What do you think about this?
JM (day 153): I’ve been thinking a lot about the differences between ‘giving up’ alcohol and ’embracing a sober life’. I tend to think that even for people with no addiction to booze there is that buzz from drinking that is intended to adjust your perception of life. Either to pep you up if you are low/tired or to enhance if you are feeling celebratory. It’s like in both cases life itself isn’t quite enough without the drug. For problem drinkers like us this obviously also becomes a habit – we drink because we drink so we drink. In no way do we work on our life to make sure that we can create our own pep ups or enhancements through other actions. The question is “would you go back to drinking if you were cast iron guaranteed to react to it like a ‘normal’ person?”.
Belle: I suppose I would go back to drinking if I was a normie. if I could have a drink here and there, half a dozen times a year, when it seemed appropriate, and if it didn’t occur to me/obsess my poor brain the rest of the time. Yes, I probably would. That said, now that I’m sober more than a year, I easily see the cost/benefit analysis of sobriety, and it’s huge. There’s no comparison. Like you say, we work on our lives, we live life without a filter, and we (finally) learn to develop new/better habits that are supportive rather than destructive. I pick sobriety every day, continuously. Would I like to drink? Sure. But I NEVER want to quit again (it was grim) and I never want to feel stuck/bad/guilty/shameful again. So I pick this. I think there’s a choice to be made, and I pick “what’s better for me” rather than “boozing because everybody else does.”
And can imagine how totally lovely it is to receive this in my inbox:
Kay (day 27): I have been trying for 3 years to quit drinking. I have tried many, many different things to help myself, but nothing was working. Joining your 100 Day Challenge and taking your Sober Jumpstart class are working for me so far — something about your practical advice and HEARING your voice in the audios and the phone call at the end of the class clicks with me. You get me, you get the struggle, you get my husband’s refusal to discuss this and you have lots of advice about how to overcome the hurdles. You’re very generous with your time; it’s still amazing to me how you are willing to give your time and be a sober penpal to so many strangers all over the globe! You’ve given me hope, something I’m not sure I had before. Thank you.
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