irish Eileen (115), Olivia (40), Pete (58), KC (70), Sarita (71), runningfromthebooze (75), Camla (91), Lex (16), Rebecca (160), and Leah & Elle are both 110.

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3 thoughts on ““This makes quitting much more fun”

  1. I love reading those notes from your inbox. It never ceases to surprise me to read people’s messages about how they are feeling about alcohol and how it relates to my feelings about it. They are truly the same from all around the world aren’t they?
    We are all so tired of thinking about it and letting it invade our lives the way it does. I can’t wait until it gets easier!
    Jen
    Day 14! Two freegin weeks! Yay!

    • Sarita on said:

      I’m with you Jen. I feel like this forum works better for me than the meetings in my city b/c it’s made me realize that “we” are everywhere all over the world and I’m not alone in any way, shape or form.

      It’s made me feel less sorry for myself in some ways too, I think. I feel more optimistic in general b/c I know Belle and others here are so much happier and life is less about denying myself BOOZE and more about enjoying life on the other side.

      I’ve now faced: my family and their boozing and judgment about NOT boozing, a huge party of drinking w/ great friends, a concert where booze was flowing by and I was actually THIRSTY, buying booze for a function, dinner out w/ a boozing friend, and of course my evenings after a hard day of work – ALL SOBER.

      It’s easier than the many times I quit before, but I must admit I LIVE for these posts and people’s comments. It really helps to stay connected and to feel us all around you doing the same thing! Best of luck. Sarita (71)

  2. Hi Belle,
    So glad to hear that you had an improved Summer it’s always great to hear that things improve, get better, are easier.
    Good on you for sorting out what you really want workwise too, I think that whatever it was, if it wasn’t sober coaching, you were wasted!
    Great to read all of the Team 100 members feedback. Every story has relevance somewhere. I love them all!
    C x

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